So I have an ex that I've wanted to get back with for a while now. She is currently moved into a place with her current dude. They have lived together for the last year. She cut me out early last year. No contact. Blocked on everything from phone to twitter.
Worked on myself. Dated. had FWBs. Currently getting to know this new chick. BUT, a part of me still wants to get my ex back. Now I have posted this topic in the empty waste land known as "How to get your ex back" on this forum with no reply. I just want a few outside opinions on if she is dropping IOIs or if I'm thinking to deep into it. I feel like I am doing good "getting her back" going from no contact to now seems to be a big improvement. I feel like i'm in a place where I can't lose. Getting to know a new amazing girl and having an old one warm back up to me. Here are the things my Ex has done recently that has raised a couple questions in my mind
1.) Told me she has been checking out my twitter ever since I went on vacation this summer. Even asked me if some tweets were about her. (I like to post deep meaningful quotes I find, but they weren't directed towards her). She still checks out my tweets till this day. Hit me up asking if I was ok when I tweeted family is in the hospital. The kicker? She doesn't even follow me. So she searches for me each time.
2.) She told me that Me and her current dude are opposites. How he is really critical and how they argue. She also said their lease is up and she wasn't sure if she was going to move with him or move out into her own place because sometimes "she likes the space"
3.) She has told me in one message that she is "Bored at home. Watching tv. Wearing PJs. No underwear." or something along those lines. But she seriously told me she wasn't wearing underwear. Yea. She went there.
4.) Today is the biggest one to me, I invited her to lunch. She is sick and said she doesn't feel well or have the cash. I told her she could come over to my place (she never seen it) and hang out. She said "IDK if thats a good idea". So i played it off. She then goes "would you want to come here?". I almost crashed my damn car. Guys, this chick never ONCE since she met this new dude invited me over. In the past, we couldn't even do lunch because "She respects the feelings of her new BF". But now I'm invited over? We hung out, watched movies. Here is the kicker. She complimented my facial hair. We laughed about old times ect. Well her BF called her while we were hanging out and they were talking. when their convo ended I heard him say "I love you" my ex just sat there and didn't even say a word. He goes "Hello? Are you there" She like panics and "says yea sorry, loveyoutoobye" all fast. Then acts like nothing happened and puts the movie back on.
So my thing is gentleman, I love this girl. Really do. I feel like someday we will get back together and if this AFC of a boyfriend she currently has was out of the picture I think that time would be now. But i'm not sure. Do these sound like IOIs. I want other opinions because when you care about someone you have rose colored glasses on while doing it. I still want to keep talking to this new girl. We aren't official and we just met so I don't have much invested with her at all. I just want to scope out all my options.
If this was your ex, what would your thoughts be? If these are clear IOIs, do you have any good BF destroyer techniques. I mean, I feel like he is doing a good job on his own, but I wouldn't mind helping out.