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Thread: Girl i like added me on facebook - recently broken up

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    Default Girl i like added me on facebook - recently broken up

    Hello and welcome to me (i hope )..

    Here is my situation

    A little background:
    About 4 years ago i was a complete AFC.. Then i started experimenting with hitting on girls (little-bit PUA style) and it was starting to work for me.
    Right then i got into a relationship which lasted until some days ago, but the last months weren't good for either of us. Another fact about me is that i am not really a facebook guy and most of my friends know that, including my ex and the girl i met.


    So i met this girl a week ago(still technically in a relationship) and i kind of like her, also i think that there was some connection between us but i was a little consistent because cheating is completely out of my game.
    We are both in college and at some point we talked about how both of us can't study during the day and we prefer to study during the night.
    Immediately after we met she added me on facebook(she does that with everyone i think). It took some time for me to accept.

    So today she updated her status about 2h ago about how she finds it hard to study(and sad face).
    I believe that under different circumstances this is my chance to comment her status and if she replies to message her. My excuse for being on facebook today(which i don't normally do) will be that i am a little sick and i didn't attend my job which is also true.

    but,

    If my ex or some mutual friend sees the comment she will be really hurt which i don't want because she is a really good girl and the break up was mutual, and also i don't want her to think that i broke up with her for the other girl(which i didn't) .

    My second option is to directly message her and say something about the status but i think this will be considered sneaky by her since my profile stinks of guy-in-relationship. (now i have removed some evidence but still for her it could be me being sneaky).

    My third option is to do nothing right now, wait for another chance, or to see her again since we have common friends.

    I know i shouldn't think too much but the opener feels really important and after 3.5 years i feel a little rusty.
    Also the moment might already be gone for me but figuring out what i should have done is important because i believe i will come to this situation again either with this girl or another.

    Sorry for the huge message,

    Have a nice day everyone.

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    Default Re: Girl i like added me on facebook - recently broken up

    Think you're overthinking things. I would accept her friend request. That would be all until I saw her again. If I new I wouldn't, then I'd message her on Facebook- "how's your day?"
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    Default Re: Girl i like added me on facebook - recently broken up

    You just wrote about a 250 word essay about wether or not to comment on some girl's facebook status? Here's my advice. Relax. You are probably not even ready to start at the high end of the spectrum, especially after 2.5 years of being wifed up. Baseball players don't jump to the majors right from high school. In fact if anything it looks like you may be ascribing feelings (relationship oriented in fact) to a girl you just met. 'Connection'? Nah man, you felt attraction. Just chill. You'll be fine.

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    Default Re: Girl i like added me on facebook - recently broken up

    You couldn't be more right about attraction and connection. I am aware that i can't play in the major league right now..Heck i haven't even cleared my head from the break up. But I want to validate that after so much time in a relationship, when i see a woman i like, i can approach her the right way.. One step at a time ...

    Thanks for the responses

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    Default Re: Girl i like added me on facebook - recently broken up

    You need to take a little time to work on yourself for sure.
    Definitely accept the friend request if you haven't yet.

    But you want to get to a point where you stop caring what other people think about everything.
    It's nobody else's business about what or who you reply to on Facebook. It's your business & your right to do so.

    You can't live your life in fear of other people's feelings always being hurt.

    Don't be a d!ck, but don't let other people dictate your happiness.



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    Default Re: Girl i like added me on facebook - recently broken up

    If my ex or some mutual friend sees the comment she will be really hurt which i don't want because she is a really good girl and the break up was mutual, and also i don't want her to think that i broke up with her for the other girl(which i didn't) .
    you really think she's going to be hurt by one comment about you liking someone else?

    I got news for you, she has probably already started talking to other guys and pursuing her happiness without worrying about you. so why shouldn't you do the same. there's nothing wrong with moving on.

    that said, don't think too much about the whole face book thing. just accept the friend request and talk to that girl you met next time you get a chance.

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    Default Re: Girl i like added me on facebook - recently broken up

    Well thanks for the responses guys.. Actually after some time yesterday i said what the hell.. so i stopped thinking and sent her a msg.. I chatted her for a bit and got her number.. It was that simple after all

    Edit: If i have some time later i'm thinking of presenting how the conversation went down.. Does this make sense?

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    Default Re: Girl i like added me on facebook - recently broken up

    Something like that. Haha n-close already!? Well alrighty then. Guess I got my work cut out for me. This 10 on FB just got back to me tonight. She is playing me though helped right after that 9 on POF messaged me then blocks me earlier today. Never believed in this online stuff still don't let's see what this 10 does. Man she is a dime piece!

    Crazy right? I approached a 10 last year at a Bar, she ditches me before I can n-close then I message her on FB and she deleted me! I knew that girl then I send some random stranger 10 I never knew and she messages me back and doesn't delete me? Wondering why I have trouble online with girls I met and better luck with girls I never met? Seems all screwy.
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