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    Default Re: Exchange with HB8.5 who asked a friend to give me her number

    I asked her on our date, if she preferred texting or talking on the phone. She was indifferent about it and said that she's not the type to constantly be on her phone. She even stated that one of her biggest "pet peeves" are people glued to their cells.

    So I think she's just one of those girls who isn't a super hyper texter, that floods your phone with emoticons and "LOLZ". Which is nice, but occasionally hard to gauge

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    Default Re: Exchange with HB8.5 who asked a friend to give me her number

    No matter what she says about phones if she is interested enough in you she will forget about that pet peeve.

    All you need to do is be that person that makes her want to use her phone for the anticipation of communicating with you.

    Keep your texts fun, unique, and engaging!
    Stop Thinking,Start Living!

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    Default Re: Exchange with HB8.5 who asked a friend to give me her number

    This girl has to be one of the driest texters I've spoken to lol... After she didn't reply to my message on Tues morning (made a joke about me falling asleep while texting), I spoke to our mutual friend, on Thurs, to get some insight. Cause if I were to base HB's interest level solely on her texts, I would assume she wasn't. However, my friend told me that she saw HB Weds night and said "She said pretty much what u said lol That you guys had a good time". Then she gave me suggestions about where to take HB for our second date (they are very close friends, so I'm sure HB would say she wasn't interested if she wasn't. And the friend would immediately tell me if something was off. She's like a cousin to me)

    So Thurs at around 9PM, I sent:
    ME: So while you get spoiled by, what I assume is, an unlimited supply of chocolate and food this weekend... This is all I'm left with: (sent a pict of me holding a jar of nutella, making a disappointed face)

    (10 mins later)
    HER: I am jealous of that nutella. Work got absolutely crazy today and I now have to go in for a few hours tomorrow on my day off
    HER: No country house till tomorrow afternoon

    (15 mins later)
    ME: That sounds awful! I'd offer you some to make you feel better, but I dunno if I'm willing to share my last jar :P
    ME: What time do you have to go in?

    (hour and 20 later)
    HER: Whenever I want I just have to finish up some stuff. I have physio at 9 so I'll probably go from 10-1 and then head up

    (20 mins later)
    ME: Ohh ok that's not too bad. You'll be spoiled by the easter bunny in no time! Just in time for the mimosas

    (30 mins later)
    HER: Haha right now I'm on to the gin so all is okay

    (15 mins later)
    ME: Rebel. Lol mimosas are for grandmas anyway! How many glasses deep.. 2? 4? 10?
    HER: 4 now. My roomie made me one while I was almost sleeping in bed post work
    ME: Those are the best roommates! Bob (name of old roommate who is the brother of the mutual friend I mentioned above. HB knows very well) was like that. Walking around the apartment with a bottle of wtv and a shisha pipe lol

    (13 mins later)
    HER: Haha that is amazing. I mean I am used to university waking up to beers on my bedside table so it's pretty standard

    (10 mins later)
    ME: Lol don't even get me started about that! Ok, question for you... Craziest drunken thing you did in college. Go.

    (Here she explains some College stunt, which I won't go into detail about. But it's pretty funny)
    ME: :/ That's like a 20 hour drive... haha
    HER: Yup. But I did it...
    ME: I don't even want to try and understand the logistics behind that... You're gonna have to explain it when I see you next week
    ME: Lol but you definitely win with that one
    HER: Haha that story always wins
    ME: Makes mine look like childsplay haha... Fucking Americans (we're both Canadian fyi, and we love the U.S, so don't worry :P)
    HER: Haha no (stunt) clearly. I need to get home soon. Such a grandma

    (20 mins later)
    ME: It's ok, you get some points for being one. Where did you guys go?
    HER: Just (Name of bar). Home now
    ME: Lucky, I'm almost home. I'll let you sleep grandma. Have a goodnight

    Obviously no reply since then.. I know that I'm investing a little too much effort in the conversations, compared to her. But if I mirror her monotonousness, our convos will be so damn dull! Like we discussed, I'm trying to keep things light and fun, so that she's eager for a date next week. It's reassuring that she was texting back pretty often at around 12-1 am, while out with friends. But her responses are pretty surface level (as usual). My main concern is that she's just being polite, due to my close relationship with mutual friend. But I continuously tell myself, she wanted to kiss you on the date. She's been this dry since day one, so shut up.

