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Thread: Was this too needy? Give me feedback

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    Default Was this too needy? Give me feedback

    I was walking around the 4th without seeing too many opportunities when finally this cute Spanish girl receives me warmly.

    I didn't expect it when she kissed me twice on the cheek when we exchanged name after 5 minutes. We later agreed to meet on Tuesday (today) and she hugged me strong when we bid goodbye.

    I thought it was quite on.

    Today happens to be my birthday and not having anything planned, as usual, and no friends to meet, unusual, and being in a quite tough period.... I got needy as fu**.

    She ads me on FB the 5th and the 5th evening I write:

    Yo chica!
    Nice meeting you the other day, hope you had a great weekend


    I didn't want to write one day after the other, but the 6th is one day before the 7th, so I thought better back to back texts than writing on the same day of the supposed meet up.

    So today I write:

    For that drink, let's meet tomorrow at 8 in *******, there's a place I always wanted to try

    Her reply a couple of hours later:

    Sorry, but I have plans for tomorrow. Maybe another day. Ciao



    How bad do you think was this text convo?

    Could it be a case where the text conversation is to blame for the failed occasion?

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    Default Re: Was this too needy? Give me feedback

    I don't really understand,she promised you to meet today,but yesterday you texted her and she told you she has plans ?

    And yeah it did seem quite needy.

    There's probably a notification on FB that says you have a BD.
    Don't text her anything,if she doesn't use this opportunity to initiate a chat,move on,I mean who wouldn't take the opportunity to start a conversation with the person he/she likes on his b-day ?

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    Default Re: Was this too needy? Give me feedback

    I don't see anything needy. You messaged her on your birthday saying hi. Then you waited 2 days and asked her out. She had plans so she said another time. Where's the neediness? Relax man and stay out of your head. Chat with her over Facebook and then take her number. After that call her, talk for a little then set something up.

    If she doesn't reciprocate the interest, you move on. It's as simple as that.

    And as for not doing anything for your birthday. I never do shit for my birthday. I didn't do shit for New Years or Christmas either. Guess what? I'm still the man and woman want me. It's not because of what I do. It's because I'm ballsy enough to show off who I am, and that I'm out to please myself. End of discussion.

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    Default Re: Was this too needy? Give me feedback

    You also need to learn to not take things too personal. She probably had other plans and was probably busy with it. You should only be concerned when she flakes more than once or twice. You also got to remember you don't need women in your life and one flake shouldn't break you.
    You lose some you win some, learn from your mistakes and get better!

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    Default Re: Was this too needy? Give me feedback

    Quote Originally Posted by Ra1d View Post
    I don't really understand,she promised you to meet today,but yesterday you texted her and she told you she has plans ?

    And yeah it did seem quite needy.


    There's probably a notification on FB that says you have a BD.
    Don't text her anything,if she doesn't use this opportunity to initiate a chat,move on,I mean who wouldn't take the opportunity to start a conversation with the person he/she likes on his b-day ?
    Not your fault, I was quite confusing .

    We met the 4th, she added me the 5th, today the 7th is my birthday.

    So I wrote her the 5th and then again the 6th without her answering, I would have waited rather than writing two days in a row in a "normal occasion" but not this time because the planned meeting (and the day of my bday were coming)


    Quote Originally Posted by lilsting View Post
    I don't see anything needy. You messaged her on your birthday saying hi. Then you waited 2 days and asked her out. She had plans so she said another time. Where's the neediness? Relax man and stay out of your head. Chat with her over Facebook and then take her number. After that call her, talk for a little then set something up.

    If she doesn't reciprocate the interest, you move on. It's as simple as that.

    And as for not doing anything for your birthday. I never do shit for my birthday. I didn't do shit for New Years or Christmas either. Guess what? I'm still the man and woman want me. It's not because of what I do. It's because I'm ballsy enough to show off who I am, and that I'm out to please myself. End of discussion.
    I agree with you on not doing nothing. It's just that I'm a bit stranded, away from home and friends in a new city -and jobless-, that's why not spending the birthday alone felt like something nice.

    I didn't really wait two days, I wrote two messages on day after the other, the 5th and the 6th, to meet the 7th, that's why I thought it might have been needy.

    Quote Originally Posted by marvilo View Post
    You also need to learn to not take things too personal. She probably had other plans and was probably busy with it. You should only be concerned when she flakes more than once or twice. You also got to remember you don't need women in your life and one flake shouldn't break you.
    Totally agree with you, I don't do in "normal" times, it's just a bit rough these days as I don't have any social life in this new town..

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    Default Re: Was this too needy? Give me feedback

    I think you should try to chat her up and build some comfort and then ask again (don't chat her up a ton, just enough to build comfort since it seems like you've only talked to her those 5 minutes that night and then on fb when she said the plans were a no go right?)

    Also if you don't know many people just go out and be social, meet new people! Doesn't even have to be girls, just meet people to get your foot in the door ya know. Gotta start somewhere!


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