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Thread: Question: How to handle BF bomb through text?

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    Default Question: How to handle BF bomb through text?

    I'm going to break this down as quickly as possible from beginning to end.

    I go to subway every so often, and this attractive woman who works there caught my eyes. Every time I go, she see gives me anime eyes, and we make small talk. Today was no different. The interest was definitely there. This is strictly for learning purposes as I have no feelings for this woman, and have quite a few women who I'm talking to right now. I can handle the BF line just fine in person, but not so well through text. I'm well aware of BF destroyer, but I'm more or less just looking for a solid line to respond with.

    The interaction:

    She makes my sandwich (yesss!), she gives me anime eyes, she asks me questions. I tell her she's cute and that we're going to hangout. She asks when, and I ask her what her schedules like this week. She said she works Mon-Fri and has the weekend off. She then said that she works this Sat, but gets off at 3. I tell her Saturday MIGHT work, but for her to give me her number, and we'll make concrete plans through text.

    She asks for my number instead. I say NO (with a smile). I release Tension by telling her if she thought I was a creep to just ignore my text, but if she thought I was farking charming and handsome to text me back, and we'll take it from there. She gives me her number. I give her a nickname *J----- the sexy * (we both couldn't think of an ending so I left it like that), we go about our days. This was around 3pm.

    I text her around 9pm

    Here's the interaction:

    Me: Hey, it's Lonnie. Save this number, it's the most important one you'll ever get

    Her: Hey. Quick question how old are you?

    Me: Choose wisely
    A) 27
    B)31
    C)21
    D)23

    Her: Umm D

    Me: Wow nice! I'm guessing you're........ 18

    Her: Yeah. I don't want to be a jerk but it's just better if we don't go out because I have a boyfriend of 6 years and it's not fair. Sorry

    Me: No biggie. Sounds like a solid relationship! Life is fast, and you seem like fun, so we'll keep a strictly platonic relationship. So I MIGHT text you something fun periodically :P

    End interaction.

    The interest was there for sure. She probably doesn't have a boyfriend, but just got cold feet. Either way that's completely fine. With this response I wanted to display that I didn't give a shit, and that I'm just a cool calm person. Also, that I wanted to leave room for further interaction. I'm just looking for a solid response in case I come across this in the future without having to resort to BF destroyer.

    I'm well aware of what I'm asking, and I know most people would say BF destroyer anyway, but that comes off as really fake this early on in the interaction in my humble opinion, and I actually don't like using BF destroyer. To beta to soon!

    Thanks fellas!

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    Default Re: Question: How to handle BF bomb through text?

    Great job on the Number Close

    There is no reason not to give your number to her first - provided that

    she texts you immediately after so you have her number
    your number is saved in her phone
    Looking for new wings in LA let me know if you want to sarge together.

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    Default Re: Question: How to handle BF bomb through text?

    Well done lad. The BF defenses are strong mate best to strong arm them. Here's what I mean.

    Your response "Life is fast, sounds like a solid relationship" is a Beta mentality. The BF defenses broke you down as it has me into us being Beta "giving up too soon" males. Here's what you could do to ANY BF defense text.

    Exhibit A
    Your target:
    "Not to be a jerk BUT I have had a BF for 6 years". Okay in your mind is that commitment to be giving out numbers to random guys? No. She was flirting with you so just no. So you flip it. Flip the script. Don't back down speed up the attraction. The opposite of most guys which is give up, and the meaning of confidence is to persist despite some level of resistance. When you remain sure of yourself that is confidence and women love what? Confidence! That's why we stay unaffected by BF cards, iceshields, cockblocks, flakes, rejections, because why? If you give up too soon you always lose!

    Push-Pull
    "Hmm 6 years sounds super exciting, yep. My odds are increasing by the minute want to chat about this over Coffee? Oh wait maybe a movie! Gosh you are just all over me" (Sarcasm, exaggeration, cliche date idea to sucker punch her, assuming already the odds are in your favor/cocky).

