I met this HB9 2 mos ago and we work together 4x a week. Currently i am very busy with school and work overnights with her. I havent been dating in a while but i meet new girls every week from parties most of which are NOT my type. This girl is 22, In a 5 year relationship(FIRST BF), doesnt have a lot of friends, smart but a bit indecisive about her career so her focus is mostly on her bf.
The first few weeks we worked together ive built lots of attraction, future projections and lots of kino, she would msg me first, call me first, tag me on fb, tease me and flirt back. She would talk to me about how her bf stopped making effort in the relationship after 2 mos they got together. theyve broken up before and when i ran boyfriend destoyers she did tell me "she knows what she should do". I will become a Nurse by the end of the year while the Bf has a medical condition which prevents him from working and he cant drive because of it while. She mentioned to me the burden she would have in the future because of his condition.
Now 2 weeks ago, something changed, theyre cool with each other again and my coworker and Old 50 yr old retired NY taxi driver who makes consistent jokes about us being together, told her i was really serious with her and her reply was 'but what about my bf'. I have a feeling that shame and guilt is preventing her from leaving him since she is a 'good girl'. the only time she considered cheating on him once was holding this guy's hand! and she said she felt bad because of it. moving on, after he said that and after her bf became nice again, i got less ioi's for a week and no more fb tagging, initiating texts. I decided to game harder and still be consistent, i have not revealed my feelings for her i dont want her to feel i am more attracted to her more than she is attracted to me and i play hard to get all the time. when i gamed her harder she did become flirty towards me again. so i decided escalated it a bit, like bite her shoulder while im behind her and 2 days ago i massaged her back since her back really hurt. nonetheless, she still loyal to the bf. we never went out on a date and i never kissed her before, i am aware this might be a oneitis but i plan to go sarging again and go to several dates after school in 5 weeks.
during the first few weeks i was getting a lots of iois when they were fighting i felt like she just held onto me for validation during times she's not getting the attention from her bf. but im not sure since she took my advice from the heart and knows that she should stop seeing him. Now she wont talk about her bf, there were 2 instances she was wearing a pearl necklace instead of the one her bf gave to her, 2nd time i learned about it i discovered she wears it bcoz shes was pissed at bf (bf did not want to invite her to a surpriese party this weekend for a friend of his during elementary and makes excuses why she cant come). i let a few hours pass and she didnt want to tell me stuff about her bf but she would talk about other things. so i had to initiate the convo about whats going on. and i did my thing boyfriend destroyer, boyfriend destroyer and her reply was... 'well hes been good lately' like as a good boy its just the thing about the party.
my question is what do you guys think about the sudden change of the way she responds to me. im lucky were flirting again, but now she wouldnt talk first about her relationship probs and give me attention outside work e.g. text, fb. Was it because she thinks i like her and she knows i have intentions to date her? or is she protecting herself from getting feelings towards me? i mean like she did let me give her a massage without hesitation...
Is it a good idea to tell her 'shes not my type' yet continue gaming her? or sould i continue with what im doing with her knowing that i like her? I have a feeling that this girls has adapted since she my coworker told her that i like her, and im worried if i use more techniques to disqualify her bf she might become defensive instead of taking it in and think that i am being sincere.
I am confused, i know some of you has been with this kind of girl before and i hope you guys can give me insight and guidance.