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    Default Exchange with HB8.5 who asked a friend to give me her number

    Hey guys, so I've been in contact with this HB8.5 for about a week. Basically, the story goes:

    Met up with friends at a bar, who have mutual friends with HB. Noticed her and introduced myself. Made some light joking banter (with her and her 3 female friends), but I kept getting interupted by an old high school friend and her very unattractive chaperone. Since our families are close, I felt rude to simply ignore her and continue with the HB... Obviously as luck would have it, took too long and the HB left. I chalked it up to "another one bites the dust". Mentioning to my buddy that I thought HB was cute, he told me he'd see if he could get any info from his gf. Thought nothing of it and went about my business chasing other women.

    Two days later I get a text from my friend who tells me his gf mentioned to HB that I thought she was cute. She apparently told the gf to give me her number. I must have done something right lol, cause I wasn't really expecting it (since we only spoke for about 10 mins). Anyways I wait a day and say hi. Do a little comfort building and asking Q's. Her responses are detailed and she asks Q's about me. Her pauses between replies avg about 10 mins. There was one moment I tried to escalate a little.. Don't think it fell flat, but not stellar either.

    HER: Anyone can do a marathon if they train for it! But a massage would be pretty nice now
    ME: Maybe one day, if you gain enough points, I can help you out with that
    ME: I might not be able to do a half marathon, but I'm pretty great at giving massages lol
    HER: Haha well at least you've got something going!
    ME: Haha I know. Can't just get by with my mediocre wit and good looks
    HER: Haha nowadays I guess it just doesn't cut it. My friend and I are about to book a trip to (place). First timer over here!

    Wasn't crazy about the topic change, felt really out of place. But it was the first day we were talking and maybe I made her uncomfortable. So I continued on with that convo. We texted for a few hours and then again for a full day, 2 days later. Less questioning and a little more joking about various topics.

    I wanted to see if she would initiate afterwards, so waited another day; which she didn't. So here's our last convo. Just wanna see what your thoughts are on how my approach was:

    ME: So I got a make it or break it question for you...
    ME: Which movie did you decide to watch on Sat night? Hopefully you chose wisely, as it may be what decides me asking you out for a drink or not! lol
    (30 min wait)
    HER: (name of movie) I know, I know! How had I not seen it before Saturday
    (make her wait an hour)
    ME: Hmmm I dunno... I'm on the fence about that one. But I might just have to take a chance and ask you out anyway :P
    HER: Haha it wasn't my favorite movie if that's better. When did you have in mind?
    ME: Lol it definitely helps! How's Wednesday night sound?
    (hour wait)
    HER: Sorry just go out of a meeting. Wednesday works for me!
    (45 min wait)
    ME: Wednesday it is! What time do you usually get off work?
    HER: Should be out anywhere between 6-7
    ME: That's good, my meeting finishes around then.
    ME: Btw I'm bringing you to a strip club, since I know you're dying to go haha (said this cause during our convo, in person, she said she wanted to drag her gf to a strip club)
    HER: Hahaha obviously
    HER: I'll keep you posted on Wednesday, but I should be out by max 7

    Basically the convo went a little further, me asking what she was up to, telling her I was out with friends. Then:

    HER: Whereabouts do you live?
    ME: Lol I live about 20 away from dt...
    (hour wait)
    HER: Ohhhh out in the boonies!
    (I wait an hour and a half)
    ME: Ssshhhhh it's not that far!

    She didn't reply after that since it was round 11PM. But she's said that she's in bed at that time in the past. Anyway, how do you guys feel about the exchange (the good and bad) and should I wait for her to initiate on Weds or should I, just to confirm what time we'll meet up? I don't think she'll flake, since a) she gave me her number through a friend and b) she seems into the conversations and date enough.

    Let me know your thoughts guys! Thanks and sorry for the long post!

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    Default Re: Exchange with HB8.5 who asked a friend to give me her number

    At about 5PM, still no word, so I just sent her this:

    "So I'm thinking (name of bar) tonight. 8:03PM. And not a minute later! Or else... "

    Basically I can get 4 different outcomes:

    1) "Or else what?" To which I'd reply "Or else I'll only flirt with you half the amount I normally would"

    2) "Can we make it wtv o'clock? I have to bla bla bla" To which I'd say "I'll let it slide this time grandma! (nickname I already gave her for going to bed early) But you'll have to make it up to me..."

    3) "Can we resched? I have bla bla bla" Where I would give the same response for #2, only I'd end it with "When do you have in mind?"

    or 4) No response. If this is the case, I'll wait till about Friday and send her something new.


    ***EDIT***

    She just replied 10 mins after my message, saying "Sounds great. 8:05 works better into my schedule". Funny how it was the most obvious outcome and I didn't list it... lol. After waiting about 25 mins, I replied:
    "Lol if you can be this sassy in person, we might just have a chance". 5 mins later, she sent back "Haha a little sass here and there never hurt". I think things are going pretty well, so I'll just cut it short with a "Lol see you then sass pants". End on a high note.
    Last edited by bosox; 04-09-2014 at 05:18 PM. Reason: Update

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    Default Re: Exchange with HB8.5 who asked a friend to give me her number

    You seem to have most of the texting foundations down pat. Ultimately she agreed to the date so what you said worked. Meeting up with her is the only outcome that should matter when texting her. You did an excellent job of being funny and challenging while controlling the pace and tempo. I like the fact that you mirrored her response times as well. Keep up what works. If it's getting you results, you are doing it right. Report back after the date!

