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Thread: How many first dates are you getting from online dating per month?

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    Default How many first dates are you getting from online dating per month?

    Hey guys,

    Just trying figure out what's normal. What is the average number of first dates you would say you get from online dating? Also, how much time would say you're spending on online dating per week?

    Thanks

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    Default Re: How many first dates are you getting from online dating per month?

    Just trying figure out what's normal. What is the average number of first dates you would say you get from online dating? Also, how much time would say you're spending on online dating per week?
    my answer is very simple. none, I don't waste my time with online dating because of how flakey the girls online usually are.

    however, I usually have about 2 date a week (wich makes around 8 dates a month) I meet most girls at college or through mutual friends (and occasionally some from cold approaches outside of college)

    I simply do not have any faith in online dating whatsoever at all. most of the sites just want your money and manipulate both men and woman on the promise that finding you're soul mate can be simple and easy using there site. also many of the woman who resort to online dating are not all that great, there's a reason they have resorted to hiding behind a computer screen rather than taking the extra step to go out of there comfort zone and meet people. many of them are socially incompetent or have ridiculous standards for the kind of man they want. and most good hot babes don't use online dating because the guys they look for are the ones who are confident enough to put themselves out there and talk to strangers in person.

    that said, online dating does have one big advantage, every girl you talk to is going to be single and interested in having a relationship. you won't have to deal with cold approaching many woman who are just plain unavailable to date to find ones who are interested.

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    Default Re: How many first dates are you getting from online dating per month?

    Quote Originally Posted by meteora View Post
    my answer is very simple. none, I don't waste my time with online dating because of how flakey the girls online usually are.

    however, I usually have about 2 date a week (wich makes around 8 dates a month) I meet most girls at college or through mutual friends (and occasionally some from cold approaches outside of college)

    I simply do not have any faith in online dating whatsoever at all. most of the sites just want your money and manipulate both men and woman on the promise that finding you're soul mate can be simple and easy using there site. also many of the woman who resort to online dating are not all that great, there's a reason they have resorted to hiding behind a computer screen rather than taking the extra step to go out of there comfort zone and meet people. many of them are socially incompetent or have ridiculous standards for the kind of man they want. and most good hot babes don't use online dating because the guys they look for are the ones who are confident enough to put themselves out there and talk to strangers in person.

    that said, online dating does have one big advantage, every girl you talk to is going to be single and interested in having a relationship. you won't have to deal with cold approaching many woman who are just plain unavailable to date to find ones who are interested.
    Really have to disagree with you on this one, dude. But, I do know exactly where you're coming from...

    The whole online dating thing can be really annoying at times, and it can also seem like a bit of a chore trying to get girls to not flake etc.. I've been working on perfecting it for a while (I work really weird hours and I have very little time for sarging these days). My goal was to see if it was possible to use online dating (I use POF) as a useful and effective alternative to sarging in bars, clubs etc. These days I don't even really have time for day game..

    For the last few months I've pretty much been meeting up with a new girl from POF every couple weeks.. I have a couple FWB going right now that I met through POF, both 8's. Pulling a few numbers a week is pretty easy now. I even get lazy sometimes and I'll flake out on girls myself, just out of being tired or not being that interested. I don't go for anything under a 7, rarely anything under an 8 really.. I've met a couple 9's from POF as well. If I spent a week in my spare time trying to round up as many dates as I could for next week I could do 4 or 5 in a row, and that's why I flake. Ain't nobody got time for that shit... Lol.

    It all has a lot to do with your area to be honest. I live in a big city and I find that a lot of the women on the site are actually really cool and normal, and are like me in the way that they don't have time for meeting people. A lot of them claim they only get hit on in person by losers and aren't interested 9 times out of 10.. So that's why they joined the site.

    Keep in mind for the first month I was doing online dating I sucked at it. It took about 3 weeks to get a date lined up and start getting phone numbers. It's a process and you need to know what you're doing in order to make it work and line up dates, not to mention preventing flakes. If you don't have an extremely busy schedule I would definitely suggest just going out and sarging.. I'm up at 5am every morning so I can't exactly do that right now.

    I looked at online dating in 2 ways: First, an alternative and possibly effective way of meeting girls when I don't have time to sarge, and secondly a challenge based on what I had read (meteora's post is a good example).. And I'm always up for a good challenge haha.

    I'm done ranting. Almost my bed time :'(

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    Default Re: How many first dates are you getting from online dating per month?

    It's hard to say cause it depends on how much effort you put into it and how picky you are about the women. One time when I put up a new profile I got 4 dates in one week (all of whom contacted me) but other weeks I've had none.

    I've gotten away from it the more I've gotten good at real life game (I recently shut all of them down) cause it does waste a lot of time, doesn't sharpen your real life skills, and if you're not good in person your dates aren't likely to be successful anyways. Even though I can get dates pretty easily I'd say only 10-20% of my 1st dates panned out from online but probably 75% of the women I meet in person pan out.

    Yeah I would say a fair percentage of the women online are ok people but the reason they're single is often cause they don't really have time to date or are women who are so picky jesus couldn't please them. I once had an attractive girl tell me she had been on a paid online dating service for several months and hadn't gone on a single date! Lord knows how many messages she got in that time.

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    Default Re: How many first dates are you getting from online dating per month?

    A survey on Okcupid showed that most if not all of the women on their site said that majority of the men were either average or below. Now if any of us looked at the guys in their then I'd wager we'd consider most of them to be above average. There are good lucking guys in their but it's true to say that women in online dating sites are picky because they tend to get a lot of messages. The egos are constantly inflated. Maybe some of them just use these sites as an ego boost like those girls who take half naked pictures and post them so they could get those "likes".


    PS: I'm on POF, OkCupid, Tinder, Hot or Not and been on them for several months. Have yet to have a date and plan on possibly closing my accounts soon. I just started on PUA so would rather do face to face pick up.

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    Default Re: How many first dates are you getting from online dating per month?

    I've done it. I had ok success getting girls to respond with less success actually number closing and geting dates. I found that sarging in person was allot better for me and I got better results. Online dating took allot of effort and time. If I saw a girl I liked I would write a personalized message and that takes allot of effort! This was the best way to get a response but took considerable time. Too much time for me.

    I know some guys who do very well with the online scene, and there are definitely good attractive women there. There's just so many variables at play. Your profile is SOO important! A few little tweaks can make all the difference in response rates. I got fed up with it because I would message a girl who would respond a little then flake when I KNEW that if I met her in real life she would be all over me. It's frustrating.

    I do know this; If I decide to do it again, I will be asking two nine for advice.

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    Default Re: How many first dates are you getting from online dating per month?

    I can get as many as I want. Up to 5 a week but that was too much. Now I am at like 1-2 by choice...

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    Default Re: How many first dates are you getting from online dating per month?

    For the same reasons meteora says, I am not on anything but Facebook. It's just too hard to determine who the girl behind the computer screen really is.

    Given that, Facebook and Text Game were the two areas of pickup that I first began with a year ago, and I had become extremely solid with the two by the summer. I'm able to easily pull for a meetup from Facebook, and I've gotten in person things like kiss closes, number closes, and dates.

    However, as of recent times, I too have gotten more from doing it in person than online. Remember, you can't be behind the computer screen forever, and a face-to-face interaction is only inevitable. Might as well do it sooner than latter.
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X

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    Default Re: How many first dates are you getting from online dating per month?

    It depends upon the understanding, wisdom and thought with him/her. I have seen people who did 4-5 dating in month and some 1 or 2 in 2 to 3 months. There is no surety on it.


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