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    Default Text w/2 girls, help would be appreciated .

    Okay, I've been working my text game with two girls so far and I'm currently stuck in a pickle and I don't know what to do or if I even should do anything. My gut is telling me to just sit back and allow to whatever happens to happen. I think I don't need to continue engaging, but I'd really like for this to go my way, I just don't know the next step to making it happen. So, any help would be as always appreciated.

    Here are the text dialogue.

    Girl 1

    Me: Team Hardy or team Carroll?

    Her: Definitely team hardy!

    Me: It's Kevin Bacon isn't it? He had you with his wicked dance moves in Footloose. lol

    Her: yes 'm just waiting for ryan hardy to say "let's dance"

    Me: What a coincidence, me to

    Her: lmaoo with a smiley face crying from laughter

    Me: Are you a good dancer by any chance or is there a lot of stumbling going on when you're on the dance floor?

    Her: Nope I don't dance at all...lol

    Me: What?!? That't not good for your hip's health lol you gotta shake them every once in a while lol

    Her: nope lmaoo

    Me: So, for example, if you ever get asked out to a club or somewhere to dance, what excuse do you make up?

    Her: i hate going out

    Me: Lol ok. What do you like doing instead?

    Her: I'm kind of in the process of getting back together to ex so I don't think it's a good idea

    Me: Oh, another man! Lmao. Hey, it's ok, you're right, it isn't a good idea. Kevin Bacon is not going to be happy though. You have my #, if the ex remains an ex, shot me a text.

    Her: Ok lol

    Girl 2 is bit longer so I'm going to try to summarize it as best as I can and as clear as possible so that it makes sense.

    BTW, in both cases, I never started by saying, "Hey, Its me." I just jumped right in by saying something that was related to what was said in person and they automatically knew it was me and didn't ask who I was. So, that's good I guess.

    Ok Girl 2.

    Me: How is it that you're only 19 and so damn cool? You must be an alien or something. Yeah, that must be it. A cool alien from a cool planet lol

    Her: Thanks I didn't know you had to be a certain age to be cool though lol I am an alien though.

    Me: I knew it!!

    Her: You're pretty cool too so you must be an alien.

    Me: First you say I'm entertaining and super cool by including me in the class comment you made. Then you said I'm super smart and easy going by again including me in the class comment. And now you're directly calling me cool and that I also must be an alien. Hmm, this can only mean one thing...lol

    Her: That I'm friendly? I'm not crushing on anyone in the class, I just think everyone is cool

    Me: You want to kidnap me and steal me away to your alien planet! How dare you lol

    Her: Ahh you caught me! Yes I kidnap fellow cool people

    Me: Lmao, "crushing"! Lol you fell for that one! lol

    Her: People think because I'm friendly that I'm flirting so yeah

    Then we kept texting, but mostly about school stuff.

    Then finally,

    I ask her out to a music festival. I write like this: "Hey, speaking of weekend, you doing anything on Saturday? I might be able to score some free tickets to some cool music festival. Interested??

    Her: Omg I wish, I have to write an annotated bibliography and finish an essay, both due Monday. Thanks for the offer though.

    Me: Hey, no problem. Some other time though, just let me know when your schedule's free. Bye E.T lol

    Her: Haha E.T. my favorite nickname now lol

    It's a long post, sorry about that. If there's anything that anyone of you sees in there and feel like could critique it or give me some advice on, telling me what I'm doing bad or what I'm doing good, the please comment down below. I'm going to be refreshing the page every so often to read your comments. Thank again guys.

