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    Default Need advice: Loss of confidence in my woman

    I've never been huge on the pick up game for the sense of picking up girls to fark and run, just because I typically get my emotions involved. However, I came to PUA when I was younger because this website had many things that help me shift my inner game from a straight socially anxious pacifier sucking p*ssy to a guy that is confident in his social ability and feels comfortable in his own skin. *this is about 4 years in the making*

    I pulled the perfect girl for me, or so it seems, so I invested the last two months into getting to know her and spending time with her.

    Without posting all the details I'm clearly emotionally involved, physically involved, on and on, but we aren't officially together.. Yet.

    So she's on vacation with her club sports team

    When she left, I explained to her that I didn't expect her to talk to me that much because I wanted her to have fun with her ladies, *not trying to get her to respond, but actually being honest* she replied are you kidding? Of course I'll have time to talk to you.

    I kept pulling away, but if she seemed overly talkative over text then I would text back asking all about her. I confidently reminded her how much I cared, without wanting to come off too needy.

    So one night she doesn't text me back that night or in the morning *which she had been doing* she texts me back the next day whining about her trip blah blah blah. So I sent her a three word text to put her in her place. No answer for a whole day. The next day I send a text telling her that "I wouldn't mind if she decided she wanted to text me back" while keeping the frame as relaxed as possible over text.

    Long story short, she says she was upset by what I said, so she didn't respond, I tell her to not ignore me because she's upset with me, and that I didn't know how else rot respond to her complaints. She says sorry and it won't happen again. She goes on to tell me that she is going to bed but she'll text me that next day when they safely arrive to the next location.

    That was two days ago. I haven't heard from her since. I definitely don't want to double text. I don't want to come off as too needy and honestly, I couldn't give a Effffff right now because she's not appreciating me.

    My confidence is actually at a low point right now, so it's tough and that's why I need advice. Am I making the right move by Freezing Her Out? My only hesitation is that we've already established heavy physical connection, so usually now I would just pour it on to make her mine. I actually do really want to be with her, but not if she's going to say she's gonna do something then not do it.

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    Default Re: Need advice: Loss of confidence in my woman

    Instead of "putting her in her place" when she was venting to you, you could have easily handled it in a positive way by saying something like "Awwww, that sucks! I'm sorry to hear that. Tell ya what, when you get back we're gonna do something awesome! "

    That would have sparked her curiosity & she would've stopped complaining & instead, she'd be wondering what you had in mind.

    You could've then said "I don't know yet.. I haven't had time to think, silly goose! xoxoxo"

    Don't freeze a girl out when YOU were kinda the one who screwed up.
    Instead, apologize for being insensitive at the time & then switch gears to something more fun & upbeat.


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    Default Re: Need advice: Loss of confidence in my woman

    Yeah, you're right that's very true! I appreciate that.


    However, my questions was more how do I go about it now, seeing as she said she would text me.. I responded saying,"hope you have fun, looking forward to hearing about your adventures." Then nothing... For two days. That's why I'm more on the Freeze Out. Am I right in that thinking?

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    Default Re: Need advice: Loss of confidence in my woman

    Skip the Freeze-Out & re-initiate contact with something fun, just to get her responding again.

    Here are a few examples on how to be totally random & create a fun vibe that SHOULD put a smile on her face & make her want to respond:

    "I just saw a little girl push her brother down & take his toy... made me think of you. "

    "Hey, if you were me, would you choose pizza or tacos for dinner tonight?"

    "Hey Spunky-Pants, need your help! Do bow-ties go okay with a welding mask?"

    "I was just thinkin... if you were here right now I would totally buy you this puppy. He's totes adorbs!!"


    Silly, random things like that are hugely successful in getting a response. Then once you have her interacting, you can switch gears to whatever else you want.



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    Default Re: Need advice: Loss of confidence in my woman

    Whelp.. Turns out be Freeze Out worked. She just gave me a call



    Thanks for the advice!


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