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    Default Re: drunk texting issue

    Just received a text from her:

    "How is it in Prague?"

    which is a good sign, she finally shows some interest! Going to text her back after my training course, because I'm so incredibly busy ! ;-)

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    Default Re: drunk texting issue

    Questions:
    Was the second text of good quality?
    Where could I have improved, how do you reply on a text like hers?
    Could I simply not text back on her first text?
    What should be the short term goal now?
    Answers in line:

    1. You did the best you can. It's already a huge improvement.
    2. I can't really tell you how I would reply because when I come up with ways to reply, I draw upon the connection and experiences I share with the girl. It makes the replies very unique. Since, I don't have the same experience you have with this girl, it is difficult to say what I would write. Texting is like writing poetry to me.
    3. No you had to because you were trying to get her to suggest a time to meet. It didn't work. She is being flighty.
    4. You goal is not to waste too much time trying to close for a skype session. You can't have sex with her over Skype lol. You need to start telling her you are planning to come to LA. During that exchange, you need to tell her

    - You are planning to get tickets and for her to get ready for your arrival by designing you a fine suit.
    - You want to check out places like Universal Studios, etc. etc. and a list of tourist sites. (Don't mention that you want to see her)
    - Find out what she recommends. (This way you probe her to find out what she enjoys doing.)
    - Invite her to come along without giving her the impression that you NEED her to come along as if you can't have fun without her. So if you are planning to go to the beach. Tell her something like...
    You heard Malibu has some nice beaches and you want a cute euro beach bunny like her to come with you. And if she doesn't behave herself, she is going to have to go skinny dipping with you while wearing clip on bunny ears. This is a form called future fantasy projection. I used this on my girl on facebook. Example:
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    After a few messages...
    ME: BUT next year, [A friend] is going to host a party at his place. AND I am so gonna steal you away, slip you into a sexy devil girl costume, and after, we gonna go wreak havoc and club hop along the strip where you seduce countless of hapless men with your hot sexy dance moves, run off with their souls, and I stand over their heartbroken bodies manically laughing, right?
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    So start projecting how much fun you will be having in L.A.

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    Default Re: drunk texting issue

    great, great, GREAT stuff!

    I feel indeed like I was putting my attention to get a Skype call, while that indeed is NOT the goal I'm after. From now on I will focus on making her laugh with my texts. I want her to start really liking me, without putting too much pressure/focus on meeting on Skype.

    As you mentioned, I will also try to get her to WANT me to come to LA really bad, so that we can have tons of fun.

    When is the right timing to start flirting with her? Should it be done through texts? How far can you go?
    Is it better to work on my game and start flirting when I'm in LA?

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    When is the right timing to start flirting with her? Should it be done through texts? How far can you go?
    Is it better to work on my game and start flirting when I'm in LA?
    Start flirting ASAP or else she will throw you into the friendzone with the rest of the chumps who texts her.

    How far can you go? You need to calibrate her. Different women will react differently to sexual topics. You need to know this. If she is sexually open, then you can take more liberties. If she had past sexual trauma, you need to know this as well. For example, my girl is sexually conservative. She doesn't reply to any of my texts that were sexual or had sexual innuendo.

    No, you flirt with her now in text while working on your game so you will be ready when you reach L.A. Practice flirting with other women as 'batting practice' LA will be your real game!

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    Default Re: drunk texting issue

    update:

    SHE: "How is it in Prague?"
    ME: "The food and beer are delicious, and I haven't even started about the nightlife.. But praise yourself lucky, because if you had been here, I'd take you out for dinner and you would have to drink beer with me!" (she never drank beer in her life, which I find a shame! - she's not a true belgian!!)
    (I was typing one more line, but she was immediately texting me back)
    SHE: "Hahah"
    SHE: "Beer is really filthy!!"
    ME: "There's a chance that we'd be dancing on tables afterwards, BUT (as a true gentlemen) I'd give you a bar-seat, this way we'd be on eye-level "
    (she is very small, 1m60, I am 1m90. She also told me she never danced on a table before)
    SHE: (sends me some emoticons with beer and stop warnings)
    SHE: "Ha ha ha!!! Funny "
    ME: "What is wrong with beer? Such a bad experience with?"
    ME: "Hey, and for once I'm being friendly and try to bring you on equal hight...!"
    SHE: "Hahah yeah it's just so filthy "
    SHE: "Haha"
    ME: "Look, <her nickname>, you will have to choose:
    ME: "when I'm coming over to LA you will have to pick one of the following two options:"
    ME: "1) when we're going clubbing we have to buy each others drinks (beer)"
    ME: "2) you can drink anything you want, but you may not wear any stiletto's and should wear a red hat DURING clubbing"
    SHE: (tells me the nickname I'm used is not referred to what I think it is.... I thought it was her belgian nickname, but it appeared to mean "hello"... *sigh*)
    SHE: (tells me the meaning of the word)
    ME: "hahaaaaa"
    ME: "Do you have any idea how many times I've used it so far? Damnnn!"
    ME: "btw, nice try, but you can't avoid the question that easy.. or shall I choose? "
    SHE: "I do not understand my options!!"
    ME: "haha, allright, new attempt:"
    ME: "1) we drink beer in LA during clubbing"
    ME: "OR"
    ME: "2) we drink cocktails, but you may not wear high heels!"
    ME: "shouldn't be too difficult"
    SHE: "Why no stiletto's?"
    ME: "I need to find a way to punish you, true belgians drink beer!"
    SHE: "in what way do I deserve to make this choice haha"
    ME: "because you totally destroyed my beautyfull nickname"
    SHE: "Hahahh oops"
    ME: "wauw, you might be good at destroying nicknames, but you totally suck at picking an option! "
    (after few hours)
    SHE: "Haha no beer!!"


