Re: She loved my opener but then no response
Your opener was top notch but when you said "Anything is more interesting than coding to be fair haha", you instantly DLVd yourself. How? By making fun of her passion/career/whatever.
I'm a mariner and I can joke about how my engineer is a drunken oaf who sits in the engine room all day "working". But if someone else were to say that to him, he'd probably knock them out. Point is: When you're messaging a girl, don't disqualify them or what they say. Disqualify yourself. If you were to disqualify your own interests, two things could happen: 1. She could re-qualify them which shows to you that she's interested. Or, 2. She could disqualify them, and then you could proceed to neg her in whatever way you choose.
Secondly, when you said "Been at both for years - it's pretty much my job now. If you're a good girl I could maybe give you a few pointers sometime", it basically said "You don't owe me anything, but, you should be accepting of whatever I have to say and hopefully we can on a date". Sorry if that sounds a bit harsh, but that's what I took out of it.
Always think through your messages. Not so much as to over analyze them, but enough to actually understand what it is that you're saying and whether or not you'd like to read that coming from someone else.
"You know what my dream for this summer is? To have all the girls that you and I have farked this summer out on the SS Vagina."
"That is the dream. It'll be one big mess of bad decisions and failed relationships."
"We're the guys you don't introduce your parents to."