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Thread: How to deal with "I miss you"?

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    Default How to deal with "I miss you"?

    I started talking to a new girl. havent seen her in awhile so i texted her.

    Here was our conversation through text.

    HER: I'm so cold i have 5 blankets on!!

    Me: Yes....yes...you do. But you dont have MY blanket of epic warmness. it was made by slave children in China.

    HER: Well then! Lol
    HER: I miss you

    Me:you miss me huh?

    HER: No
    HER:JK yes lmao

    Me: I was fixing to make a journal entry, while i shed a single tear.

    (conversation continued to something else)



    I didnt really want to respond back with "i miss you too". so i didnt say it. as we continued to talk i could tell her mood droped a little, might have been expecting me to say i miss you back. however i was able to get her mood back up. Is there a better way i could have handled that? i imagine i could have said "prove it" but ofcourse it came to me after we where done talking.

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    Default Re: How to deal with "I miss you"?

    "Oh, do you? Do something about it, punk "

    "Ya damn right you do!"

    "Darn, you did it again! Let's wait for my ego to slowly settle down"

    "Me, too...with every bullet so far <3"

    Make it match your personality and you'll never worry about those ever again!
    Always leave her better than you found her.

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    Default Re: How to deal with "I miss you"?

    I didnt really want to respond back with "i miss you too". so i didnt say it. as we continued to talk i could tell her mood droped a little, might have been expecting me to say i miss you back. however i was able to get her mood back up. Is there a better way i could have handled that? i imagine i could have said "prove it" but ofcourse it came to me after we where done talking.
    my favorite reply for when a girl says something like that is;
    "aw thats so thoughtful of you *hugs* "

    works every time. it rewards her for thinking about you and keeps you out of AFC zone without displaying too much interest.

    however if you really do miss her, its perfectly ok to tell her
    "I missed you too"
    bold people are honest and direct in everything they do, including expressing any and every emotion (in a healthy way)

    it doesn't really matter all that much how you responded. however she was trying to force a display of interest. show interest when you want, not when she try's to make you show it.

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    Default Re: How to deal with "I miss you"?

    I think probably the worse thing you can do is say "me too." However, way later on in the relationship it might be ok if you say it first. Something like "hey, I miss you. Especially the way you whine about unimportant things."

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    Default Re: How to deal with "I miss you"?

    Depending on the girl and the context of the conversation I'll say something funny and when she responds back in a fit I'll laugh at her and tell her "I miss you too by the way". That's only if I truly miss her though, if I don't miss her I usually just say "aw, that's sweet" or make a joke.

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    Default Re: How to deal with "I miss you"?

    wow just proves we're all different in our approaches. I would never say any of the above for some reason. The only thing I say is

    Her: I miss you
    Me: I know, that's coz I'm awesome :P (or something in these lines)

    then she'll say something like you're so vain/cocky/ego etc either way she'll love it and if you adopt this kind of talk, you can do a lot of bold high risk stuff in person without being incongruent.

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    Default Re: How to deal with "I miss you"?

    Hey, I'm a newb to these forms, but I totally agree with Floyd

    Her: I miss you
    Me: I know.

    Simple as that. It's super confident and cocky. It also makes her wonder how high your interest level is She'll probably reply with some flirtingly indignant response. Then you can follow up with something funny but still cocky. And give her a light complement like I'm not surprised that a cute girl like you misses me.

    It kind of puts you in the position of being chased. Which seems to build interest or attraction when the woman feels like she's chasing the man.

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    Default Re: How to deal with "I miss you"?

    Quote Originally Posted by mofmcalgary View Post
    Her: I miss you
    Me: I know.
    Very Hans Solo

    You can also ask 'What do you miss about me?' and force them to concede some attraction or turn it into a hook up 'well why don't you come over to my place' or 'then lets meet tomorrow after work for a drink'.

    'Miss you' really means 'I want you' so instead of a reply that leads nowhere, a plan of action to meet again is always better.

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    Default Re: How to deal with "I miss you"?

    @Floyd... That response is good but it depends. If you have alot of comfort built up, that's a perfect response. But if you have gotten her number, talked or hung out a couple times, you should reward her by saying "oh how cute" or "we'll hang soon." And proceed to make plans.

    She has to learn that she can be open with you without you being clingy, that's true. But she also needs to learn that her ioi's will be rewarded (if not right away then eventually). What you said should never be a default response, just sayin.
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