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    Default Re: Text w/2 girls, help would be appreciated .

    hmm girl 1 MIGHT not be interested, or she could have just been shit testing you.. either way you kinda farked up. you could have kept the kevin bacon being jealous and the "you're right this isnt a good idea" comment, then continued to game her, otherwise ignoring the ex boyfriend comment.

    girl 2 one the other hand seemed receptive....at first. Your text was very long and, too me at least, came off as arrogant. being cocky is one thing being arrogant is another, make sure you've built enough comfort before you tell her that you know she likes you . also when she said "People think because I'm friendly that I'm flirting so yeah", it seems like an IOD. that "so yeah" says a lot, basically shes telling you shes just being friendly not flirting.

    for the next time, dont ask the girl to go with you, tell her. try something like, "i might be getting some free tickets to this music festival saturday, you should tag along, i'll fly my spaceship over your house and beam you up" doesnt have to be exactly like that, but its much hard to say no to because you didnt ask her a question. also i cant stress enough how important it is to be fun and flirty, especially over text, try staying away from mundane topics like school and work.

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    Default Re: Text w/2 girls, help would be appreciated .

    Your first convo wasn't bad...
    But, after she mentioned "getting back with an ex" I would have said something like: "An EX? OMG.. you're such a girl..." And left it at that.

    It's gonna stir curiosity in her & throw her off her game just a bit, as well as make her subconsciously start second guessing herself about her "ex".

    The second convo, you were being too gushingly complimentary... kinda trying to hard to make her feel good. (And you beat the whole "cool horse" to death, metaphorically speaking.)

    And from the sounds of it, you stayed in Fluff talk / rapport about school too long after that.

    These are just a couple situations you need to look at & learn from.

    They're definitely not horrible & you're on the right track.
    You just need to be a little bolder & more fun / flirty.



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    Default Re: Text w/2 girls, help would be appreciated .

    Thanks a lot guys, really great advice so far. Brilliant, just completely brilliant to the both of you. I just now wish I had a DeLorean with a Flux capacitor installed so that I can insert those advises you guys gave me. But, what do you guys think? Should I continue? Forget about it and move along? If I do continue, what should I do?

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    Default Re: Text w/2 girls, help would be appreciated .

    I look at EVERYTHING as a chance to learn & try something new.... to experiment.
    Especially if it's already on the brink of crashing & burning.

    You have nothing to lose if it's already about gone... so try something different & see what happens.

    That's how I've developed some of my most effective techniques.

    The key is to have several girls in your current circle, so that a couple of them will start to go stale... which allows you to practice re-engaging & heating things up again.


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    Default Re: Text w/2 girls, help would be appreciated .

    Girl #1 low interest target. Note the length of her responses? Short. She is just basically answering your questions and no qualifying to you. All this contributes to show that she is not all that invested. Why? Who knows, maybe she is multitasking...maybe she is getting back with her ex (which was the longest sentence). You were successful in getting her to respond by being interesting/challenging/playful (despite her boring response) so you did the best you could.

    T-Mal suggested a really good counter to that getting back with ex. I too would leave it at that and move on.

    Girl #2 Your best bet. Sounds like a cool chick who is invested and responsive. She plays along with you which is a nice ioi.

    You did good. No criticism (at least for this go), just a heads up. Once you know the basic textings do's and don'ts and get good at them, you can break the rules. To do that ALWAYS CALIBRATE the girl. The second girl, yes you did get caught up in friendly Fluff talk, but the girl was receptive and she even gave you value (e.g: Her: You're pretty cool too so you must be an alien.) She kept the 'cool' dynamics going. Not all girls will be like this so be wary and get ready to mirror them.

    Just remember, one of the general rules of texting game is texting should be used to close for a meet not for conversations. That should always be your goal - setting up for a REAL conversation. All that banter regarding school, save it. You don't want to be her texting buddy and playing text grab-ass. A few more exchanges like this and that is what you will become. I do break rules and engage in fluff talk once in a while, but it is usually because I texted a girl to stay on her radar and all this is based on my calibration of how emotionally invested she is.

    Texting should be efficient surgical strike of a few lines of exchanges with a goal in mind.
    1. Sparking her emotions with an opener that pulls her out of her boredom trance.
    2. Drawing a connection between you two. This is something you can only say to this girl.
    3. Handle logistics for a close.

