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    hellsaddist is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Any chance with this one?

    I knew this girl through my good friend and his girlfriend. The group of us went out twice to play darts and singing. There is another girl in this group which is a very good friend the gf and this girl. So the first outing we went to play darts and I send her home. We did a bit of small talks about her job and stuffs. Cut it short, after the second outing I got her number through facebook and i asked her out. She agreed and but flaked like 3 hrs before the meetup saying she wants to dye her hair instead and ask for a rain check. After that I had asked her out a few more times but she was busy and the reasons she gave me were genuinely because im quite close with my friend gf and she told me.
    So recently i found out that she asked the other girl in the group if she should go out with me as im her good friend's friend and it might occur weird. The other girl knew I was interested in her and help putting good words about me and ask her to go for it since both of us are single. My friend's gf didnt know about this till this other girl told her about it.
    Ok now my problem is I cant seem to get her out as shes quite busy and somehow she hardly reply my msges which makes me hard to build attractions. The last text I send her asking her when is a good day in this week for her make up and she did not reply. The first time i asked her out i double texted her the next morning when she din reply me the night before because thats the only day I had a car and I wanted to make good use of it and to my surprise she agreed after i texted her the second time. This time I don't feel like double texting as it might show neediness but im not sure how to handle the situation now. Also, I heard from the friends that she is those kind of girl that will not reply the guy if she thinks the guy has no potential.

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    I.M.Mortal is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Re: Any chance with this one?

    You know, it really makes a huge difference on the initial impression you made on her when you first met. They say seduction starts at "hello." If there was strong IOIs from her and you affected her in some way favorably in person, your text game becomes easier. If the girl is sold on you in person, then you don't have to work too hard in a text game.

    From the sounds of it, she is not sold on you (which is why she had to ask her friend about you). The fact that your friends gave you intel that she is the type that won't reply to a guy she is not interested in confirms this.

    Her telling you that she needs to dye her hair is a weak excuse. That is definitely a flake. She prioritized her hair over you. Thus, attraction wasn't sufficient.

    You were correct not to double text. Remember, disinterest should be mirrored, never rewarded.

    Next time, you need to work on your in person game. Unless, you are physically attractive yourself, making small talk is not attractive. That is not standing out. There's tons of things you should've tried doing: flirt/tease and speaking to her the "language of emotion," get her to qualify are some generic PUA techniques you could've done. At the end of the day, she wasn't all that convince or sold.

    All you can do right now is work on your self development by reading up on PUA resources on how to be attractive and the kind of guy women obsess over. Perhaps when you see her again in person when your best friend's gf brings her out, you will have a better game to bring to the table. Until then, texting her will be a fruitless endeavor. There wasn't enough boost at launch to send this ship flying high enough.

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    hellsaddist is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Any chance with this one?

    Thanks for the detailed advice I.M.Mortal! She replied me after like one whole day saying that sorry shes quite busy lately, perhaps next time when the rest of them are free too!. Guess its a lost ship and u are right, I should work on my in person game the next time i meet her.


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