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    Default coming late for a date and increasing your chances

    Looking back at the various dates that I have had, coming late to a first date (max 10min) seems to have made me more attractive. I don't do it always, but the times I was late it seems to have implied a non-neediness from my side.

    I wonder if anyone else had a similar experience to this.
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    Default Re: coming late for a date and increasing your chances

    Girl here.

    NOT at all attractive. One guy came late by 15 minutes on our first date. I was looking forward to it because we had been really flirty before. I was so irked because he scheduled the date near him (so it'd be convenient for him) and scheduled it late (like 9 PM). It felt like he was trying to play a game by purposely running late - because he seriously had no excuse. It all felt FAKE. He tried to move in for a kiss about 30 minutes into the date. He said / did a bunch of other stuff that just all seemed FAKE. I cut the date off in about 45 minutes (around 10 PM) and never wanted to see him again. I ignored all his texts after that.

    I have had another guy show up late by like 15 minutes (which still irritates me) but I let it go because I know he works late and was trying to make it on time. Still, being late is my pet peeve. Most other guys have been respectful and considerate enough to show up on time. I do the same for them and am rarely late. I love honest, genuine, sincere guys, but they're not "yes" men or doormats - it's a fine balance. They're gentlemanly, but still confident. They're good guys with an edge. Learn it, live it, love it.

    So if showing up late purposely is your strategy, I can already tell you that if she sees through it, she'll be so turned off that sitting across from day-old turd would be more appealing than spending time with you (sorry to be harsh - I am really imaginative). Then again, the type of girls who fall for attraction just because the guy puts on an act by being late are likely not girls like me - so to each his own.

    If you don't want to appear needy too early, then don't be needy, but be respectful and considerate. Showing up late purposely and thinking it will get a girl to like you is even needier, and is just weak and rude.
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    Default Re: coming late for a date and increasing your chances

    Yea I gotta agree with the above.

    There are dozens of other ways to convey non-neediness. Being prompt is just a matter of common courtesy, respect and class, and most importantly, it is a reflection of you (if you got your priorities together). You are already attractive enough that the girl made the time sacrifice/investment to meet you and didn't flake.

    I definitely don't want to skim from here to try to fix what isn't broke.

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    Default Re: coming late for a date and increasing your chances

    Good post, toughcookiegirl.

    Interesting to also view it from a female's perspective. Wish we had more of those around here.
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    Default Re: coming late for a date and increasing your chances

    Quote Originally Posted by toughcookiegirl View Post
    Girl here.

    NOT at l attractive. One guy came late by 15 minutes on our first date. I was looking forward to it because we had been really flirty before. I was so irked because he scheduled the date near him (so it'd be convenient for him) and scheduled it late (like 9 PM). It felt like he was trying to play a game by purposely running late - because he seriously had no excuse. It all felt FAKE. He tried to move in for a kiss about 30 minutes into the date. He said / did a bunch of other stuff that just all seemed FAKE. I cut the date off in about 45 minutes (around 10 PM) and never wanted to see him again. I ignored all his texts after that.

    Bahahahahahaha that was probably me. I was late because I was coming from another date

    All jokes aside I had this exact same experience a couple months back. The girl and I were really flirty before hand, and I showed up 15 minutes late to the first date. My reason for being late? Didn't have one, I was just late which could come off as "fake." I ran the cube on the girl which also could come off as fake. I went in for the kiss 30 minutes in, the difference being we made out for the next hour.

    She then ignored my lazy attempt of setting up a D 2 through text. If that's you, you kiss like a mountain goat haha. Not like I know what's that's like or anything.

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    Default Re: coming late for a date and increasing your chances

    I once showed up about 15 minutes late to a first date because an old lady had a flat tire. I helped her change the tire. My date understood after she saw my dirty hands. She commented that she found it sexy that I like to help others.

    I have used this ploy on first dates afterwards. I just get my hands black by touching the brake dust on my wheels and rubbing my hands together before I walk in. It's worked well every time.

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    Default Re: coming late for a date and increasing your chances

    Quote Originally Posted by dave_xxx View Post
    I once showed up about 15 minutes late to a first date because an old lady had a flat tire. I helped her change the tire. My date understood after she saw my dirty hands. She commented that she found it sexy that I like to help others.

    I have used this ploy on first dates afterwards. I just get my hands black by touching the brake dust on my wheels and rubbing my hands together before I walk in. It's worked well every time.
    Haha, that's pretty neat. I probably might do something like that if I knew I'd be late. Though since I live in NY, my dates usually are in the city, so I usually take transportation to get there.
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    Default Re: coming late for a date and increasing your chances

    Lilsting - The fact that you still attempted to seek her out again and she ignored you (after making out with you) has more to say about your kissing technique than hers.

    Makes sense because goats do go "bahah."

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    Default Re: coming late for a date and increasing your chances

    Hey...when did we let in a girl to our secret underground club?
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    Default Re: coming late for a date and increasing your chances

    Quote Originally Posted by toughcookiegirl View Post
    Lilsting - The fact that you still attempted to seek her out again and she ignored you (after making out with you) has more to say about your kissing technique than hers.

    Makes sense because goats do go "bahah."
    Her (your?) loss not mine. I've made out with enough women to know that there is no pleasure in messing around with barnyard animals.

    Your goat comeback joke was rather cute/clever. My "GRANDMA" would have found it hilarious -_- ..

    Anyways, I'm about to go have some rather passionate sex with an endearing young woman who in no way shape or form resembles something found on Noah's Ark.


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