Been dating a girl for about 7 months now two months it has been serious, before was casual but we were only seeing/sleeping with each other. When we are together it is great and we get along fine. She is from an eastern European culture so definitely a lot colder in general.
I decided based on another members advice I was going to start calling instead of texting. Monday I told her basically I realize you have work, but if you can't meet you can tell me why, or if you have a minute in your week to send me some silly meme you can ask me how my week was. She said she got it and understood. I also expressed to her and she knows that I am busy too and have a life with friends and family, and don't expect all day texts or calls.
She suggests meeting today on monday. We text throughout the week, but of course thursday night we hasn't even gotten back to me. I have to text her when I get off work at 12am. She suggests 11am-1pm to meet during the day, and I told her I preferred at night and that I do not want to have to wait until last minute to ask her whats going on. She ignores/avoids it and says how about 8pm.
Chances are today she will ask me what we are doing. I understand the alpha mentality of telling her what to do, but we have been together a while, and while I always pay it would be cool if she took initiative. I don't expect based on her personality to be all lovey dovery 24/7 but not getting back to me is unacceptable. Especially after I told her this monday. It seemed like before she didn't understand why it would bother me, but she said she got it. This has been going on for a while. She suggests a future with me, and says things like I believe in fate with you,etc,etc
I almost want to meet her today and be like do you wanna date or what, but I don't want to scare her off. I mean she doesn't cheat or act crazy, but I think how she acts is disrespectful. I guess I don't want to waste my time with someone who acts like they don't give a shit.
Clearly I am putting more into it than her but she is the one who talks about the future mostly