    It's just that, any other texting convo I have going, the women can't stop sending me "hahahahahha's" and always eager to talk to me. Maybe I'm always catching HB at a bad time or she's just farking boring? Or she just takes some time to open up.. On our date, she started off distant and reserved, but opened up as the night went on. So maybe same thing? Based on your reactions to my previous posts, I assume I'm a decent texter (and I always try to be light, fun and flirty). But she'll never really acknowledge the flirts.. Which leads me to doubt the interest.

    Plan is to wait till sunday to send a happy easter text, make some light banter and ask her out for either tues or weds. That is, unless she initiates before then... Which I doubt

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    Default Re: Exchange with HB8.5 who asked a friend to give me her number

    So hit her up last night, where she replied immediately and it was rapid fire for an hour or so. Talking about the NHL playoffs and just doing the usual jokes and push/pull. She seemed a lot more invested this time around (more laughing/joking on her part, sent a pic of her playoff TV setup) and once I felt we reached our peak, sent her:

    ME: Btw Weds or Thurs I'm taking you out. You choose the date, I choose the place! Promise no seafood (told me she hates seafood)
    HER: I'm my dad's date for an event on Thurs but I'll let you know for Weds... (explains how crazy her week will be with a new shipment coming in at work and they sometimes stay till early morning hours)
    ME: Haha that sounds awful! Ya let me know for Weds, but would the weekend be easier? I might have Friday night free
    HER: I can probably do Friday. Let's keep in touch this week though and figure something out
    ME: Sounds good! Alright, gonna head to bed, early meeting. Have a safe drive home! (she was coming back from the country)
    HER: Alright night night!

    I usually never add a day to my already offered choices, but figured it wouldn't hurt to give her a weekend option to really test her interest to see me. But yes I know, making myself too available... I'm still 50/50 on it all, but at least she's saying she wants to figure a date out. Thoughts on her response?

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    Default Re: Exchange with HB8.5 who asked a friend to give me her number

    Well, it seems that my gut was right... Last Tues I texted her and flirted, to which she seemed to a either completely change the topic or go back to my previous non flirty text from before.. So my patience was growing thin and asked how Weds was looking for us to meet (she previously said we should keep in touch to figure something out that week). After waiting about two hours for a reply, where the rest of the convo was rapid fire, she told me that her boss was already asking her what she wanted for take out for Weds night... In preparation for their long night at the office. No mention for the Friday or any other day, so told her "Alright sounds good! Enjoy the game (hockey)"

    Haven't spoken to her since. She never msg me to resched or figure anything out, like I expected. I've been going on dates with others and fielding a lot of interest from tinder, so I'm not hung up on her. But do you guys feel like there's any juice left to squeeze here, or don't bother?

    Was thinking about dropping her one more line, but it feels like it's just gonna be the same old flakiness and I don't like wasting my time for anyone.. But I'm still curious to see if I can get this done.. Any suggestions?

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    Default Re: Exchange with HB8.5 who asked a friend to give me her number

    Bosox,

    Late response here.

    I mentioned in another post that “Dating is all about Timing.” From the sounds of it, she is genuinely busy and it is work related, not her choosing some other leisure activity over you. Also, based on what you described from your D1 and your texting exchange, her interest is there. So yes, there is still juice to squeeze. Depending on how much you like this girl, you are just going to have to be patient. So timing is not in your favor. It doesn’t mean she likes you any less.

    I also speak from present experience. HB I’m working on is busy as well. Although I see her 3 to 4 times a week in a professional setting, I only went out with her 3 times within the 4 months I started asking her out. There was a lot of rescheduling on her part because private lessons keep popping up in her already tight schedule and she needs to prioritize work. But her interest is definitely there. The difference between her and your girl, is she suggests alternate dates whenever she reschedules.

    All you can do is maintain “playful persistence” and hit her up once in a while keeping low expectations and without overplanning. You are correct to work on other girls so you don’t get too hung up over this one.

    Other suggestions...

    A Freezeout is not necessary. Use a freezeout only if there is disinterest or her interest is declining. I am not certain how often you are texting her, but if you are hitting her up once every 3 days, I would change it up to once a week. Then back to 3 days. Make it appear as if you got other things to do other than to text her.

    Texting shouldn’t be used for conversations. You don’t want to fall into the trap of being her texting buddy. When you text her things such as “Ok, question for you... Craziest drunken thing you did in college. Go.” This is stuff you save for in-person conversations. Texting is for logistics. You have only one goal in texting – Either a holding pattern text in case you can’t meet OR close and you do it simply this way.
    - A good opener to spark her emotions
    - Insert a hook
    - Get personal and draw a connection – this is only something you can say to this girl due to a past experience shared (e.g - inside joke, etc)
    - Create a future memory
    - Ask her out and set up a date

    And that’s it. You shouldn’t need to exchange more than 10 lines. Short, succinct and powerful is more effective than a texting conversation.

