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    Loup Guest

    Default Motivation problem

    When I came to this forum, I said to myself that I'll be observer only... However, I do have a problem, noone so far managed to help me, and even worse, people do not understand someone's ambition to become true PUA (by that I mean most people are wussies who think that this is SF).

    My problem is motivation, in fact, lack of it. For instance, I go out, I see a set, and though I'm attracted to some girls around, I still do not have a vision what do I want with them. To most people it's funny, because people would say "we all want sex with them", but to me (and some of my friends) it's a serious problem. I can't talk about reasons why do I have motivation problem, because me myself do not know either, it's simply lack of interest. I only ask if anyone here had the same crisis, how to get out of it and get back in the game.

    It's not fear on anything like that, I'm not gay, and often I open sets for my friends and I wing for them a bit to get them in.

    Thanks

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    Mystery_wannabe Guest

    Default Re: Motivation problem

    I think one down fall that we have as guys is we need a reason to do everything. I'm guilty of this myself and it's held me back with openings (even though I'm not that scared about opening).

    It's just that "what do I say?" and "where do I go from there?" that gets me. What if I told you that you didn't need to know where to go and just think of leading the girls into any topic that you think is interesting?

    You can also use the Ultimate Flirting thread to help you get some ideas

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    Default Re: Motivation problem

    I think we've all been where you are at.. but for me, I really started to enjoy being around women and appreciated the cool things about them - then approaching, flirting and generally vibing with women became really fun for me.

    So my motivation was about having a good time.

    Everyone's is different. Find yours.

    Here is that thread he was talking about:

    http://www.puaforums.com/how-flirt/2...ting-tips.html

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    Default Re: Motivation problem

    If you have no drive and passion, surely, you can't achieve anything. Try to determine first your goals. Maybe you are thinking hooking with with a girl will lead to a serious commitment. It is not like that. You have to enjoy first yourself being a man. I'm not saying go and fool girls. But enjoy yourself. I believe all guys would love to pick up girls. The only problem are the strategies and techniques to do so.

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    Loup Guest

    Default Re: Motivation problem

    thank you people

    Royalflash gave me a very good advice, ironically, I remember telling the same thing to my friends. Maybe I ended up in some magic loop where I do not know if I lost my interest because I'm not havig fun or I'm not having fun because I lost interest.

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    culturedpearls Guest

    Default Re: Motivation problem

    Take it one day at a time, dude. For tonight, do it because nothing's good on TV. Tomorrow, do it because you want a good laugh. Next night, do it for the sex. Following night, do it for the challenge. Next night after that, do it to impress friends. Big and small reasons, valid and silly motivations, use them all until you find your real reason for doing it, and be at home with it.

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    one of my friend's lost his motivation becaouse a girl,last weekend,we went out,and he opened a set,and had a solid game and pick up a 10,nex day he went out with the girl,and had a exelnt date,but the girl lost er interesting in my frind,and after that my friend lost his game and his motivation

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    Default Re: Motivation problem

    Quit jerkin off...you'll be an animal in no time

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    royalflash Guest

    Default Re: Motivation problem

    Quote Originally Posted by Loup View Post
    thank you people

    Royalflash gave me a very good advice, ironically, I remember telling the same thing to my friends. Maybe I ended up in some magic loop where I do not know if I lost my interest because I'm not havig fun or I'm not having fun because I lost interest.
    Good to hear that bro. I understand how you feel. I was once caught in a middle of no direction and drive. I didn't enjoy hanging out anymore with girls that I used to. I asked myself do I have to do this just for the sake of gaming or sex? Or I want to pick up girls for me to practice my skills and enhance my relationship with the opposite sex . And probably meet cool and beautiful girls...

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    Nubbi Guest

    Default Re: Motivation problem

    A friend once told me that in pick up, the more that you do, the more you want to do, and the less you do it, the greater loss of momentum. So just go out and do it man. You don't even have to take every girl home or get every girl for that matter. Do it for the fun of knowing girls!
    Last edited by Nubbi; 12-30-2009 at 05:31 AM.


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