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    Default Everything is great but....

    Hi all.

    Just a quick brief on the situation:
    Me and my ex girlfriend (we broke up about 17 months ago) are "in the process" of getting back together. She came back to me... Everything is great between us with the exception of one thing, our sex life.

    We have been "Dating" over the last two weeks, have hooked up with each other alot but have yet to have sex. She says that she is incredibly attracted to me but she dosen't know what wrong. She dosen't have the sexual desire or passion to have sex with me. That is the ONLY thing that is holding us back from actually being together.
    She is a commitment phobe and has confessed that.
    We also have many mutual friends that like us alot together and are stunned that we haven't had sex yet. This pressure might be an attributing factor.

    So my question is, how do i break down this barrier? How do i create this sexual Tension, this passion. I know it exists and may be dormant because it did exist when we first dated awhile back.
    Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

    I love sex and so does she. This is the one downfall in our relationship and it would be incredibly sad if it didn't work out for this one reason.

    Thank you.
    Yours truly, a struggling man.

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    Default Re: Everything is great but....

    You have to NOT focus on that outcome & just work on having fun.
    But still be flirty, & make sexual innuendos & little comments with sexual overtones.

    When a girl is genuinely having fun, she's more relaxed & more likely to feel sexually charged.

    You're gonna have to let things play out naturally.
    Don't try to rush or force the situation, but definitely keep expressing interest & desire.

    The best way to create Tension is to drop sexual hints/offers & then take them away so to speak. (Push/pull)
    Tease, flirt, banter etc...

    That's gonna be your best bet.


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    Mopinion is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Everything is great but....

    Thanks T-mal.

    I do agree. I have been trying to do that. It is fun whenever we go out and she knows it. We have spoken abuot this sex issue and she is aware of it.

    I have tried to get her mind off of this whole long-term relationship issue as well as the sex issue but it hasn't worked. She keeps on bringing it up.

    One other potential contributing factor is that we are incredibly comfortable with each other.

    More advice would be great and if someone could point me in the direction of an article on how to protray sexual interest undertone that would be great.

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    Default Re: Everything is great but....

    Drop the sex conversation with her. Banish it. Hopefully once its out of mind you will be able to return to a normal sex life. Go out. Have some beers. Be playful. If over a period of about three or so weeks it doesnt improve you should seriously consider moving on. Thats not a healthy relationship then. For now it could just be preasure affecting you two. HOWEVER, i must say that attraction goes hand in hand with sex as far as Im concerned. She cant profess to being attracted to you and NOT have it manifest physically.


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