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    Artfulmove Guest

    Default Emailing the GF abroad

    How do you do it? My gf's away for a month in the Philipines and pretty much the only way to keep in contact during this time will be via email. I've asked her to email me while she's away, but if she doesn't within say the first week, should I initiate it? And also, what should the email have in terms of content? Should I make them short and to the point, or longish? Should I talk about myself a lot and make it out that I'm having a cool time without her, or should I stick just to asking her how her trip's going?

    It kinda just struck me that communicating soley by messaging for a whole month is quite a significant thing to take into consideration. I'm not saying that if I say something 'wrong', it will end the relationship, but I can definitely see the opportunity to make her think more highly of me through what I'm messaging her, and I sure want that to happen if it's possible. So I thought I'd pop on here for some help on the same girl for the second time this month, and see if I can get anything out of it! Cheers.

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    Default Re: Emailing the GF abroad

    Dude, what the fark? Why do you have to be so needy? Ignore her ass and go have fun. Why haven't you gotten this through your skull yet? Christ, Bill told you exactly how to treat this, he wrote out a long and extensive post with a perfect plan, and you didn't do it did you? So just forget it man, here is the e-mail you send her, "I am needy and have low value, break up with me so that I can spend the next 2 years crying about it and you can occasionally use me as an ego booster."
    Last edited by Instinct; 12-20-2009 at 06:46 AM.

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    Default Re: Emailing the GF abroad

    Tough love... but I checked his other thread and he needs it from us. REP+++

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    Default Re: Emailing the GF abroad

    Quote Originally Posted by Artfulmove View Post
    How do you do it? My gf's away for a month in the Philipines and pretty much the only way to keep in contact during this time will be via email. I've asked her to email me while she's away, but if she doesn't within say the first week, should I initiate it? And also, what should the email have in terms of content? Should I make them short and to the point, or longish? Should I talk about myself a lot and make it out that I'm having a cool time without her, or should I stick just to asking her how her trip's going?

    It kinda just struck me that communicating soley by messaging for a whole month is quite a significant thing to take into consideration. I'm not saying that if I say something 'wrong', it will end the relationship, but I can definitely see the opportunity to make her think more highly of me through what I'm messaging her, and I sure want that to happen if it's possible. So I thought I'd pop on here for some help on the same girl for the second time this month, and see if I can get anything out of it! Cheers.
    Try to wait for a couple of weeks, maybe two, before you email her. For sure, she will send you some emails within a week after her departure. I understand your feelings for your girl but it's not the end of you as a man and a person when your gf is not with you. It's pretty tough though to be apart from your girl especially if you already have a strong bond. Try to enjoy. Hang out with your friends and meet other girls.

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    Default Re: Emailing the GF abroad

    I didn't read the other thread but if I was your gf, I'd expect some questions as to what's keeping me busy, or what's interesting where I am in general. I'd also expect some updates as to what you've been up to, or what's up with our friends. I'd expect "i miss you's" and "i love you's" and maybe one or two pics. Frequency of exchanges will both depend on how much fun you guys are having separately.

    It sounds to me she's really important to you but it's also weird why you're making an issue out of it. She's already your gf, surely you can be mushy and cheesy with her as you please.

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    Default Re: Emailing the GF abroad

    Quote Originally Posted by Instinct View Post
    Dude, what the fark? Why do you have to be so needy? Ignore her ass and go have fun. Why haven't you gotten this through your skull yet? Christ, Bill told you exactly how to treat this, he wrote out a long and extensive post with a perfect plan, and you didn't do it did you? So just forget it man, here is the e-mail you send her, "I am needy and have low value, break up with me so that I can spend the next 2 years crying about it and you can occasionally use my as an ego booster."

    Yeah thanks mate. Look I didn't even bring up the other thread, I just mentioned how it was the same girl. It's not that I havn't taken any advice on board, because I have. You know absolutely NOTHING about me, her, or our life situations, and as I mentioned in the other thread, it's too complicated for me to discuss or even attempt to explain them. I have every right in the world to post something on such a forum, especially when it is perfectly related to the topic.

    I am not being needy, and I havn't ignored Bill's adivce. I wasn't sure whether to discuss this in the other thread, or start a new one, but either way I thought there'd be no harm in asking as it's an interesting, and potentially crucial aspect to the game.

    I'm no PUA. I've read 'The Game' once through, and only just stubled across this forum. So as you can probably gather, I'm still fairly new to it all. I needed advice, so I came here for help. I fail to see anthing wrong with that.

    Look, I can see how someone like you who knows a lot about the Game would find reading a thread like this frustrating, but chill out man, I'm just asking for some extra help on the situation - a situation which I didn't bring up in this thread precisley because I knew this would happen. In fact, forget the last thread, I've read all the posts from it and certainly taken on the advice that's been given, but all I'm asking here is if anyone knew of any ways in which best to email a girl you're seeing.

    Sure I'm not going to be constantly thinking about her, and I am going to have fun without her, in fact, I already am doing those things, so you're wrong there, but what if she does email? Then wouldn't it be useful to know what to write and how to word what I'm saying? That's why I made this thread. I don't see what's so bad about that.

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    Default Re: Emailing the GF abroad

    Quote Originally Posted by Bare_Legs View Post
    I didn't read the other thread but if I was your gf, I'd expect some questions as to what's keeping me busy, or what's interesting where I am in general. I'd also expect some updates as to what you've been up to, or what's up with our friends. I'd expect "i miss you's" and "i love you's" and maybe one or two pics. Frequency of exchanges will both depend on how much fun you guys are having separately.

    It sounds to me she's really important to you but it's also weird why you're making an issue out of it. She's already your gf, surely you can be mushy and cheesy with her as you please.
    Cheers for the post. Yeah, don't even bother reading the other thread, but basically things had been a little tense, and I just wondered if there were ways to secure the relationship even through email.

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    Default Re: Emailing the GF abroad

    Things had been a little tense before she left... and you worry that the time apart will just seal the deal and result in a breakup? Hmmm.

    Well, if you really like her, then I guess you should pray she doesn't meet anybody interesting there to push her towards a breakup. And use the time apart to think what's going wrong about the relationship.

    Oh, and the only thing I know of that can probably secure the relationship is e-mailing her something like, "Things have been a little tense between us lately. Just want you to know that I still care. Let's talk when you get back. Take care and miss you."

    But again, if things were already bad in the first place, no amount of e-mail can save it.

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    Default Re: Emailing the GF abroad

    Although frequent communication in a long distance relationship is important, then why should you seem to bother communicating with her. I guess you just missed her.

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    Default Re: Emailing the GF abroad

    I think part of Instinct's frustration is he was probably in a similar situation and after having gone through it an analyzing it.. he now knows what HE should have done and he is frustrated that he didn't do the 'right' thing. So he is now venting his frustration at himself in the past, onto you.

    At least that is what I am feeling when I get frustrated with guys doing the 'wrong' thing.

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