Top 10 Stats
Latest Posts Loading... Loading...
Loading...
Loading...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Loading...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Page 2 of 2 FirstFirst 12
Results 11 to 19 of 19
Like Tree10Likes

Thread: Guys, am I being played?!

  1. #11
    LockDown's Avatar
    LockDown is offline PUA All Star
    Points: 7,026, Level: 55
    Level completed: 38%, Points required for next Level: 124
    Overall activity: 17.0%
    Achievements:
    Social5000 Experience Points31 days registered
    Join Date
    Aug 2012
    Posts
    873
    Points
    7,026
    Level
    55
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    332

    Default Re: Guys, am I being played?!

    You started a second thread for this girl???

    Bro you just proved my point about neediness.

    You got oneitis big time. No hope for you man. Your chasing something you can't have. She is an idea, not a person. You don't want her, you need her. Her attention is paramount to you. She is mount Everest and until you conquer her, you have no self worth.

    Get away from her. Stay away. For your own sake.
    Between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship.
    Oscar Wilde


  2. #12
    1chance's Avatar
    1chance is offline PUA in Training
    Points: 217, Level: 4
    Level completed: 34%, Points required for next Level: 33
    Overall activity: 30.0%
    Achievements:
    100 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Aug 2013
    Posts
    82
    Points
    217
    Level
    4
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    17

    Default Re: Guys, am I being played?!

    No. the thread was started to evaluate an opinion you made. to which i respect. Before I make any decisions in life i like to evaluate all options. It's the way im wired.

    You suspected I was being played. I wanted to see if the community thought that as well. I dont see what the issue is?

    Doctor tells you, you're cancer isn't curable....odds are you go to another doctor to get another opinion. Obviously cancer is incredibly more drastic. but BOTH opinions are completely respected.

    I've been involved with this girl for nearly a year. I think i'm entitled to weigh my options. This isnt a girl i met last week or even last month.

    Lockdown, I have nothing but respect for you. You're help has been much appreciated. But I think you're reading to deeply into my actions. (obsession, needing her, ect...).

    Which i'm assuming you got that impression with the updates I would post on the other thread (that i was "obsessing" over her). It's not like I was waiting around all day for this chick. i have a life. i work and i go to college full time. Just because i posted updates to further supply information on my situation doesnt mean I was sitting at home with a bag of chips waiting for a text.

    As for right now, I believe I have the answers i need. due to the guidance Ive received. Yes, i might have more questions in the future but please don't confuse my questions and confusion for obsession. I joined for help/guidance. not for a label.

  3. #13
    twentynine's Avatar
    twentynine is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 2,991, Level: 35
    Level completed: 61%, Points required for next Level: 59
    Overall activity: 10.0%
    Achievements:
    Social1000 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Nov 2013
    Location
    Canada
    Posts
    287
    Points
    2,991
    Level
    35
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    141

    Default Re: Guys, am I being played?!

    You already have a thread about this girl. That thread has about 60 replies on it, containing some the best advice I've seen on these forums.. Everything in there is gold in my opinion.

    I too believe this is a bad situation for you. I was the first guy to tell you I thought the whole thing was gonna take you down shit creek with no paddle and it has. I also told you how low your chances were with this girl and how shitty I think it is that you are trying to steal this guys serious girlfriend. I still believe it is and I'm not the only one, apparently.

    You need to understand that just because there are things like BF Destroyer techniques etc, that doesn't mean that PUA is about breaking up long term serious relationships and stealing guys girlfriends. I believe it's people that do this kind of shit that give our community a bad name.

    You HAVE become obsessed with this girl dude, and it's only gonna get more intense the longer you let it go on. No one is labelling you by saying this.

    You are her friend. She loves her boyfriend and even if they broke up tomorrow, do you really think she'd come running to you? Girls don't often go from one relationship straight to another even if that WAS in the cards. She will want to be single and meet people for a while.. Which means more waiting around and playing this mindless game for god knows how many more months. She likes the confidence boost she gets from knowing you care about her and are interested in her, and I don't think she'd be willing to sacrifice that by getting into a relationship with you, even if she did want it. That is nearly the definition of why guys end up in the friend zone.

    I'm sorry. You gave it a good run but at this point you need to hear this stuff flat out. Forget her, move on, and distance yourself from this situation. I've been there and so have most of the guys giving you the same advice that I am.

  4. #14
    LockDown's Avatar
    LockDown is offline PUA All Star
    Points: 7,026, Level: 55
    Level completed: 38%, Points required for next Level: 124
    Overall activity: 17.0%
    Achievements:
    Social5000 Experience Points31 days registered
    Join Date
    Aug 2012
    Posts
    873
    Points
    7,026
    Level
    55
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    332

    Default Re: Guys, am I being played?!