    The key is pleasing yourself and living your life. Screw what they think turn this BF thing into a fun little game and a joke to yourself (self-amusement) then when you achieve that you will leave regardless of the outcome a bigger better person because you never and I mean never lower your value to an eligible woman aka target. They get us all the time with that one, time to fight back. Stick it to them with humor. Girls are a sucker for a guy that makes them laugh. May the odds ever be in your favor.

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    Default Re: Question: How to handle BF bomb through text?

    Quote Originally Posted by msa173 View Post
    Great job on the Number Close

    There is no reason not to give your number to her first - provided that

    she texts you immediately after so you have her number
    your number is saved in her phone
    She was working. She wanted me to write down my number. Women are very flakey in that scenario, so I NEVER give out my number to them first without me taking there's. Sure if we had swapped number right there, that would have been fine, but I don't advocate just giving her your number and leaving it at that.


    Let me break down my response:

    No biggie - Shows that I don't care

    Sounds like a solid relationship - A little BF destroyer in case I want to ease into that later

    Life is fast and you seem like fun - I was hinting (she probably didn't pick up on it) that things can change quickly

    We'll keep a strictly platonic relationship. So I MIGHT text you something fun periodically. - Didn't have a solid response so I switched it over to the long game because I know I'm more than capable of getting her in the long run (when I say long run, I'll text her in a week or 2 and take it from there)

    I didn't come off as beta. I remained neutral. It's not a bad thing, but it's not pushing me forward. I was looking for a possible response that would push me forward in this scenario.

    I agree with your humor point, and will probably try a funnier route next time. I appreciate the help there fella.

    Anyone else have anything?

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    Default Re: Question: How to handle BF bomb through text?

    Lilst, I agree with your analysis for the most part and saw what you are trying to do.

    My call is that she does have a bf. Why?
    - If a girl said it as a sh1t test usually she wouldn't be that specific. After time elapsed, her logical side kicked in. Hell it happens a lot and it happened to the girl I'm working on.
    - The question on how old are you was sort of a way to disqualify you. My guess is if you are younger than her, it gives her reason and makes it easier for her to turn you down.

    After 6 freakin' years, I'm willing to bet that relationship is soooo comfortable and routine. Hence, she gave you her number. You are green grass. You sound like an exciting guy. She was attracted to you (at that moment), or else she wouldn't have given you her number.

    But whether she has a bf or not...Who gives a sh1t?

    I saw what you did attempting the BF destroyer, but bear in mind, the BF destroyer is only effective if you run it in it's entirety. BF destroyers takes time and you need a clear moment to articulate to her so it soaks into her head. There could've been a better answer.

    How I would've answered? Here is the nasty weapon I use on girls I really like.

    This is my favorite one. It's best done in person because you can make facial expressions, but it totally breaks the girl out of her frame with humor and they usually laugh. If she doesn't laugh she sucks. The girl I'm working on sprung this on me once. Here was the text exchange.

    -------------------------
    ME: Hey [X}, was someone able to walk u to your car on sat nite? I couldn’t stay long cuz I had an early day on Sunday.
    HER: Haha yea [X], plus imma big girl! My friend [X] showed up later that night and made sure I was safe
    ME: Cool! Ok big girl, next time ask em if he can walk you out of my mind and into my arms

    (Ok she didn't like that one lol. Plus I didn't generate attraction when I saw her before I sent this text out. So here it comes...)

    HER: [X]...u r well aware I have a bf, so I hope u only mean to dance
    ME: You have a boyfriend?? *gasp* Oh crap! Does he know about us? (lol) (for those of you who don't get it, the implication is you and her were having an affair the entire time.)
    HER: Haha...u met him
    ME: Hmmm. I have amnesia when it comes to remembering bfs. So u will have to constantly remind me. But it’s okay, he can keep you busy when I’m not around.

    I'm pleased to say that she never brought up her BF ever again to Sh1t test me or to discourage me via text. I just subcommunicated to her that I don't give a Sh1t.