    She already told you that she is not a phone phreak, so don’t expect her to be responsive to all your texts or use that as an indicator of her interest. This is where you have to read between the lines. For example, short responses usually mean low investment in the conversation

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    Default Re: Exchange with HB8.5 who asked a friend to give me her number

    Thanks for the reply! Honestly, I would msg her once every 2-3 days. And now it was a week that I haven't spoken to her. So, took your advice and re-opened with an inside joke. She took it well and was engaged in the conversation. Negged her a little, which she playful went with. I then proceeded to ask her out again to which I got:

    "I leave for (city) on Friday for my marathon. Have a date with mom tmrw night and a dinner at my place with the girls Thursday. I literally cannot remember my last free night... or a night I left the office before 8-9 in a long time haha"

    So I replied: "Haha jesus that's crazy! No worries. Well let's do this, when you get back, if you wanna grab a drink let me know and we'll figure it out "

    She never replied. I get what you're saying that she may be genuinely busy, but now that's the third time she turns me down with no alternate dates. So I felt that it would be best to leave it in her court, even though we all know women never take initiative. Think my last ditch effort will be on Sunday where I'll say:

    "Monday. 9:30PM be outside your place. I'm taking you out for Mcdonald's or pizza (her fav). Your choice.."

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    Default Re: Exchange with HB8.5 who asked a friend to give me her number

    Alternate dates are not the only indicators of interest, but it is pretty up there. She seems to be going out of her way to explain her reasons.

    In your case, if I recall, your girl mentioned, she doesn't mind you hitting her up. From my experience there are three types of girls and their response. 1) Confident girls who appreciate your persistence 2) Player girls (Playettes) who likes the attention 3) Insecure/Low esteem girls who thinks you are crowding her if they are not interested (avoid these).

    If Sunday is a no go. Change it up. Hit her up once every 2 weeks, and then a month. During that month, go out with other women.

    Another thing you can do on your next attempt is bait her to suggest an alternate date. Ask her is "You seem to be quite busy as of late. When will you not be busy?" Let her suggest a date. If she says, she is not sure. Then say, "Np" and hit her up 2 weeks later.

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    Default Re: Exchange with HB8.5 who asked a friend to give me her number

    Have a fun little story to add on here boys... lol

    So she (we'll call her Claire from now on) has never replied since my "If you wanna grab a drink, let me know" msg. I moved on and went after better leads. Anyway, I met a cute HB8 on POF (we'll call her Marie) to which we found out we were going to the same bday party, at a bar. She was excited to meet me and I already knew that this was a done deal. Pictures were really cute, with tight body also...

    Here I am, having drinks with the bday boy, when this massive woman, with a familiar face walks up to me. She grabs my arm and says "Hey bosox! It's me, Marie!". I showed my buddies her pics, and all of our mouths dropped. This woman was clearly an extra 60 pounds heavier. Minimum. And wouldn't you know it, Claire pops up at this party as well - and I see her grinding on some dude. She looks over and sees this mammoth of a woman talking me up and kinda laughs and smiles... Uhhgh.

    I play it cool and act polite to Marie where she leaves for the washroom. Claire walks over to say hi and asks how I've been. Then goes on talking about how she's working with my cousin now, and other non-sense. Gave her the cold shoulder, in a "I don't have time for you" way (she was falling on her ass while dancing, acting like a high schooler and was really turning me off). So she went back to dancing and grinding lol... But I catch her looking over every now and then.

    Marie comes back and starts asking me who's my favorite Game of Thrones character, and then my cousin bails my out saying "We gotta celebrate with the bday boy! You guys can talk later!".... Thank god for him.

    Anyway, after averting being stuck on some makeshift date with a false advertiser, I spot another HB8 (Laura) at the bar and approach her. Things go really well, making her laugh and poking fun at her. But she had to step outside for a cigarette, so told her to come find me later. Once she returned, she found me and started to talk to me again. A lot more flirting, Kino and all the good stuff. My buddy then walks over and whispers in my ear that Claire has been looking over at me and Laura a bunch of times and she seems bothered. I laughed it off and continued hunting Laura, to which I saw it myself, as Claire was sitting at a booth looking over at me. Her face seemed quite annoyed lol

    In the end, got Laura's number, somehow got Claire jealous (don't see why if she wasn't down) and avoided a mini disaster with that POF surprise. All in all, a fun night


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