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Thread: Chatted with girl on FB, need help on what to say next

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    Default Chatted with girl on FB, need help on what to say next

    Looked through recommended friends, found her, thought she was cute and added her. Poked her, than she poked me back like a day later

    [SORRY I ALSO POSTED THIS IN TEXT HELP BY MISTAKE]



    Me: Why'd you poke me

    Her: I don't remember poking you. If I did, it's probably because it said you poked me. I never poke someone first

    Me: why whats wrong with poking

    Her: What? Nothing?

    Me: Okayyy

    Her: I'm so confused

    Me: Yes
    Me: I mean maybe

    Her: Maybe what?

    Me: Oh wait I thought you said something different, I'mconfused now lol
    Me: do you know this kids show called Sam and Cat, there's this girl with red hair, you look JUST like her

    Her: Like Cat?

    Me: Cat?
    Me: Ohhh yeah that's it, I dont watch it much I only watched Drake and Josh

    Her: I look nothing like her haha

    Me: Is your hair dyed red in the picture with the lottery tickets or am I just crazy

    Her: Haha I think it's just the lighting

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    Default Re: Chatted with girl on FB, need help on what to say next

    Wow seriously no replies still?

    Someone, I just need some advice soon

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    Default Re: Chatted with girl on FB, need help on what to say next

    Don't fret, help is here (Advance apology for the harshness).

    First off are you allergic to punctuations in IMing? You need to start using some question marks.

    You're sending some mediocre messages to her so either the girl is bored and wants to talk to people or finds you attractive.

    You're sending messages to her like you would banter with a friend. Tell her you think Cat is gorgeous and that it is a good thing she looks like her. Then change subjects. Get her to open up to you dude. Get to know her and most importantly flirt! Don't be seen just a friendly facebook friend but as a guy she wants to meet up with.

    Be more interesting and high energy bro! I fell asleep reading your post it is like a transcript from a deposition. BE FUN AND UNIQUE

    I'm no Facebook expert with strangers, I prefer Daygame but if you look up others like T-Mal or just browse the site I'm sure you'll get more information on how to message a girl online.

    Your messaging skills are rough at this point but I believe you can reel this girl in.


    Good luck playboy.
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    Default Re: Chatted with girl on FB, need help on what to say next

    I'm 20, and most of the people in my networks are too, I have fine vocabulary, and I could easily just start doing just that... but I honestly feel if I start going 'You look lovely tonight darling.' I'll either look like a straight up weirdo or a geek.

    I don't want to be caught in a conversation where she's going 'K, hi how ya doing??' and I'm talking like a English Professor. At the part where I went 'Maybe, yes', she was confused so I thought I could make the situation funny by being a little random.

    Well anyway, I did a convo today and it didn't turn out so good:


    Me: Hey dude hows it going
    Me: Now you go to [Blahblah school] right, so you know this kid named Kevin?

    Her: Kevin who?

    Me: Oh Idk I just sat at lunch with him
    Me: You're a Senior right?

    Her: Yeah

    Me: I think he is too idk
    Me: I gotta go to the gas station to get some snacks lol
    Could I get your Cell real quick so we can txt?

    Her: I don't wanna give out my number

    Me: K that's alright I thought you were cute and wanted to see if I could talk to you, that's it.


    I don't know what I did at the end, I'm not devastated or anything, maybe I can pull the Sympathy card (Is there such a thing in PUA?) but I'm not going to make any assumptions

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    Default Re: Chatted with girl on FB, need help on what to say next

    Someone will come along and give you a step by step analysis of your text game but I am too lazy to do that at this moment. I'll give you the quick n' dirty on how you fudged up. This is more of a critique than advice. I again state than I am not a professional when it comes to online game.

    1. Your Opener Sucked!

    Hey dude is something you say to a platonic friend, not a girl you want to be romantically involved with. On top of the friendly opener you double messaged her with another question. Stick to one question at a time.

    2. Your Conversation Topic was Mediocre.

    Don't get the girl thinking about another guy! Get her into your own little world of you and her. Leave her anticipating what you're going to say. Your conversation is too friendly and not flirtatious or interesting at all.

    3. (Another double message) You Literally Said Nothing of Substance the whole time.

    You go from, "Hey dude..." to "Kevin" to getting snacks. All with her saying a 3 WORDS. You invested way more into the conversation then she did and I can't blame her. Your first conversation at least was somewhat interesting when you talked about her looking like Ariana Grande.

    4. The Number Close

    After establishing no sexual tension, fun, flirtation, rapport, or investment on her part, you then ask for her number. At least when you ask for the number be direct don't say Could I, May I, Can I, Will You, or anything where you are asking for her number in such a needy way. A better response would have been, "About to rob a gas station for it's goodies, I need your number, you may need to bail me out :P" or something playful and energetic.

    You showed too much timidness and didn't build up any type of comfort with this girl yet asked her for her number. You didn't give her enough to want to give you her number.

    5. You AFC'd the ending.

    You say to me you don't want to sound like an English Professor. What I meant was show some INTEREST. You wait till the end of the conversation when she rejects you to say you think she's cute. That being said... Don't Apologize For Going After What You WANT. You should have been direct with her at the beginning so it set the tone early.

    In summary, this was longer than I expected. Also you need to work on being direct early, flirting, building rapport, and being more assertive/interesting. MAKE GIRLS LOOK FORWARD TO YOUR MESSAGES. Don't get a sympathy number that's worse than getting rejected because it is false hope. Read up on some online game (T-MAL and others on the interwebs) and you'll be fine.
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    Default Re: Chatted with girl on FB, need help on what to say next

    Wow that's great stuff, I gotta study more

    Is there also possibility she's just stuck up or isn't open to talking with random people? She seems to have a smaller friends list and the phone number comment I feel like she'd say that to any guy talking through her through FB Chat...or am I just talking like a AFC?

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    Default Re: Chatted with girl on FB, need help on what to say next

    You're talking pretty AFC to be completely honest bro. But hey it happens! You live and you learn.

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    Default Re: Chatted with girl on FB, need help on what to say next

    You're totally unsure about everything & it shows. And being TOO random in an "A.D.D." way isn't helping either.

    The "lol" you added after telling her you were going to get snacks gave a totally nervous vibe. Never use "lol" unnecessarily.

    It's like when guys message girls on dating sites... soooo many of them say stuff like:

    Hi, I'm John, lol!

    You're cute LOL

    Hey, how are you? lol

    What's up? I'm Steve lol

    Wow, you like the Bears? Me too lol!

    Hello, I'm Mike, I just wanted to say hi lol!

    That's cool you like the beach lol!


    You get the idea...
    DON'T do that.

    Another common mistake is to go for the number too soon, and without confidence.
    Build attraction first.. ALWAYS! (Flirt. Then flirt some more.)

    Once you make a girl attracted, you can get her number effortlessly. A lot of times (as long as you've done your part with flirting) SHE will give it without you even having to ask.

    Facebook is a different ballgame than online dating, or club game, or day game... But there ARE plenty of techniques that work well in ALL situations.
    Those being: Express confidence & learn to flirt!

    Practice "flirting" with people you're not interested in. Basically just be sociable & have fun teasing/bantering/joking around with EVERYBODY.

    Your skills will improve immensely & quickly if you do that.



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    Default Re: Chatted with girl on FB, need help on what to say next

    ^ i will make note of that. thanks


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