    @While I don't agree with a lot of what you said, I will say that I encourage a guy to pursue always. If it fails, you learn what it means to obssess and be bad with girls. Then, later you can tell when a girl is really into you. Sort of like calibration. So I ALWAYS encourage a guy to go for it. It does no one any good to just think negatively... I once had a MARRIED woman come up to me out of the blue (I barely knew her and hubby). I take it as her being friendly. Come to find out later that she had already been divorced when she approached me. And I failed to even ask how hubby was due to my own negativity. So I destroyed my own chances. Thats why I never tell guys not to pursue especially in the beginning. A woman who is in a relationship who doesn't stay with the guy is not going to magically screw you. It takes two to tango. It's her call in the end whether she values her man enough to stay with him.

    @iamchance... Dude you are proving me right with your last post. You are needy because you need us to.validate your life, your course of action. You need us to give you the secret formula to get her. You have stopped making decisions about her on your own. And most likely afraid of doing something to sour her relationship with you. Be a man. Make your decisions and live with them.

    You may think she will hate you forever but that is rarely the case. Even AFC behavior will be forgotten by her in 5 years lol. Good luck!!!
    Between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship.
    Oscar Wilde


  5. #15
    twentynine's Avatar
    twentynine is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 2,991, Level: 35
    Level completed: 61%, Points required for next Level: 59
    Overall activity: 10.0%
    Achievements:
    Social1000 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Nov 2013
    Location
    Canada
    Posts
    287
    Points
    2,991
    Level
    35
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    141

    Default Re: Guys, am I being played?!

    Everything I'm saying is, obviously, simply my own opinion. Don't get me wrong, though; If a married woman approaches me in a bar I'm not gonna tell her "sorry, you're married", I'll definitely delve into why she's even approaching me in the first place. I've made out with my share of married women on the dance floor!

    I don't think this situation is even mildly comparible to those ones, however.

  6. #16
    Swagman's Avatar
    Swagman is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 9,772, Level: 66
    Level completed: 31%, Points required for next Level: 278
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    Social5000 Experience Points31 days registered
    Join Date
    Jan 2013
    Location
    United States
    Posts
    844
    Points
    9,772
    Level
    66
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 2 Times in 2 Posts
    Rep Power
    437

    Default Re: Guys, am I being played?!

    Quote Originally Posted by LockDown View Post
    @While I don't agree with a lot of what you said, I will say that I encourage a guy to pursue always. If it fails, you learn what it means to obssess and be bad with girls. Then, later you can tell when a girl is really into you. Sort of like calibration. So I ALWAYS encourage a guy to go for it. It does no one any good to just think negatively... I once had a MARRIED woman come up to me out of the blue (I barely knew her and hubby). I take it as her being friendly. Come to find out later that she had already been divorced when she approached me. And I failed to even ask how hubby was due to my own negativity. So I destroyed my own chances. Thats why I never tell guys not to pursue especially in the beginning. A woman who is in a relationship who doesn't stay with the guy is not going to magically screw you. It takes two to tango. It's her call in the end whether she values her man enough to stay with him.
    I understand exactly where you are coming from Lockdown. I can't tell you how many times I've passed over a girl because I wasn't interested in her, and then latter on I looked back and said "Damn it, why didn't I go after her?". Of course, these sort of things fade into the background of my mind quite fast, but it leaves the same impact nonetheless. Every opportunity is what it is: an opportunity to get better or even find someone you never thought you would be compatible with.

    Quote Originally Posted by LockDown View Post
    @iamchance... Dude you are proving me right with your last post. You are needy because you need us to.validate your life, your course of action. You need us to give you the secret formula to get her. You have stopped making decisions about her on your own. And most likely afraid of doing something to sour her relationship with you. Be a man. Make your decisions and live with them.

    You may think she will hate you forever but that is rarely the case. Even AFC behavior will be forgotten by her in 5 years lol. Good luck!!!
    Once again, I agree with Lockdown on this. There is no special magic trick to getting any girl you want. It takes hard work and a lot of determination to transform yourself into the kind of man you want to be. You aren't getting anywhere constantly depending on the thoughts and opinions of others to dictate every action you're going to take with her.

    Do you know what I do when I need advice on a situation? I read books. That's right, I sit down at a desk, and I begin cranking out some major reading and studying. I whip open my entire collection of PUA books, and I also go even further by researching into my situation online and find anyone else who has the same problem. If you see me ask a question on the forums, it means that I either had a question about something I read, or it was that I could not find any information or answers to my situation.

