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Thread: Wanting a female friend who has live in LTR?

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    Default Wanting a female friend who has live in LTR?

    Morally objectionable I know but looking for some advice. I've known this girl for a few weeks, got talking via a dating website but just chatting as she was listed as already taken and just looking for friends. I'd say she was a HB7 Brunette (sorry still trying to get to grips with all the terms).

    She mentioned once that she lived with a boyfriend but hasn't mentioned him since. We're talking every day at the moment, though I'm varying the amount of time it takes to reply so as to not seem predictable, making her laugh, and doing the push/pull thing I've read about. We've exchanged numbers and I'm pretty convinced she's interested.

    I know morally I shouldn't but any advice on how to proceed would be appreciated...

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    Default Re: Wanting a female friend who has live in LTR?

    She lives with her boyfriend? Find another girl. there's no shortage of women out there last time I checked.

    I never understood why guys feel the need to do this, it's pretty pathetic in my opinion.

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    Default Re: Wanting a female friend who has live in LTR?

    You're entitled to your opinion and I'm sure there is no shortage of women but I don't find it easy to meet women at all. Hence why I'm here.

    If it wasn't clear and my apologies for it, is I'm not entirely convinced she has a boyfriend... surely it would have come up more than once in conversation by now? That's what I mean.

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    Default Re: Wanting a female friend who has live in LTR?

    Quote Originally Posted by Vidar View Post
    as she was listed as already taken and just looking for friends.
    That's the part that makes me think she's not lying about the boyfriend.

    You're right it is absolutely just my opinion, but we've all had gf's and we all know how shitty it would be to find out if she was on a dating website to begin with. I usually just stay away from girls that claim to have boyfriends, even if I do think they're just using it as a shit test or a front. I don't have time for games, and out of my own personal moral obligation I choose to leave girls with boyfriends alone.

    That said, if you want to find out if she really has a boyfriend, just pursue this as you would with any other girl. You have her phone number so gradually push it forward to setting up a date.. When you're with her in person you should be able to tell whether she was full of shit about it or not, but honestly, by that point she probably will have already told you.

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    Default Re: Wanting a female friend who has live in LTR?

    Hey Vidar,

    As someone who is also working on a girl who is in a LTR (2 years & lives with her bf), I have to echo what the other guys are saying before you make a decision to cross the morale line. However, the girl I'm working on I see 3 to 4 times a week at dance class for the past 4 months and I have a very good picture of how she is as a person before I made my choice.

    Take caution. In your situation, you can't really say she is so incredible that you are willing to cross that morale line without even having met her. I've met girls while playing online video games in the past. And trust me when I say that words on chat does not equal what you get in person.

    You don't know how she really is as a person yet to even come up with a sound decision. You can't even do a cold read on her. There could be red flags all over that you would sense by being in her actual presence, sensing her vibe and body language.

    And next time a girl says "He's not perfect." You follow up and ask "Why?" That's the whole idea with the BF destroyer technique (aka strawman fallacy) is to set her up into saying why he is not perfect (hopefully touching upon the 5 things a LTR suffers from) so you know what angle to attack from.

    But a girl in a 10 year ltr relationship living together is practically almost as if she were married. Realistically, you are in for a super long game, as you can't expect her to just up and leave her guy for someone she knew for a few months after all that time invested. If it were that easy then 1) you are a world class seducer and I should be going to you for help or 2) you need to question a girl's fidelity if she was that easy.


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