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Thread: Girl gave number but refuses to speak on the phone...

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    Default Girl gave number but refuses to speak on the phone...

    ...until Thursday?

    So I get this HB6's number, we've been texting regularly and I've been following what I've learned so far... keeping messages the same length as hers, not using emoticons or haha at the end of every text, telling her what I want and generally getting her to qualify to me.

    So I told her I was going to phone her tonight, she told me not to, that there is no real reason why but she'd just prefer Thursday. I told her I had plans then but she jokingly insisted I make time then.

    Anyway I told her as I said I would I'm going to phone tonight and I did, but she didn't answer, so I've tried negging her a little and again getting her to qualify to me but she is insistent about Thursday.

    What do you guys think, how is best to handle this?

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    Default Re: Girl gave number but refuses to speak on the phone...

    Umm...why do you need to phone her? First off, if she says not to phone until Thursday and you phone today you're setting yourself up for failure because of course she's not going to answer.

    Second, if she tells you not to phone until Thursday, there's no fucking way you should phone Thursday. Personally, I'd say fuck it and phone never, but that's me.

    Third, she probably doesn't want you phoning until Thursday because she's busy blowing some other guy. Hard to talk on the phone with your mouth full.

    Point being, she's playing you. Stop letting her play you. Set a date to meet up, if she say no or blows you off, freeze her out or just next her. I'd next her, but you won't. That's cool. So the plan: (1) offer date for meetup; (2) (a) if she accepts you're golden, tell her a place the day before or the day of the meetup, or (b) if she doesn't accept then just say that's cool and let it go and freeze her out.

    Side note: If she doesn't accept but offers a different date, do not accept that date. Tell her that it doesn't work for you and come back with another date. If that doesn't work for her either, then say you'll have to think about a day that works for you and let it go for a bit.
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    Default Re: Girl gave number but refuses to speak on the phone...

    To be honest I certainly am not going to be phoning on Thursday. I guess I just thought by my saying I would phone tonight I was demonstrating "I do what I say" but yes I do see your point and can now see what a chump move it was.

    The reason I wanted to phone was because we've talked about a date, she lives out of the city and with my limited means I'd need to stay over at her place, which she seems agreeable to but I just wanted to get to know her a little bit more and push her out of her comfort zone... Again I can see the mistake now, and won't be repeating it...

    I hate being such a noob (AFC?) at something but that's why I'm here...

    This stuff is a lot harder than I thought it would be...

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    Default Re: Girl gave number but refuses to speak on the phone...

    By saying that, you are really demonstrating that you want her permission about phoning. Just phone her. Don't tell her you are going to phone her. If she says no, you are just being foolish phoning anyhow. Then, she is going to be uncomfortable with you in person. Why does she want to go on a date with someone or go up to his place if he will not stop if she says "no" ??

    Also, focus on setting up a date. Texting with no purpose is one notch worse than masturbating.
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    Default Re: Girl gave number but refuses to speak on the phone...

    Again, thank you... I feel like a total tool now you've said that but I get it and can try to avoid making the same mistakes again.

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    Default Re: Girl gave number but refuses to speak on the phone...

    Don't get too down on yourself. The fact that you're recognizing the mistake and owning up to it is more than I can say about most guys on this forum. You'll be fine.
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