So I have been seeing this girl for about a month, gone on a handful of dates and at first was very against getting into a committed relationship with her, but what can I say, she won me over about a week ago and we decided to become official. Unfortunately, my lack of relationship experience has already caused a problem. She came over to my place for the first time last night and after just hanging out talking and watching a movie, we started making out pretty heavy. Now I am usually pretty aggressive when it comes to that point and start trying to escalate things after a couple minutes, however she is a virgin and she has given me a lot of mixed signals on how she feels about having sex so far, she claims that she wants to wait a while, which is fine. so I was not my usual self and I got a little awkward and nervous about should I or should I not just make the move and she definitely could tell something was up, it kinda ruined the vibe. She left about an hour later after talking and hanging out some more. On top of that I was being pretty AFC and clingy the whole night, because I actually have started to really like this girl, shes exactly my type looks and personality wise, and it has been a long time since I have had a girl friend.
Now before i go further, she was the one who wanted the relationship to begin with, she was really pushing for it for the past few weeks, and she thought I was a "player" since I was so reluctant. Like I said, I was really not trying to get into a relationship at first, but something about her got me to commit, whether its her looks, her personality, my inner AFC, or some combination of all that, she won me over for now.
So then I got a text today saying she thinks we may have jumped into the relationship too quickly and when I asked her what she meant she pretty much ignored me all day, I only sent 2 texts asking what was wrong, trying to get her to talk. Hours later on when she said she was sorry, that she was busy all day and she didnt mean to say that earlier, she just wants to slow things down a little bit. So what I am wondering is, do I do a Freeze Out and just give her space for a few days? Is it okay to freeze your gf out? I am worried that if I just dont talk to her at all for a few days, things will kind of stale out. I think my overall problem here was that once we became official I figured it was okay to stop gaming her, and I reverted back to some really bad AFC habits. What is the best way to proceed here? Could be the start of bad oneitis lol
Also, I want to thank the forums and all the guys on here for the advice that I have gotten from time to time. Everything that got me to even have this girl dating me at all was from concepts and ideas that I have gotten from here. From open to Number Close to getting her to be my gf (even if it ends up short lived lol) its all thanks to the forums and the reading material. Like I said earlier its the first gf I have had in a while and it would not have happened without the help i have gotten here. Hopefully down the road, I will be giving advice more often, rather than seeking it out.