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    Default Not feeling "it" after day 2. Thoughts?

    So I met this girl (HB9) online and we've been hitting it off since i got her number. So we went out on Friday night and had a few drinks and what seemed to be some great conversation. Did a couple of style's and Mystery's tricks (Three mice race, the cube, the Orange Kangaroo from Denmark), and madeout at the end of the night. Didn't text her much yesterday (Saturday) and today she texted me saying "I totally had fun hanging out with you and you are a really cool guy but i didn't feel "it" y'know?" She still wants to go on our planned day 3 (a Mexican restaurant) but more as friends than a love interest. So what should i do in this case to make her feel "it"?

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    Default Re: Not feeling "it" after day 2. Thoughts?

    So she made out with you at the end of the date, and then told you she wasn't feeling "it", but still wants to see you again. In my opinion, No HB9 is going to:

    A) Make out with a guy they don't like and then see them again

    B) See a guy for a second date if she isn't feeling "it".. At least not in my experience. If she didn't like you she would have just blown you off.

    Was there alcohol involved? This could alter things a bit.

    Here's how I see it.. If after going on a date and then making out with you, she then realized that the "it" factor was missing, she wouldn't tell you that. That would just make her look like a slut for making out with someone she isn't interested in as more than a friend. She also wouldn't being going out with you again, I don't think.

    I believe you are being tested. She's looking for a reaction. Play it really cool, don't show one bit that you are affected by it. Go out to the Mexican restaurant, flirt with the waitress/hostess.. Socialize with staff etc. Be funny, a little cockier perhaps than on the first date, tease her here and there.. Show her that if she doesn't want you in that way, that it doesn't even bother you.

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    Default Re: Not feeling "it" after day 2. Thoughts?

    Great advice man thanks for the help. We each had two beers but i doubt 2 beers can have that much of an effect. Pretty much what i did is just not address that part of her text and go on with something else. do you suggest being physical at the Mexican place? And what are your thoughts on a Freeze Out?

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    Default Re: Not feeling "it" after day 2. Thoughts?

    Two Nine is right on the money with his advice. When you go out on the date act like she never said anything at all. I would carry on like nothing ever happened. Not addressing it was the best way to go about it. You essentially passed the test by ignoring it. Don't bring it up on the date.

    I want to add something. I have NEVER had a girl say something like that after a date if we made out. Yes, girls test you all the time, BUT this test seems a little off. I would be wary of her. If you see any red flags get out! I have dated a few extremely attractive, emotionally unstable girls. It's not worth your time man. Don't let the beauty blind you.

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    Default Re: Not feeling "it" after day 2. Thoughts?

    Come on DirectIsBest, emotionally unstable crazy chicks are where it's at! They keep you on your toes, & they're more fun.
    Lol..

    No but seriously, I really do love crazy girls.

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    Default Re: Not feeling "it" after day 2. Thoughts?

    Thanks DirectisBest, so be physical, ignore what she said, and make her think i'm the prize! Got it!

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    Default Re: Not feeling "it" after day 2. Thoughts?

    Quote Originally Posted by DirectIsBest View Post
    I want to add something. I have NEVER had a girl say something like that after a date if we made out. Yes, girls test you all the time, BUT this test seems a little off. I would be wary of her.
    Great point. I agree, it does seem weird.. I experienced something somewhat similar - but different - to this once before though.

    First date with a girl I met on POF was kind of awkward and didn't go so well (one of the weirder dates I've been on). However we saw each other again and it went very well, I ended up in her bed and slept over. She flaked on the 3rd date.. I texted her a couple times over a few weeks after the flake and never got a reply. Really strange.

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    Default Re: Not feeling "it" after day 2. Thoughts?

    Could've been a form of anti-slut defense? Maybe she was ashamed that she let you sleep over so soon

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    Default Re: Not feeling "it" after day 2. Thoughts?

    Quote Originally Posted by Richghostt View Post
    Could've been a form of anti-slut defense? Maybe she was ashamed that she let you sleep over so soon
    That was the conclusion I came to as well. Might not have helped that I didn't contact her for like a week after.. Oops!

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    Default Re: Not feeling "it" after day 2. Thoughts?

    You win some, you lose some. Thanks again for the Advice


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