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    Default Keeping her interested and building rapport through text?

    So last weekend i was home-home at my rents house for Thanksgiving and met this girl on friday night at a bar. She's a senior in a state college who is also from the same town, we actually went to the same school, i just graduated a few years ago. I got her number, we texted all day saturday and then we met up for coffee on sunday before i left to go home. Our first little date for coffee went well, we talked about everything for about an hour and a half, no awkward pauses, lotta laughs.

    I've been texting her this week on and off and the conversations have gone well but her responses are super random, sometimes she hits me right back, other times it'll be a full day before she hits me up. I like to think my text game is pretty good, i take my time texting her back, sometimes making her wait a day too. She always apologizes saying shes busy with finals, which could be.. not really sure. I wont see this girl for at least another 2 weeks. I need to figure out a way to keep in touch and keep the 'flame' going, but its hard to do when you only text for a 20 minute session once a day.

    Ideas on what to do next? Keep texting? Call her? Buy a puppy and head to the park?

    Thanks guys!

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    Default Re: Keeping her interested and building rapport through text?

    Probably call her, that's a huge thing if you want to build rapport but you have to be very good at conversations when on the phone or she will easily get bored. A thing to remember about phone game is to always end the phone call on a high energy when she is having fun and smiling so whenever she thinks of to she'll remember how you made her feel during the phone call
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    Default Re: Keeping her interested and building rapport through text?

    I agree with Marvilo. Think of texting as a bridge between getting her number and getting her on the phone. It seems a lot of guys tend to get stuck in text game and almost lose sight of what their objective should be: To set up a day two or date. When you are texting her, keep the conversation light with humour and banter. Do not ask her boring questions and try not to send more than one msg at a time. Mirror her investment. If she takes 2 hours to respond, do the same or longer. After a few text exchanges, I will just call her. Women are a lot less likely to flake if they are willing to invest time on the phone with you. It's hard to build any kind of comfort over texting.

    However, I've encountered women that didn't like talking over the phone and much rather preferred texting. In situations like these when they don't pick up, wait a day or two and resume texting and still push for the meetup. Just don't get stuck in textual grab-ass and text everyday for weeks without actually meeting up.

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    Default Re: Keeping her interested and building rapport through text?

    From my experience, texting varies from women to women. Some are voracious texters and some aren't. So don't use that as a measure of their interest.

    The girl I'm currently working on always responds to my texts and fb pm, but never initiated text (at least on a new topic). However, we don't have conversations longer than 4 exchanges and sometimes her response also can take as long as hours to a day. It is usually because she is busy or gets so many texts she responds to all of them at once. I'm certain she gets tons of texts, but the fact she always responds is something I'm grateful for. My situation is similar to yours, except normally I see her 3 to 4 times a week, but soon I will not see her for a month as I leave for a trip back home. So I will be in the same boat as you and need to resort to a phone/text game to maintain attraction.

    One thing that is certain is if a girl initiates text, it's a damn good indicator of a strong interest. It means you are on the top of her mind in the midst of her usual routine day.

    Communication via texting is usually regarded as a 3rd tier form to generating/maintaining attraction. From my knowledge, it goes something like email --> texting --> phone call --> in person.

    So in your case, I would mix it up and call. But when you do call, make certain you have a plan and there is a goal/reason behind it (such as setting a 2nd date) or as Marvilo said be very good at conversation to generate attraction.


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