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Thread: How Can I Recover?

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    Default How Can I Recover?

    So I posted earlier about getting a Spanish chick's number and with her inexperience with the English language and my less than amazing texting skills I kind of got us into a boring lull. To cut to the chase:

    Me: Well I've been dying to learn Spanish lately so how about you be my cute Spanish teacher and I can be your student hahaha!
    Her: Really? I'm always looking for a partners for me conversation exchange.
    Me: Yah I'd love to do it!
    Her: Cool, how is your level?
    Me: I wish I spoke Spanish, and I was only joking about you teaching me how. Unless you'd like to show me how. How about next time I'm downtown I'll give you a call and we can hang out
    Her: Yes, why not.

    So it was that last text that I sent that I think screwed it up. But maybe it's just me not being used to talking to foreign girls. Regardless, how do you guys think I should proceed?

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    Default Re: How Can I Recover?

    It's not bad. Your last text looks like you were trying to explain yourself to her..... This would have been better:

    "I wish I spoke Spanish, and I was only joking about you teaching me how. How about next time I'm downtown I'll give you a call and we can hang out."

    Try to keep it as simple as you can and to the point.
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    Default Re: How Can I Recover?

    It's not over. The text was too long. Next, say "Cool what's your schedule like this week ?" You need to know when she is free and schedule around that not when you'll be downtown
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    Default Re: How Can I Recover?

    I agree with CD, it's far from over. But the last text wasn't A-game material. Try something else next time. I'll break it down for you as best I can, but in way too much detail lol.

    Me: I wish I spoke Spanish, and I was only joking about you teaching me how. Unless you'd like to show me how. How about next time I'm downtown I'll give you a call and we can hang out
    I don't like telling a girl I'm joking unless I've truly, accidentally insulted her. It ruins the Tension. She was excited to find someone to teach Spanish to, and you just pushed her away just as quickly as you pulled her close. Make a decision to learn Spanish and stick with it! If you're kidding, she'll know, and if she doesn't get it then you might have to work on your delivery of jokes. Sometimes women will act shocked by a suggestion too, this doesn't mean you need to tell her you're joking either. Like if she said "You want to learn... really?" you might take that as a reason to tell her you're joking, but don't.

    You're a valuable man, and she should WANT to teach you Spanish, instead of you qualifying yourself by saying "unless you'd like to show me how". (DO YOU WANT TO TEACH ME? PLEASE? DO YOU?). You can direct it like this, "Teach me Spanish, but not just the naughty words ok? "

    Try and be more assertive too, rather than make flaky plans. Tell her when you will be downtown and tell her you two should meet up.
    "I'll be downtown XXXXX, let's meet up and do a little verbal tango"
    The problem with corny jokes like that, is the language barrier, lol.

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    Default Re: How Can I Recover?

    Hey thanks for the help guys! Hopefully we get something going.

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    Default Re: How Can I Recover?

    how do you guys think I should proceed?
    just hit her up and go meet her for Spanish lessons. oftentimes foreign girls are very literal. she said "yeah why not?" because she wants you to come hang out and learn some Spanish. so what are you waiting for? she's interested in you, go for it

    btw next time you message her/talk to her start your convo with "hola seniorita" (it means, hey girl) she'll like it that you took the time to figure out how to greet her in Spanish


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