    Keeping it brief helps demonstrates higher value to you that you are not making yourself available to get caught up in fluff talk. Your time is precious as you got rl going on. Also I would like to point out that in HS and college, girls got time to be textaholics, but once you step out in the real world and deal with women with responsibilities, you won't have much of this luxury. I would say close to 90% of my texts are no more than 8 exchanges with the women I deal with due to the frequency of their responses.

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    Default Re: Text w/2 girls, help would be appreciated .

    But, what do you guys think? Should I continue? Forget about it and move along? If I do continue, what should I do?
    Missed this question. Stay on girl #2. There was nothing you did that was a dealbreaker, trust me. There's other posters that need the DeLorean more than you do, including myself and some of my past mistakes. Her reasons for not being able to go out with you seems genuine and is no indication that she likes you any less. Dating is all about timing and where you are in your headspace.

    Just keep trying with playful persistence. Casually hit her up (the way ThtNikkaGP suggested) and throw out invites keeping your expectations low. You don't need to overplan an event. Just something casual like coffee is good. The less distracting the environment, the more she can focus on you.

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    Default Re: Text w/2 girls, help would be appreciated .

    @I.M.Mortal

    Thanks for the advice and support man. I'm planning on texting her this Sunday and I actually was going to send something not so brief, I was thinking a sort of suspenseful fun text a bit long, but reading your comment makes more sense. SO, I think it is best that my next text is brief and that it establishes a small casual get together for coffee as you explained. I think that's perfect. I'm going to do like what ThtNikkaGP said, I'm not going to ask her to get together for coffee, I'm going to tell her. There's a few great casual places around our campus where we can meet up. Thing is, how should I open and how can I lead towards saying lets get coffee?

    Here are just some examples that I'm thinking:

    Hola, E.T. how was your girl's weekend?

    wait for her to respond and then say, "I might be (or I am) getting coffee by so and so, you should tag along.

    Thats all I got right now.

    If you have anything better, then please.

    Dude, I don't know if you know, but seriously thanks for the help man.

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    Default Re: Text w/2 girls, help would be appreciated .

    Alex, if you are serious in improving text game, I highly recommend you to read Magnetic Messaging by Bobby Rio because most of your questions and future questions will be answered there. It's a highly efficient system called Key Lock Sequence. He also gives examples of strong openers that usually are effective in sparking a girl's emotion. I never regret spending money on that product.

    What you don't want to do...is stuff like "Hey, what are you up to?" You will annoy her because that is one inconvenience she has to answer. Not attractive.

    Your opening line looks fine. Within it, you established a connection (the E.T. inside joke) HOWEVER, you just don't want to jump straight into asking her out. Probably a few lines in between to cultivate a stronger connection, just not as long as your other stuff.

    Here is an example of my text to a girl. It's a holding pattern text to stay on her radar because we can't see each other because she is out of town.

    12:39p – ME: Those brown bedroomy eyes, that sweet sexy smile, that body...oooh so hot! Anyways, enough about me Just checkin’ to see if you made it to Vegas ok with that late drive and sore leg.
    12:42p – HER: Haha u so crazy! Yup I made it! thanks for checking!
    12:52p – ME: Awesome! Have fun! Don’t rob all the casinos, save some for me. And if any drunk guys try to pick you u up, bust out the boyfriend card and tell ‘em “Sorry, I have 2 boyfriends” (lol)
    3:59p – HER: I’m not a gambler, drinker, smoker, but I do love getting dressed up and dancing the night away! So the casino’s money is safe and will remain the casino’s money. Two bfs...u. r. bad.

    [I ended the exchange by letting her be the last one to say the final word]

    As seen here, she even went as far as qualifying to me, an ioi.

    My D1 with her was actually closed in person, but if I wanted to set it over text, I could've said something like...

    ME: Well, when you get back in town from shredding the dance floor and breaking hearts, I'm checking out this sushi restaurant on [X]. Come join me! I'm sure by then you'll work up an appetite.

    What I essentially did was a key lock sequence without step 3.


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