Alright guys I know what you're thinking.. I'm usually one of the guys giving frequent online dating advice around here. I get it. However, Facebook is different in so many ways.. I've used it a few times, I probably have 5 to 10 girls on my Facebook just from randomly adding them over the years. In fact, I even went on a date recently with a girl that I added like 3 years ago. So I HAVE had some success with it. However, this situation is a little different.
I was searching for a particular girl that I met at a party when I came across an absolutely stunning girl in her early 20's. Like, so so sooo hot. HB11. The perfect girl. She was hot, had awesome pictures, her profile was clearly 100% real, and she was even mutual friends with a girl I know who used to have a thing for me, so, given that she asked about me upon me adding her, I know she would get only good feedback about me. So naturally I did what anyone would do: I added her. This was about a week ago.
Yesterday I log into the Book of Faces and what do ya know? "Friend request accepted, you are now friends with *girlyouwanttobangso hard*". Anyways.. So I was stoked. In fact I think I even let out an "Awwww shit, it's so on!" and then proceeded to dry hump my coffee table.
So here's my thing when it comes to Facebook. As most of you know.. I have no problem opening on POF or any dating site, I can pretty much stir up any type of conversation and get a phone number. So why am I a little stifled with this situation? Well, how do you approach it effectively? I immediately made the decision to wait a day to open her. Opening her yesterday with a message would be too soon considering I added her a week ago, might look like I've been waiting eagerly for her to add me. Not good.
Taking it slow and liking/commenting on her status's/pics etc before actually sending a message is another option. Again though, that strikes me as needy and kind of lame. So, I think the best way would be to message her this afternoon and just be a cool ass motherfarker, like it's no big deal. My profile and pics are good on FB so my chances aren't that bad I figure. I still feel like it's weird adding a random on Facebook and then chatting her up.. It poses huge obstacles right off the bat.
Here's my question and the main reason why I'm posting this. When I open, what do you guys think is the best approach? Do I tell her straight up that I added her because I think she's beautiful and I'd like to get to know her? Do I say that I actually thought she was a different *hername* and that I added her by accident, but since she's such a cutie I thought I'd say hello? (Kinda leaning towards a variation of this) Or do I take some other angle? Perhaps using one of my dating site openers would even work here.. I want to be able to shift the conversation into my usual cocky/funny/smartass non-chalant fun interaction as quickly as I can without any BS.
So, do I go direct?.. Or do I beat around the bush a little to Take Away any thought that I'm a weirdo? Remember guys, this girl is very very ridiculously hot. I'm gonna have to essentially blow her mind in this convo if she's even gonna consider giving me her phone number. I think that's why I'm thinking I should stay away from being too direct. She probably gets that every day.
Anyone else get that feeling that adding girls on FB and then chatting them up is weird? I've always mostly just stayed away from it. Makes me feel dirty. Lol.
Discuss! And thanks for reading.