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    Default Need critique please.

    Met this girl (HB 8) at a bar last week and got her number along with a k-close. Been texting her over the past week, but things never seemed to take off. Would love some critique (and I mean please be harsh!) in terms of what I did wrong. I'm not very good with texting and am trying to learn.

    Me: Prince Charming
    Her: Lmao hey
    Me: Where did you flee to!?
    Her: Lol I'm sorry I got pretty drunk last night
    Me: Haha, I've just started functioning again. Good night!?
    Her: Lol ya drank a little too much though
    Me: Tell me about it. Hilarity ensued after you left. Was good meeting you though, you seemed pretty cool
    Her: Aw thank you, you too!
    Me: Of course you could be Patrick Bateman crazy, who knows haha
    *No response for a 4-5 days*
    Me: Hey you've been absent. I figured you were in jail and tried to smuggle you a key but you weren't there.
    Her: Lol no sorry its been a crazy week with midterms and such
    Me: You owe me for trying to break you out though. Therefore you're going to take me to a fancy dinner at a McD's with the playland.
    Her: Is that so?
    Me: Absolutely. Of course you could cook for me but I don't know your abilities. I don't want to show up for microwaved steak
    Her: Haaha ya that's not my style
    Me: So you do have a style
    Her: What are you trying to say?
    Me: Lol. That was a joke miss history. I thought I was being cute and funny, I guess I was just being cute.
    *no reply*

    Deleted her number and already forgot about her, so I'm not looking for a way to salvage. Just trying to learn from my mistakes. Cheers guys!

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    Default Re: Need critique please.

    The first mistake has to do with texting..I don't advice anyone to build emotional connection over text..I mean think about it..emotional connection is being built face to face..Texting is just to stay in touch before meeting again..so with that in mind, this means you must be brief and keep your text short and non-needy..lets look at the last text you sent her...Here you did not provide enough convo hooks to sustain convo and it died..another rule when texting is to always end convo first. Think about it.
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    Default Re: Need critique please.

    good advice above. You build attraction and connection in person. Texting is primarily to arrange meeting again, and if there is a necessary longer time gap then it is secondarily just to keep you in her mind until you can meet her again. You hinted at meeting again, but made it too jokey, and then when she didn't accept the offer (not surprising because it was not a serious offer) you did not go in for the kill with a serious suggestion. If i was you I would move much faster to a sensible suggestion about meeting for drinks very soon after the first meeting. Do not try to use texts as a method of getting validation that she likes you, which is a big mistake a lot of guys make.
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    Default Re: Need critique please.

    Quote Originally Posted by vladd148 View Post
    Met this girl (HB 8) at a bar last week and got her number along with a k-close. Been texting her over the past week, but things never seemed to take off. Would love some critique (and I mean please be harsh!) in terms of what I did wrong. I'm not very good with texting and am trying to learn.

    Me: Prince Charming
    //// You're using a nickname for yourself that she obviously knows. It's even better if you give her a nickname and use it. ////

    Her: Lmao hey
    Me: Where did you flee to!?
    Her: Lol I'm sorry I got pretty drunk last night
    Me: Haha, I've just started functioning again. Good night!?
    Her: Lol ya drank a little too much though

    //// - This is where you should have asked her to do something directly. "Lets grab drinks - What's your schedule this week ?" ////

    Me: Tell me about it. Hilarity ensued after you left. Was good meeting you though, you seemed pretty cool

    ////You are breaking rapport with her by saying "she seemed pretty cool" - this is unnecessary, she is already showing that she likes you. This is Over Gaming her. ////

    Her: Aw thank you, you too! //// She definitely Likes you! ///

    Me: Of course you could be Patrick Bateman crazy, who knows haha
    *No response for a 4-5 days*
    /// Now you have just insulted her by calling her crazy. At this point she should have no intention of talking to you again. She is also wondering why you were not getting to the point by asking her out ////

    Me: Hey you've been absent. I figured you were in jail and tried to smuggle you a key but you weren't there.
    Her: Lol no sorry its been a crazy week with midterms and such
    /// Since you made it playful, she responds, but you are deep in recovery mode at this point. ////

    Me: You owe me for trying to break you out though. Therefore you're going to take me to a fancy dinner at a McD's with the playland.
    //// You are definitely being Cocky here, but I don't think she is feeling the Funny so much. You are still trying to build more attraction and this is coming off as insecure. ////

    Her: Is that so?

    Me: Absolutely. Of course you could cook for me but I don't know your abilities. I don't want to show up for microwaved steak
    //// You are insulting her again. Amazingly she is still responding. You are not getting to the point of a meetup. ////

    Her: Haaha ya that's not my style
    Me: So you do have a style //// Another insult and you are not building any comfort afterwards. ////

    Her: What are you trying to say?

    Me: Lol. That was a joke miss history. I thought I was being cute and funny, I guess I was just being cute.
    *no reply*
    //// Now you are attempting to build comfort, but you are supplicating to her because you went too far and you know it. You've lost the battle because you came off as an arrogant and insulting guy that wasn't offering any value. I think she was way nicer to you than most girls would have been. ////

    Deleted her number and already forgot about her, so I'm not looking for a way to salvage. Just trying to learn from my mistakes. Cheers guys!
    My feedback is between the //// four slashes //// above.

    I think you did a really Great job at building attraction with her in person and this kept this thread going longer than it should have. You need to quickly suggest a meetup and give her an opportunity to let you know her availability. Keep all of the attraction building and comfort for the times that you are actually together in person. Just a few tweaks to what you are doing and you should be Golden.

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    Default Re: Need critique please.

    Cool, thank you for the advice guys, much appreciated! So you are suggesting to use texting just to set up meetups? A lot of the advice I have read here seems to suggest using texting to build comfort.


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