How does one ask somebody if they are in a relationship these days? This sounds dumb but it is a legitimate question. I remember in middle school it was "will you go out with me?" but we are well past that. Recent girlfriends I've had it pretty much went down like this: we went on a date, we fucked, I asked later if we were in a relationship (felt so awkward, but they were girls I had a thing for for awhile so I wanted one with them so I did it anyway) to which they either said yes and giggled or would ask if I really wanted to (indicating we were both unsure about the situation) and be all happy about it. How do you know when your at the point where you call yourselves boyfriend and girlfriend without saying something like that? I'm upgrading my standards to "hard" girls that are 8 or above for girlfriends so I can avoid the other dude being inside my girl thought as much as possible so if I'm doing that, I obviously can't fuck them before I establish that we are a couple exclusive to each other.