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Thread: She gave an invalid number - Send her a Facebook message?

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    Default She gave an invalid number - Send her a Facebook message?

    So this Sunday I met a girl at a bar. Throughout the night she kept approaching me, or just standing in my general direction even if she had no purpose being there. After some dancing we made out. At last call I couldn't get her to come home with me, but she gave me her number and told me she wanted to hear from me, and continued kissing me afterwards.

    So I text her tonight, and immediately after I get a text from AT&T: "Error, invalid number." I'm assuming it didn't go through, so I tried a few fixes, but the problem still persisted. The name she put in my phone was her first and last name, and I was able to find her on Facebook. The question is, would it be in poor taste to send her a message over FB provided her number isn't right? Or should I just take the hit and move on?

    EDIT: The friend I was with suggested she gave me a fake number to get rid of me, and it's possible, but there were tons of IOIs on her end:
    1) She approached me
    2) She asked me if she could give me her number before I even brought it up
    3) A first name would've sufficed, but she also included her last name - Why do that if she wanted to distance herself from me?

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    Default Re: She gave an invalid number - Send her a Facebook message?

    I'd go for it, she made out with you and everything so to me that means shes interested. I'd add her and message her. But maybe thats just me.

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    Default Re: She gave an invalid number - Send her a Facebook message?

    Tell her you had lst your phone/got a replacement but remember her name and that you lost all your contacts.

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    Default Re: She gave an invalid number - Send her a Facebook message?

    The friend I was with suggested she gave me a fake number to get rid of me, and it's possible, but there were tons of IOIs on her end:
    1) She approached me
    2) She asked me if she could give me her number before I even brought it up
    3) A first name would've sufficed, but she also included her last name - Why do that if she wanted to distance herself from me?
    2 and 3 are not necessarily ioi's. a lot of guys will leave a set after getting a number, she might have thought that giving you her number would get rid of you faster. and 3 doesn't mean anything.

    add her on facebook if you want to, but I personally think you're wasting your time with her if she gave you a fake number.

    however there is always the possibility that the alcohol was getting to her when she gave you her number (and thus she messed it up) but in that case she probably won't remember too much about her.

    the lesson you should learn from this is that you should always call or text the number she gives you before you break set. that way you know its not a fake and you have her add your number to her contacts. (if your number is in her contacts she's a lot more likely to answer when you hit her up a day later)

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    Default Re: She gave an invalid number - Send her a Facebook message?

    Well, there's three go-aheads for you. She was intoxicated, she might have screwed up putting in her number, it's understandable. When you add her on Facebook, just say that you recognized her through a mutual friend and immediately move on from that topic.
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X

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    Default Re: She gave an invalid number - Send her a Facebook message?

    Here's an update: I wondered if she hit the wrong buttons when entering her number. The local area code starts with a 9, but the area code she entered was almost identical, except she put a 6 as the first number. I tried the local area code with the number and it went through. No response so it might not have been sent to her.

    Anyway, this is too much worrying about a drunk chick who couldn't get her number right. It's time to next her. Maybe I'll see her there next week, and if not then so what.

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    Default Re: She gave an invalid number - Send her a Facebook message?

    That's the spirit..

    A word of advice: It's almost become habit for me when exchanging numbers to either just hand her my phone and have her call her own phone, or get her to tell me hers. Instead of adding her to your Contacts just call, and say "I'll just call yours and then you'll have mine too".

    There are so many reasons a girl will show all sorts of attraction and than flake right out the next day, I've had it happen more than once.. Even after an entire night of making out and building HUGE attraction. Girls will come up with all sorts of emotional reasons to not see a guy again, but those ones aren't worth your time. I believe giving you the number was a way to get rid of you.. A lot of girls use giving the number as an exit. You were most likely an ego/confidence boost for her, nothing more.

    NEXT!

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    Default Re: She gave an invalid number - Send her a Facebook message?

    Quote Originally Posted by twentynine View Post
    That's the spirit..

    A word of advice: It's almost become habit for me when exchanging numbers to either just hand her my phone and have her call her own phone, or get her to tell me hers. Instead of adding her to your Contacts just call, and say "I'll just call yours and then you'll have mine too".

    There are so many reasons a girl will show all sorts of attraction and than flake right out the next day, I've had it happen more than once.. Even after an entire night of making out and building HUGE attraction. Girls will come up with all sorts of emotional reasons to not see a guy again, but those ones aren't worth your time. I believe giving you the number was a way to get rid of you.. A lot of girls use giving the number as an exit. You were most likely an ego/confidence boost for her, nothing more.

    NEXT!
    Very true. I'm also kicking myself because of this - When she typed in her number she also asked for mine, but in order to be aloof/elusive/mysterious I told her no. Had I called her phone after receiving it she probably could've realized she gave me the wrong number. I used to give my number to a girl after she gave me hers from time to time, and one time it lead to her texting me bright and early the next morning about how great it was meeting me. I've found that if a girl is truly interested she will do half, or most, of the pursuing - Letting her have your number is a great way for her to start the chase.

    Oh well, live and learn.

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    Default Re: She gave an invalid number - Send her a Facebook message?

    So an update: I posted my conundrum on another forum and someone suggested an area code it might be based on what her hometown is. I tried it and it went through, and I got a response back. Not much of a conversation, but it's better than nothing.

    Me: so a little bird told me [Musician's name] is your favorite singer (A reference to the night I met her, they kept playing a singer she hated and she kept bringing it up)

    Her: Ew!

    It's bed time for me, so I'll answer her tomorrow or see if she writes anything else. But single word texts are a hard slope to climb so it might take some work to get something out of her.


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