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Thread: Doesnt want to be my gf?

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    Default Doesnt want to be my gf?

    I've been with this girl for about seven months. We were dating seriously for the first couple months then broke up for a few weeks. Got back together and basically the only rule I established was that if we're going to sleep together,neither of us can sleep with anybody else for health concerns, etc.
    We sleep at each others house 4 or 5 nights a week, talk every day, I even go to church with her and her kid. She tells me she loves me almost every day. So its all normal "couple" stuff.
    The problem is, a couple of weeks ago I asked if she wanted to be my girlfriend, she says "umm maybe" I got pissed because I've put so much effort and time into this "relationship."
    She says that I know she doesn't want to date right now, but I do. I'm 30 and she's 23 so I'm sure the age gap has something to do with it. How should I deal with this? Do I give her an ultimatum? Please help. Thanks in advance.

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    Default Re: Doesnt want to be my gf?

    You should just walk tell her you're not okay with it and you're moving on, and then you should move on.
    "It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."

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    Default Re: Doesnt want to be my gf?

    I've thought about that a lot. Believe me, I have. We just have such a good thing right now. We get along so well and have a lot of fun and common interests. I do really love her and I could see myself settling down with her.
    I don't want to loss her. But I'm 30 and I eventually want to settle down and have a family.

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    Default Re: Doesnt want to be my gf?

    She's 23, she has a kid, and isn't willing to commit to you. You're fooling yourself. There are plenty of "get your ex back" and Freeze-Out threads on here that will answer your question. But take a long look in the mirror and ask yourself if you want to be this little girl's bitch, because that's where you're heading.
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    Default Re: Doesnt want to be my gf?

    I agree with The Duke. I would say to her that you're looking for something serious, that you guys have a great thing, and you want her to be your girlfriend. Don't ask, say it almost like you're demanding it. If she says no, say you have to move on and look for a girl who wants something serious (if that's what you're truly looking for). Have some self respect broski. And don't get pissed at her response. A man doesn't react negatively when rejected. Respect her decision and go your own way

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    Default Re: Doesnt want to be my gf?

    I did exactly that. Told her I needed to talk last night. I went over to her house and said I can't keep this up if you're not willing to commit to me. I deserve to be with somebody who wants to be with me.
    Ended up leaving in the middle of the night. She was crying and asking me to stay but I had to stay strong and walk away. It was one of the hardest things I'be ever had to do. We really do love each other.
    Thanks for the advice. I really appreciate it.

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    Default Re: Doesnt want to be my gf?


    You know Ron, you shouldn't get so hung up on labels .... You guys are dating , sleeping over, she says she loves you ..... she is your girlfriend. Now I've dated girls who have said the same thing and we would agree that "We were seeing each other" if people asked .... but labels to me are no big deal .... That doesn't set the tone to your relationship .... Now I will say that 23, single, and with a kid is a concern but if you are cool with it then that’s great ..... GOOD LUCK hope it works out for you


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