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    Whiskey-one-Niner is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Post Replied to First Text Positively, but the 2nd...

    Hey guys! I am in need of a bit of help. This is a bit long, but please bear with me. This has a some angles that I don't feel are normally encountered.

    So I am a pilot and last Friday I saw a cute girl in the hotel van. I didn't talk to her as I wasn't in a great mood due to a nightmare of a day due to the snowstorm in the Northeast. However, I see her a couple hours later down at the hotel bar.

    I opened up with a smile and said "You made it!" Like I was expecting her. She smiled and said yeah, but looked a bit confused so I asked her if she was the one in the hotel shuttle an hour ago. English is not her native language although she is fairly fluent. She is from Spain and was traveling back to college here in the States.

    So after that opener we talked with ease for over an hour and a half. I teased her a bit and it was a lot of fun. She def seemed to be enjoying herself. We both left at the same time and I got her number. She goes to school in Ohio. We overnight in Columbus so I got her number in the pretense of hanging out next time I'm in town (no clue when that will be as I don't know my schedule months in advance).

    We left and when the elevator stopped on her floor she gave me a big hug and said it was great to meet me. I went back up to my room and that was the evening. I'll get to my texts, but first there is a bit of background info that needs to be disclosed.

    I actually have a GF (although I have been indecisive about how I feel about her lately). I was originally not trying to hit on this girl I was simply talking and having fun, but then I started to further tease etc as I really started to get into her.

    Well about 15 mins into talking she asked if I was married or had a girlfriend. Since I wasn't intending to flirt with her or hit on her, at that point, I said yes (possible mistake) but she could tell by my body language that I wasn't thrilled about it. She told me she could just tell by the way I talked about my GF (which wasn't much trust me) that I was not in love with her or that into her. Wow. Lol pretty spot on. So the GF talk was very brief and the rest of the intersection was fun and playful.

    So again this all happened Friday night. Fast forward to Sunday night. Her flight home wasn't until Sunday morning as the storm cancelled her Friday night flight and Saturdays. I send this text which, having not done much flirting and gaming for a number of years, I felt was a fun and light playful text.

    Me: Hola! Did you finally make it back? Lol. Hopefully you weren't freaking out the whole flight esp now that you know your pilots were reading People magazine and watching movies I had a nice time meeting you.

    (This text directly related to a part of our conversation. I was teasing her about what pilots really do up front etc)

    She replies 20 minutes later.

    Her: Hey James! I did make it! I'm at home now. Yesterday I ended up visiting downtown (beautiful btw)! and getting to watch the Eagles play haha it was fun! They took me to a different hotel that didn't have a good looking pilot at the bar, but anyways! And yes haha I freaked out when I saw the pilot, I looked at him like saying: we both know what you do while flying... Haha. How was your flight?

    Okay so definitely a nice reply. There is definitely an ioi with the line about the new hotel not having a good looking pilot at the bar.

    So I see her text, but I'm out with friends at home. I don't want to reply right away so I don't until 4 hours later when I'm back. Normally I would keep my texts short, but sometimes if they write a lot I will as well and keep it proportional. That was my attempt here, but it may have backfired, here was my reply. I still can't tell if it sounds needy/wussy. I definitely know now I gave a lot of info she never asked about. I guess I was just trying to keep a possible conversation going.

    Me: Glad to hear! I'm sure you and your clothes had a wonderful reunion! (Her luggage was lost) it's cool you got to explore some of PHL. Ahh haha well I'm sure I'll be in Columbus sooner than later and you'll def have to show me the town! Ugh all my flights were delayed, but I did manage to catch the last flight home to visit my parents since I wasn't home for Christmas. Got to open presents lol! Just got done bowling with some good friends, fun night. Are you ready for the blast of Artic air I'm sending just for you from Iowa? :P -9 with windchill or -35. Prolly shoulda stayed in Spain...

    Now I realize this was way too damn long and possibly boring/cheesy (I've been out of the game for 1.5 years) but what's done is done. I'm just trying to figure out if this scared her off or how I should proceed.

    So to recap heres a cute girl that knows I have a GF I'm not that into, gives me her number, hugs me as we leave and responds positively to my opening text, BUT not this one.

    What so you guys think? This was 2 days ago and no reply.

    Last question. I'm hoping to have some Columbus overnights in February. Given that is still a ways away how can I keep things progressing to where there is still the fun/enjoyable feelings she had here in early Jan? Assuming things aren't toast.

    Thanks for reading and any help guys. I appreciate it.

    James

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    Default Re: Replied to First Text Positively, but the 2nd...

    Hey, that sounds like a great experience! She definitely showed several indicators of interest which is a good sign. I think the issue with your text message was that it was too long, had too much info, and seemed like you were trying to impress too much. I don't think it ruined any potential outing, but it may have been off-putting to her (you're chasing her so she's not like compelled to chase you, ya know). If it was late at night she may have not seen it till the morning and forgotten about it (I';ve had that happen).

    I would say the game is still on, it just depends on which direction you take it. I would text her occassionally, but since you don't have too much to go off I wouldn't text too often, especially since you still have a GF. I guess starting up random conversation using an opener from here would be good, I wouldn't try to carry on your original conversation from that point for risk of seeming needy (needing her to respond to you). I would open a conversation like once a week to keep you in the back of her mind. Then when you know when you'll be over there I would try to set something up!

    I've never dealt with anything too similar to this, but I have tried to keep interest up while separated over moderate periods of time. Best of luck sir!

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    Default Re: Replied to First Text Positively, but the 2nd...

    Thanks for the feedback Iceman! I'll go with texting her again in a week with something completely different as mentioned. I think I'll tease her about soccer as we had a conversation about how I find it so boring and she's a weirdo for obsessing over it. If she replies than it's definitely good and if she continues to the convo even better.

    Yeah I definitely do know it was too long, but lesson learned now. Hopefully this goes well and whenever I'm out there she will be up for meeting. I almost think that since she had such a nice time when we met that even if I went cold turkey I could possibly still get a meetup a month removed from talking. Obviously that is a bit risky, but something I've thought about. Well see how this goes. Thanks again.


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