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    InTheMaking is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default What should I do to get this girl?

    Sorry for the wall of text but i think its necessary.

    Okay so here's the situation.

    I was seeing this girl for a while casually (3 months or so)and she really fell for me. Shes told me many times how im different and better than everyone shes been with, how no guy made her feel that way. I liked her too but I had just started trying absorb as much about game as possible and was determined to change my life. It wasn't about how much p$$$y I could get it was about developing myself because I had been frustrated for so long. It was too soon to turn in the single life. I'm 21 and haven't experienced all I wanted. Not to mention college life is a limited time.

    She had tried to break it off a couple times because I wasn't going anywhere with it but we would also get back together. Most recently she did it again and was pretty serious about it. She started seeing someone and i knew it. However she agreed to come over as "Platonic" friends (lol). Sure enough the minute we were alone shes inching towards me so i scooted over behind her on the couch and put my arms around her. It lasted for a little then she got up cause she didnt think she should be doing it and went to leave. Instead i told her hang on and to come with me. She obliged reluctantly and i led her to my room because i had gotten her something small for christmas. At first she refused so we just talked. Finally she let her guard down and we ended up kissing and cuddling a bit. Im home for the holidays and cant really do much cause parents are home.

    I asked her to join me back at school for new years and she asked me to come get coffee with her tonight to talk cause she doesnt trust herself alone with me. She told me this new guy wants her to be his girlfriend - within 2 weeks of dating. She was also telling me how hes already possessive and wants her to make sure she tells people shes his etc. "but hes soooo nice and a great guy" so she wants to give him a chance. She was debating telling him no so she could still see me. She really wanted to come with me for new years.

    She ended up choosing giving him a chance and i just told her i respect her decision because honestly we have a pretty strong connection and just based on hearing about this guy so far it probably wont last.

    Has anyone been in this situation? Im just not sure what to do at this point... do i sit back and wait? My new found enlightenment on all this tells me I should find a few girls and carry on enjoying life. - thats the best way to get her back without giving in to a relationship. Am i right?

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    Instinct Guest

    Default Re: What to do?

    Don't screw with the wildlife, she wants a relationship, if you wont give her that, let her be happy with some other guy, instead of miserable stroking your shallow ego. I'm sorry but I spend enough time pissed at women for doing this to men, that it's only fair that I be open and honest.

    With my pets, which she is sounding like, as soon as she finds a good guy that she wants, I tell her "Cutie, go with him, there is no future with me, he will take care of you", I have one women who I possess, and she gets all the commitment she needs from me, the rest of the women, I am ready to give them away as soon as they are looking for something more. No games played.

    She wants something different than you, don't make her miserable by playing with her, and don't make yourself miserable by doing something you don't want. And then at least she can be honest, and dump this looser she is with and stop making him miserable as well, lol!

    edit: And for the young'ns reading this, classic college freshman line "I don't trust myself alone with you" means " I am going to fuck you when we are alone, (but I dont want to feel like a slut, unless she does want to, lol! ) "
    Last edited by Instinct; 12-29-2009 at 04:08 AM.

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    culturedpearls Guest

    Default Re: What to do?

    You both want different things, man, so it should be clear enough that you also go your separate ways. I also think she won't last with this guy but still, she wants a relationship, and this guy is willing to give it to her. Enough with the kissing and special Christmas gifts and talks of hanging out. Stop complicating your life.

    Am not saying you can't ever be friends but certainly, you can't be friends now.

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    InTheMaking is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Re: What to do?

    You guys are right and like i said i wasnt stopping her. Thats exactly what i told her already. Thanks for the reinforcement.

    This thread is a perfect example of something i have noticed about myself. Why do i seem like such a pretentious asshole in writing that? I dont know why it happens. I genuinely do care about this girl and wasnt seeing anyone else all the time i was with her.

    I need to work on that calm assertiveness that i always see in bills, instincts, and others posts.
    Last edited by InTheMaking; 12-29-2009 at 11:44 AM.

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    culturedpearls Guest

    Default Re: What to do?

    Practice makes perfect. And if you really want to immerse yourself with the singles scene, then you'd have to check caring feelings that stop you from going out and getting to know other girls.


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