I've given a handful of you advice on online game (namely POF and OKC). This example is textbook as far as what I preach, based on what I've learned through my own experience.. It's believed by a lot of guys that you need to talk to a girl for hours, or days, or send a certain number of messages before number closing or suggesting a meeting. Untrue. It is all about getting a feel for the interaction and basing your next move on her apparent level of interest. It's like a game of chess. I don't even know how to play chess. It's probably like chess..
This convo happened over the course of about 45 minutes, and is easily one of the hottest girls I've number closed since I joined POF (I've pulled somewhere around 30 numbers in 5 months).
Keep in mind I never go into a convo even remotely thinking about getting a phone number. I have no dependency on the outcome of the conversation whatsoever.
ME: Athletic, good looking and sings country? You are possibly the female version of me.
HER: Haha i dont sing well
ME: Lol I'm sure you have a pretty voice
My mom looooves country so I grew up listening to it. I don't usually sing country but I like some of it, and I did a recording recently. If you're super awesome I'll let u hear it
(I do actually sing.. And I do happen to have a drunken recording of me doing a country song as a request. I kinda hate country though. Lol)
HER: Haha i am super awesome!! And my mom loves country too so i grew up on it!!
ME: Haha so you know what I mean then.. Garth Brooks and George Strait, non-stop!
Get into any mischief over the long weekend?
HER: Ya totally! standing outside the fires gotta be my fav ... Of course i did
(Went and youtubed the song..)
ME: Have you seen the video for it? It's sooo painfully corny haha. Such a good song though.
Good I'm glad. I wanna go bull riding at *nameofbar*, haven't done it yet. You ever been?
HER: Noooo i havent but id love to go! And no i havent seen the video.
ME: I'd be stoked if I could stay on longer than like 20 seconds..
Are you blonde now or brunette? I have to ask.
HER: Lol im blonde now
ME: I see. Do blondes really have more fun? ive always thought that was a myth
(Slight neg, hoping to get her to qualify here)
HER: I thought so to!!! But actually its like 100% true so weird like ive been brunette red purple and blonde and no joke i have no idea why but i have way more fun as a blonde!!
(Her messages had all been very short up until now, this is where I know I have her hooked, and decide I'll go for the number after a few more messages. She's attracted, gonna focus more on comfort now)
ME: I dunno, I was blonde til I was like 5. And I'm absolutely having waaay more fun now than I did then!..
My cat just jumped on my keyboard and I just about sent you kjlnljkNV:IOSden;vkk sdlj......
HER: Hahahaha awww i would have been very confused
ME: I would probably just like not say anything for the rest of the night and let you be like 'wth'?.. I'm a jerk like that.
HER: Hahaha thats funny i wouldnt even be mad
(Qualifying.. My work here is done.)
ME: Lol. You seem pretty cool.. We can text like normal ppl if you want. You arent the crazy stalker type are you?
(My Number Close line.. I NEVER ask for her number. My number is the prize here. That is why they always offer theirs in the next message. 9 times out of 10)
HER: Omg no! Crazy yes stalker no lol texting is better 5554446677
As far as the length of these conversations go; I try to think in terms of how a real life situation would go, a cold approach. If you know how to build attraction etc, you aren't going to babble on for hours and let the convo become boring as shit before closing for the number..
Attraction, rapport, connection, comfort.. All pretty much simultaneously works very well I find online. As I've pointed out above you really need to gauge her reactions, and base your next message on them. My messages were longer at the start but as long as they aren't overly long, it doesn't matter.. Her messages were only short because she knows she's hot, so she was letting me do most of the talking.
As far as when I'll text her? Either a little later tonight, or tomorrow afternoon. It doesn't really matter as long as I know how to properly text.
Good luck y'all!