Re: Dealing with GF Issues
Whoops, didn't mean to thank that post lol . Oh well, I guess it doesn't really matter.
Anyways, I can completely feel you man. I'm in a relationship as well, and I'm just not feeling it right now, but the girl satisfies all of my interests. Not sure what the deal is, but I'm working towards an answer right now.
By the sounds of it, this girl is either an idiot or she is straight up playing you right now. I read this, especially with the leadership part, and I'm getting angry, and she isn't even my girlfriend!
Here goes what your girlfriend is: she's one of those insecure princesses who likes to have guys chase after her, and rides the gravy train the whole time. Reading into her responses and actions, I doubt she's shy. She's just using it as an excuse to get you to invest more and be more flexible to her wants and needs.
It is possible to make someone commit and become attached to the relationship through sex. It all depends on whether you're pulling on the rope or not. It also depends on whether you can control your physical urges or not, because if you can't and she can, then she is clearly the winner.
All you really have to do to fix this is just abstain and withdraw. She thinks she has you chasing after her, but when she sees that you're not initiating the conversations, you aren't complimenting her, and you don't want sex anymore, then she will take notice. I would also recommend to stop apologizing to her as well. What in the world do you need to be sorry for? I've NEVER heard of someone having to apologize about flirting and teasing. Basically, your goal is to limit her sugar intake and ask for some back.
"There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X