Re: I feel like a complete newbie sometimes...
Inner game usually is a contributing factor as well as laziness
If you use seduction to start a relationship you need to keep it up to keep that spark alive otherwise it dies and so does the relationship.
Good news is both can be calibrated but if you are only relying on seduction tricks to do most of your work in pick up it takes a lot of energy to maintain that seductive spark. The longer the relationship goes on the more you will have to put into it to maintain the relationship as it is, otherwise it has to transcend into a different relationship based on something other than a seduction.
Learn to be a better person not a better player.