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    Default Starting the sex talk by text

    How does one start getting an interested girl thinking about sex by text? I'm hoping to bring a girl to bed tomorrow. She acts interested in me now. We have been texting. I would like her to start thinking about sex in a pleasant way, so I would like to introduce the topic that does not make me come across to her as creepy.

    Any suggestions?

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    Default Re: Starting the sex talk by text

    I am contemplating texting her, "I have a question that might embarrass you..."

    Then, assuming she asks what it is, I ask something like, "When you've had sexual experiences that really felt good, what made them great?"

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    Default Re: Starting the sex talk by text

    NOOOOOOO. It needs to be subtle, you need to infer these things "naturally" and with practice you will. I would just stay fun and flirty and let her imagination do the work. That is a question you can ask, but later after you have had sex.

    Here is an example to infer sex:
    Her: I do laundry on Thursdays.
    Me: Oh yea, so if I drop my clothes off you will wash them for me?
    Her: Yea right, I don't even like doing my own laundry
    Me: It's a fair trade, I'll help you fold your underwear :P
    Her: (takes a minute to respond) LMAO [at this point I know she is open to it, I was testing the waters]
    Me: And leave your granny panties at home, I only want to see the sexy stuff

    You have to start by using a segue, then a subtle inference and then slowly escalate, but don't get into too sexual of talk at first, you have to build into it just like turning on a woman in real life.

    Telling her what you mentioned, in the way you did looks weak and frames sex as something to be ashamed of, if you want her to be open about it treat it as if it is no big deal.

    I wouldn't mention sex at all, that needs to be something you ease into. Just go have fun, and make a move if your gut tells you to. If you plan your date on sex at the end you will screw the whole thing up.
    KISS - Keep it Stupid Simple

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    Default Re: Starting the sex talk by text

    Wow, Blistex, thanks for the advice. It makes sense.

    Update - she asked me to add her facebook, and I texted the response:

    "We'll see. Dinner tomorrow?"

    Her: "That'd be great! What time?"

    Me: "It depends on how long it takes you to get home and cook. You CAN cook, can't you?"

    She responded. "Haha, I can. Sunday would be a better time to hang. I'm sure I'll be sleep deprived after work tomorrow."

    After reading Blistex's reply, I wonder if that last text of mine was a stupid move... Oh well... Live and learn.

    I'm wondering how to respond. I have national guard drill on Sunday, so I can easily say no to her counter offer. I wonder if she changed the date because she doesn't want me at her house, or because she'd be too tired to cook and would find eating out more restful.

    Should I respond: "Sunday won't work. Military responsibilities. Would eating out tomorrow night be more comfortable for you?"

    Or:

    "Sunday won't work. Military responsibilities. Maybe we can talk early next week and see what's going on"

    Or:

    "Are you inviting to cook me dinner on Sunday night? That's sweet of you."

    I do want to see her tomorrow night. and she already agreed to dinner. She changed her mind either cause it's too soon for dinner at her house, or because she'd be too tired to cook, but not to eat out.

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    Default Re: Starting the sex talk by text

    Well, if Sunday doesn't work, it doesn't work. You want to be precise and concise with your statement She won't want to go out tomorrow because she wants to be alert enough to actually spend time with you and enjoy it.

    Do something like:

    "I have to go save the world Sunday. I am an army one one ya know We can set up a time next week."

    The fact she set up another time means she is interested.

    Then continue the conversation a bit and keep it fun and flirty. You give her a smile, a hook and let her know you will be setting up a time for her next week with the statement, but keep it open ended, which gives her the ability to free up some time in her schedule.

    If you don't know her you won't want to meet up at her house right away, it needs to be a public place where you can build some comfort while keeping the attraction going. Cooking dinner together almost always leads to some fooling around at the least,so if you have not given her the chance to get comfortable with you and know you aren't going to rape and murder her, then you need to do so.
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    Default Re: Starting the sex talk by text

    Hi Blistex,

    I certainly appreciate that the straight-shooting attitude you are suggesting. Thank you!

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    Default Re: Starting the sex talk by text

    Well, being as you seem like a military man, and fairly confident...I think a more direct approach is the way to go.

    BTW I got a dinner date Sunday with the girl above set up, but we are cooking together, as it is much more enjoyable and leads to lots of chances for Kino, but keeps you busy enough you don't get hot and heavy too soon.
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    Default Re: Starting the sex talk by text

    rockin! congrats on your dinner date.

    Do you think I should start with "Are you inviting me to dinner Sunday night? We could even cook together. How fun would that be? But another night. I have to go save the world with my Army unit on Sunday. Let's set up a time next week."

    ?

    Please let me know your thoughts, and I'll send her a reply.

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    Default Re: Starting the sex talk by text

    Not to be a total dick, but figure it out bro, you will be fine, or you won't and we can help you figure out why not.

    Sounds like she is into you, you got this man, why wouldn't you? You're friggin awesome.
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    Default Re: Starting the sex talk by text

    Thanks!

    I may have already blown it

    I texted her and asked for candor. Was it that she would be tired, or not really comfortable inviting a man she doesn't know to her house.

    She said both. I thanked for the candor and told her that Sunday wouldn't work. Mentioned the military reason why. Said we can set a time next week. Can also meet halfway on both of our commutes home tomorrow. She said that would be great, and that she likes candor too.

    I then told her, "In that case, I'll be really candid. I hesitate to date a girl so young because they often don't know what they really want, and that shows in flakiness, and flakiness is a deal-breaker for me. I get the impression that you are quite mature, though. What are your deal-breakers?"

    I sent that an hour and 15 minutes ago, and that is longer than she's taken to respond so far. I can probably pick out several things about my last text that were unhelpful... I wonder if I'm actually more interested in the experiment, and the testing of boundaries. Because if I had simply said, "Meet you at such and such restaurant at 6:30?" Then she would have said yes and we would have had a date.


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