    If you don't really care for the girl...other responses I had was.

    Her: Yeah. I don't want to be a jerk but it's just better if we don't go out because I have a boyfriend of 6 years and it's not fair. Sorry
    You: Oh that's adorable. Does your boyfriend treat you nice?
    Her: Yes.
    You: Oh, that's good because I wouldn't

    Another good one. A bit more serious and used on a girl you take seriously and see potential. This one is best done in person, but can still work in text. Thanks to Duke.

    You: That's cool. But let's be honest with ourselves. Life is short. We are still young. As individuals we owe it to ourselves to find the best person for us. What if we're perfect for each other? But instead of discovering that, I walk just because you are with someone who might be gone tomorrow? Let's just chill over coffee. You seem like cool person and I want to get to know you more.

    You still kept your frame here and was honest with your intentions.

    Regardless of these options, the most important advice I can give you is ...Make sure you calibrate the girl. I would go sarcastic if she is one of those club girls with a Bitch Shield. If she is one of those cute anime gamer girls, then humor.

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    Default Re: Question: How to handle BF bomb through text?

    I stand corrected on one thing.

    The girl says she is 18 y.o. and tells you she has a boyfriend for 6 years. That means she would've had to have the same bf since she was 12 y.o. (6th grade or 7th grade). Unless she is Winnie Cooper from the "Wonder Years" and the bf is Fred Savage, statistically, I find this very hard to believe. I call *cough bullshit* in some form.

    Nonetheless, her popping the weird sudden age question was still a way to DQ you, whether you are younger than her or too old for her preference.

    Anyways, whether she has a bf or not...one thing stands true...Who gives a sh1t?

    Game on!

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    Default Re: Question: How to handle BF bomb through text?

    Props to you to getting the girls number at the Subway.
    I actually work at a Subway/café type thing inside a casino and sooooo many guys hit on the hot girls I work with, but NEVER have the balls to ask for numbers, or anything other then playful banter.
    Then they come to me and ask me why he didn't ask for there number, because he was cute. They wonder if there is something wrong with them (just momentarily though). Then I tell them that its because he's a ****** and they laugh.
    I've literally never seen it happen, and I've been employed there for almost a year. So nice work.

    I personally feel like you did well in this scenario. Immortal's advice is solid, like always.
    The boyfriend thing was definitely a Sh1t Test though. Instantly I was like wtf? 18 and 6 years? No way.
    Nice post.

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    Default Re: Question: How to handle BF bomb through text?

    You can either ignore she said she said she has a bf( I think once you keep stressing that she has a bf you'll start to C-block yourself). Stay cool tell her " good for her and I have a dog" or something playful. Bang, girls won't care about their bf if you don't talk about him. Lol probably messed up but talking to girls with bf gets my blood pumping. Always look forward to obstacles when you talk to a girl.
    You lose some you win some, learn from your mistakes and get better!

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    Default Re: Question: How to handle BF bomb through text?

    Here I was thinking that I didn't correctly articulate what I was looking for, and then BAM! Immortal comes almost out of no where with divine wisdom and knowledge. You literally took what I was looking for, and provided excerpts resembling texts from Casanova's Little Black Book. You are a FRIGGIN G, and I thank you very much!! I will document this info, and record it into my "Secret Archive of Material."

    @Kyle: I hear you man. I've noticed similar situations too. Most of those guys know they're not going to go for the number, so they take more risks within those interactions, and they don't realize that it pays off. Baahh well.. More women for us ballsy fellows

    It was most likely a shit test, but I could give 2 shits if it was a test or not. She decided to shit test me, and now she has to suffer the loss of not having me. For the rest of her life, there is only a certain level of happiness that she may achieve because she shit tested the greatest thing to happen to man kind since sliced bread! Ok, enough random bullshit ranting. I'm just excited that I got some powerful new material to work with. I appreciate it fellas!!


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