I'm quite new here but I've been reading material for a while.
Please forgive me for any terms that I might use incorrectly.
So the story goes like this: I met a girl in a bar (there were like a bunch of people, I actually knew nobody from earlier but got introduced by another person), we chatted for a couple minutes tops but it was enough for me to ID her on FB.
Ok, so the next thing I do next day is I write her a message on FB, saying it was nice to meet you and what about another meet some time, to which she replies like “I do not normally go out with a guy I don’t really know but why don’t we get to know each other better online first?”.
I joked something about it but nevertheless played a bit by her rules, I had like a thousand topics but dosed it every few days both for not being annoying and also for not overheating myself. By the way, few topics were quite personal, sharing dreams and lots of what she likes etc.
Today I asked for her phone #, she was like, “what are you going to do with it, call me?”, to which I replied like “yeah. One day. Number first, and I’ll know what to do”. No reply from then.
I am pretty sure she’d start talking again if I changed the topic but I am not quite sure if I should do that now.
I am tempting three options now:
1) To ignore this, ignore her for a couple of days or so and then come back with another topic.
2) To write a fairly long lecture on the fact that it’s just a phone # (she has mine already through FB sync, I am damn sure it’s on her address book and if I call her, she’d see my name already), no romantic things but just letting her now that my intentions are fairly simple, to hang out a bit, to know better, no serious shit but on the other hand that I find her interesting.
3) Do another topic perhaps tomorrow or so.
I guess the real intention with plan #2 is to send a clear message that I am genuinely interested and just to make her decision harder.
The other thing I have to mention is that I can get her phone # though other sources (we have a couple of mutual friends and I know someone from her work who could look it up) but want to go this “fair route” – in some way it would be some sort of a compliance test I guess.
I guess it’s irrelevant what I did wrong in the past already but any thoughts how I should proceed?
Thanks for any advice!