    Sooo, once again, where could I have improved?

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    Default Re: drunk texting issue

    So she initiated text with you first? If so, that's a huge ioi.

    You seem to have a good text chemistry with this girl, so I wouldn't fix anything that is not broken. You didn't make the mistakes you made in the past (like coming off as needy), so that is good.

    Just be careful not to fall in the entertainer trap. Later on, especially when you meet, try to show genuine interest in getting to know her as a person as well.

    Another thing is start flirting with her. Start ramping it up with some sexual innuendos in there and see how she reacts. Right now, you are not flirting (yet) although you are coming off as a fun person. But, a guy who is friend-zoned can talk to her like this...like take her out for drinks, etc, etc. and hang out as buddies. Flirting always has that whole "us as a couple feel" and letting your intentions be known that you want to be more than just friends.

    My example from an old facebook message:
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    ME: "Hey [X], speaking of “holy water” and “prayers”…I got a great idea! For Halloween, I’m gunna go dress up as a devil. As in the handsome kind. Wanna be my fallen angel?"
    HER: Haha alright smooth operator... :P
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    Where would I start throwing it in your text?

    Her: "Haha no beer!!"
    You: Hmmm...Ok then, since you won't drink beer, you can be my trophy wife. I drink, you hang from my arm and make me look like a rockstar.
    You: Since we are both good looking, we can be a good-looking couple. People will say "damn, they look so good together."
    You: Come to think of it...Wow, if we had kids, they will be so good-looking.

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    Default Re: drunk texting issue

    good advice, haven't texted her for a day now, and I don't feel as if I should (the needy part has almost disappeared).

    She did iniate the conversation, and instantly started replying when I texted her. So that did feel good!

    Now I indeed have to start flirting, but I absolutely do not want to overgame her.

    Thanks for the examples!

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    Update!

    so after 3-4 days I texted her again (after the "haha no beer " reply)... I felt kind of obligated, because I want to stay on her radar. Yet, I felt like I had NOTHING to say to her... which made me hesitate to even text her.

    So I send her following (pretty lame/boring text IMO):

    ME: "Goodmorning! Totallyyy demotivated to go to work, after seeing your clubbing movie my motivation dropped even below 0! DAMN YOU! When I'm in LA you should definitely fix us some exclusive parties by preference with loads of free drinks *wohoo* ... As compensation I could be your shop assistent by day!"

    Analysis:

    Reading it back now, I see it lacks fun... and looks pretty demanding!

    She replied...

    SHE: "It seems like I have to do a lot "

    Analysis:

    What a crappy text, but hey, what can I expect if I initiate with a crappy text... right?

    Yet... I felt I should "fix" the situation... so after 3 hours I texted:

    ME: "Yes ofcourse! It's the law of the strongest... would you like to battle me in a match of THUMBWRESTLING?!"

    I felt good about this one, my goal was to make her at least smile... but I'm afraid I failed 200%... her reply:

    SHE: "No "

    How cold can a text be? I mean the "" doesn't mean a thing, because apparently she puts those after every sentence. It looks like a pretty cold "NO!".

    Which direction should I take here? Because I feel like I totally destroyed whatever was between us :/

    Also, please point out where I went wrong, how I could've done it better!

    Should I ask her about LA? (I'm planning to not text her for another few days... )

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    Default Re: drunk texting issue

    The "no" could be a sh!t test.
    Don't overlook the most important factor... she's RESPONDING.

    You can turn that around & make a playful interaction out of it.

    "Good! cause I suck & you'd totally win.. thus crushing my reputation in the thumb wrestling world! "

    or... "Good! Because I'd hate to whip your butt & make you cry like a girl. "

    Or.. "Good neither do I! Skinny dipping sounds much more fun. "

    Just be creative & affect her emotions & psychological triggers.


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    Default Re: drunk texting issue

    I'm not sure about the sh!t test man, I just think she's a textaholic that's just replying because .... yeah, I don't know.

    Also, I'm having no fun at all texting like this, I mean the interaction is REALLY onesided

    I'm on the verge of letting this one go, how do you stay focussed/fun?


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