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    Default Re: Exchange with HB8.5 who asked a friend to give me her number

    Thanks Dizzie! Just got home from my date. Let's just say it went very well. Dropped her off at her place at around 1am, after meeting her at 8pm.

    During the date we had a whole lot of playful teasing of each other. But I focused more on having her explain her qualities and things she likes. Which I would then reward by agreeing and saying she was working her way up to a 2nd date; or deducting points for saying she liked things like Kanye West lol.

    The most revealing parts of the night were when she would quietly stare deep into my eyes, not saying a word. And every time, I would not turn till she did. Then she would smile and we'd talk some more. At one point, during the staring contest, I blatantly told her "If you keep staring at me like this, I'm gonna have to kiss you". She smiled and kept staring. Unfortunately I had to tell her that, as much as I wanted to, I couldn't cause I have a cold sore.... So annoyed it came this morning.

    In the end, dropped her off and she told me "Well I guess I can't kiss you goodnight", so she said she had a great time and wanted to do it again. Hug and a cheek kiss. All in all, I believe it was a success and would have definitely KC if it were not for this god forsaken cold sore.

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    Default Re: Exchange with HB8.5 who asked a friend to give me her number

    So, my new update has me kinda confused… Following our date, I messaged her on Thursday (next night) - teasing her that she’s prob drunk while out with her friends and smuggling a bottle of wine in her purse (inside joke from date 1). The teasing went back and forth but I didn’t want to linger, since she was out, so I told her to “have a great rest of the night, dork

    Waiting till Sunday night, I initiated with:

    ME: How’s my second favourite (name of the high school we went to) doing?
    (hour and a half later)
    HER: Who’s the first. I’m good, a little tired had a long night out last night. How are you?
    (hour later)
    ME: If you can guess who, you win a pretty great prize
    HER: (starts naming mutual friends from the school and the janitor lol)
    (half hour later)
    ME: Haha def (the janitor)
    HER: Good ol' (janitors name). He's the best
    ME: Lol so, is that your final answer?
    HER: I guess…
    ME: X
    ME: Damn I was really pulling for you there! And here I was, thinking I’d get to kiss you this week…
    HER: Who is it then?!
    ME: Obviously its (name of my friend). C’mon!

    It went on a little further and I then asked how Tuesday night sounded for me to tease her some more in person. It was pretty late so no reply till this morning, fairly early, with:

    HER: Sorry went to bed like a grandma last night. Tomorrow I’m going for dinner at a family friend’s. (makes a joke about the family friend)
    (few hours later)
    ME: You really are living up to your nickname! Well I got a meeting on Wednesday till about 8. So I can pick you up after, if that works for you
    (almost exact same amount of time later)
    HER: I’m leaving for my country house for Easter on Thursday after work, so I got booked up early this week. Hoping Easter treats me well this year

    So here I am, kinda wondering if I’m being blown off or not. My gut tells me no, specifically because of how she was on our date. But her texting confuses me. I was kinda hoping for her to give options as to when she can, like “but let’s do next week” or something…

    What do you guys think? Over thinking? And how do you feel I should reply?

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    Default Re: Exchange with HB8.5 who asked a friend to give me her number

    Yeah, I wouldn't sweat it that much. It's Easter time, and people usually like to go do something, out of town, like normal holidays. Your texting game is pretty good, flirty and some nice banter. In my opinion, I would wait until a few days later, maybe after Easter to initiate a text to set up for a date.

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    Default Re: Exchange with HB8.5 who asked a friend to give me her number

    Ya its not that I don't believe the excuse. It's more about how interested she is, since in person feels one way, and text feels slightly different.

    Then again, I've had some women who were dry as toast on text. At least she's responsive and gives more than one word replies. But I agree, I'll only initiate another date set up a few days after easter

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    Default Re: Exchange with HB8.5 who asked a friend to give me her number

    Don't sit in silence until then though...
    That's gonna give her The Vibe that you're blowing her off & she'll completely lose interest.

    Until then, keep in contact & FLIRT.
    Build up attraction for a few days, THEN set a meet up.

    Going "dead air" for a week & trying to get her to go out isn't gonna work. You need to make her have fun reading your texts so that she can't wait to go out with you.




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    Default Re: Exchange with HB8.5 who asked a friend to give me her number

    Thanks for the reply guys! I responded a few hours after with:

    ME: Why do I get the feeling your Easters have a habit of not treating you well......
    ME: Lol and no worries, we'll figure something out when you get back

    She replied a few hours later apologizing for taking so long to respond, cause work was crazy busy. We had a little back and forth (still joking around), where I stopped replying at around 11PM. So I'll let her wait a bit and hit her up in a few hours today.

    I completely agree on not waiting all week to talk to her, since I'll just fade away and she'll lose interest. I'll just keep doing what I'm doing until Sunday and set up a date for mid-week. If she turns the date down with no suggestions for another day, I'm gonna freeze her out and maybe give up. Cause to be very honest, that's just gonna make ME lose interest and I really don't have the patience for constant flakes. But I doubt she's one of them

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    Default Re: Exchange with HB8.5 who asked a friend to give me her number

    That's good. Yeah, my comment was to initiate a date after Easter via text. So is she a type of girl who likes talking with texts? I knew this one girl who hated it and wanted to talk on the phone. For me personally, I hate talking on the phone.

    Looks like you are doing a. Good job. Keep at it.


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