Hey everybody unfortunately I've run into a problem with my text game... realizing now; I was unaware that I had been taking a beta role and she naturally dropped me. I read a couple sticky's which helped a lot and definitely needed to build on my inner game again...
Anyways here's what went down:
It'd had been a good relationship (open) with this woman for a couple months and had gotten more challenging as I travel often, return and have to reinitiate, etc. After a short travel we'd met up and started hanging out again things were going okay... my game was off and I was tense trying to get her back. Anyways fast forward a bit the other night before I had to leave for awhile (strange work situation) I was more onto of myself and we had really good sex. Really good . I left town early next morning.
Thankfully we have a pretty intimate relationship at this point and there were many hooks to stay in contact to keep the fire kindled until I come back. The texting/calling the first couple times were good, playful, flirty. Unfortunately my inner game was off and I believe the stress of my strange work situation just starting spun me into a weird state. I felt the need to tell her that I was in love with her. Which is probably true to some degree, but there are still guide to follow and I was bowing down hard. I tell her over the phone, begin texting more often with stuff like "I hope you have an amazing day!". Again probably fine but under circumstances. I could tell she felt a new pressure from this. Reciprocated the "I love you's" for the first bit.
Fast forward maybe two days more. Worst couple of days ever. Computer completely crashes while trying to deal with my land lady over emails (trying to sub lease place, she's being a ****), been stuck at my friends house in a small town for over a week while waiting for my work. Inner game officially thrown out the window. She had texted me as she talked to my landlord (she's went to go get my keys, clean place?)... So I call her immediately and we talk for a bit, I'm a terrible frame and didn't have much to say. When the conversation ends I let her know with short text weeks been tough, not good frame to be good company. She says it's okay to have bad days.
I let it sit for about two days and text her when I see snow (as it's likely snowing a lot there, good times on the mountain?) and tell her to give me a call later. No reply. No reply for about a week now and I am away at work finally. I get back in two weeks.
Basically I was wondering what do I do to keep some sort of fire going. I was considering not contacting her until I'm back (betting frame), waiting until she contacts me (she may not, she knows I'll see her when I get back), or trying to initiate some sort of text game in the week ... I could use the gym as a hook "Hope you been at the gym for out bet because I'm starting to look like the hulk :P" or something along those lines. Should I maybe wait until the distance and time is more on my side?