    It's all being independent, my good sir. If you ride your bike with the training wheels on all the time, you will never learn how to ride it without any assistance.
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X

  7. #17
    1chance's Avatar
    1chance is offline PUA in Training
    Points: 217, Level: 4
    Level completed: 34%, Points required for next Level: 33
    Overall activity: 30.0%
    Achievements:
    100 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Aug 2013
    Posts
    82
    Points
    217
    Level
    4
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    17

    Default Re: Guys, am I being played?!

    @TwentyNine My intentions where never to break them up. EVER. I see myself as the better choice for her. again like others have said its up to her to make that choice. Right now she's happy with the 17 year old. thats fine. i respect that. i'm not dwelling on it. It was hard to accept that. but as of right now its the way the cookie has crumbled and who knows what could happen tomorrow.

    Also, as for if they do break up. I think its ridiculous to think by you're opinion she wouldnt come running to me. Shes wanted to hang out with me since day one. hell, she even set up an amazing date after i stoped asking about 3 months ago. but thats also when they're relationship began to develop more. She's also said not to long ago that if she met me before her boyfriend things would be different.

    I'm not sitting around waiting on her. if a HB10 comes up to me tonight and i'm into her, i'm not going to turn her down. I have a life.

    On the flipside I also want this chick we're currently talking about.

    @Lockdown Yeah man i guess you could say i'm being needy. I guess its because I dont know what else to do. which isnt the way i feel anymore. right now im kind of at peace with how things are going. She's happy I respect that. I want to stay in her life and stay relevant. relationships end everyday. I guess the hardest thing for me was trying to gauge what to do through a texting relationship. im a face to face person. i can read people really well. texting is something that i have difficulty finding where im at in my situation with this girl.

    I think i told you in the other thread but i did make a powermove in October. I basically told her that I see her as a close friend but i see her as more then that aswell. her reply was "If i had met you before (boyfriend), things would be different" Ill let you read into that as much as you want. And i appreciate you're guidance man and thanks for the luck.

    @Swagman you where the last bit of kick in the ass i needed. you're simple reply made me totally change my view. She's in a healthy relationship. i care about her. i'm glad shes in a healthy relationship. Right now im kind of loosening my grip on things and accepting it. I know im a better option for her even though i hate using option next to my name.

    My strategy from here on out is to remain relevant. if i dont hear from her over a week ill shoot her a text see how she is. My life has never stopped because of her. alll that happend is she was made a more important piece in it. who knows if im single and she's single in 2014 ill let you guys know and maybe we can all have a round of beers (figuratively speaking).

  8. #18
    Suave Kino's Avatar
    Suave Kino is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 12,701, Level: 73
    Level completed: 63%, Points required for next Level: 149
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    Social10000 Experience Points31 days registered
    Join Date
    Nov 2011
    Location
    Albuquerque, NM
    Posts
    612
    Points
    12,701
    Level
    73
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 2 Times in 2 Posts
    Rep Power
    542

    Default Re: Guys, am I being played?!

    Yes, you are being played...by you. hopefully that last post was the end of this saga.

  9. #19
    LockDown's Avatar
    LockDown is offline PUA All Star
    Points: 7,026, Level: 55
    Level completed: 38%, Points required for next Level: 124
    Overall activity: 17.0%
    Achievements:
    Social5000 Experience Points31 days registered
    Join Date
    Aug 2012
    Posts
    873
    Points
    7,026
    Level
    55
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    332

    Default Re: Guys, am I being played?!

    @swagman... Man I love your post. Mainly because you hit it in the head... People need to read more! That's how I made PU work for me... That's how I figure stuff out for myself... Asking on the forum should be the last result.

    Read. Try out what you read. Gauge success/failure. Read some more. Try again... Etc. It's not an easy cycle but it works.

    Man I should put this on my thread BLOG thing lol
    Between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship.
    Oscar Wilde



Page 2 of 2 FirstFirst 12

Similar Threads

  1. She is getting played, as am I, how do I approach this?
    By robpua48 in forum General Questions
    Replies: 0
    Last Thread: 03-20-2013, 09:44 PM
  2. Played again, you must read this.
    By mackdaddyjacK in forum Approaching, Running Sets & Building Attraction
    Replies: 2
    Last Thread: 02-18-2013, 12:00 AM
  3. Am I being played?
    By ep3 in forum Online And Text Game
    Replies: 4
    Last Thread: 01-28-2013, 12:00 AM
  4. Am I getting played?
    By Bravek in forum General Questions
    Replies: 4
    Last Thread: 12-24-2012, 12:35 AM
  5. Help!!! Im Getting Played
    By GucciNobou in forum Online And Text Game
    Replies: 1
    Last Thread: 10-28-2012, 11:08 PM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  
DMCA.com