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    Default Flipped Like a Switch

    SO I had met this girl online and we were hitting it off, we went for our Day 2 (cheesecake - what girl doesn't like cheesecake?), great conversation, ran some routines and we end up back at my place, so we make out a bit before she goes to her party, and texting continues to be awesome and we're having great chats. So she was supposed to come over tonight but then this conversation ensued:

    ME: Hey, Are we still on for tonight? (she was supposed to come over after work and then come watch my soccer game)

    HER: No i'm sorry not tonight

    ME: You okay?

    HER: Ya i'm okay. it was really nice meeting you but im not feeling this i'm sorry

    ME: so who took my place?

    HER: Jesus is my only love haha but no one, i'm just not feeling anyone right now

    ME: This just seems weird, you were into it yesterday. Anyways it was nice to talk to a girl with a sense of humor for once. Take care

    HER: I know, i was thinking about it and i don't want to be doing anything right now


    Do you guys have any insight on this? She kinda just flipped like a switch and i cant figure out why. Thoughts?

    Ghostt

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    Default Re: Flipped Like a Switch

    Dude, I want to say maybe you said or did something to scare her off, but I don't know. That's a strange one man. Maybe she's super religious and you got her sexually turned on and it scared her or something. That blows man. Time to move on to the next right?

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    Default Re: Flipped Like a Switch

    The thing is she's not religious, we covered that during the cheesecake date, she's been with 10 guys.

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    Default Re: Flipped Like a Switch

    maybe its not you.

    the way it reads if that's all text--she's probably just not inspired or too caught up in her life outside of dating. doesn't seem like its you --unless theres some details missing here.

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    Default Re: Flipped Like a Switch

    The thing that bothers me is not "losing" the girl, but what the reason is. How can I improve if i don't know?

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    Default Re: Flipped Like a Switch

    Yeah I tend to agree with artendale here.

    I wouldn't take it personally. I think she answered your question when she said "I was thinking about it and..." You know you're in trouble when girls try and get logical lol
    Maybe she just feels weird about having to tell her friends that you met online? Were your online messages congruent with your personality, or does she see you as two different people? There could be a thousand different reason but I wouldn't dwell on it too much, this will happen more than once!

    HER: Ya i'm okay. it was really nice meeting you but im not feeling this i'm sorry
    It sounds like a legitimate reason to me. She could have just stopped talking to you or gave you some bogus excuse. So I would be happy that she at least seems honest.

    Go out and game other girls like normal but keep her in your text circle and just continue to game her that way. I don't think you've done any damage to your chances yet although I probably wouldn't have asked her who replaced you.

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    Default Re: Flipped Like a Switch

    It's not that bad. I mean sh!t every girl I ever approached has rejected me up to this point. I mean granted some 5 seconds later and some 5 months. Think about it, unless you get the lay you eventually get weeded out right? Not literally every girl but I am saying unless you get laid it could technically be considered a rejection in that sense.

    That's my dilemma. Knowing many girls like me but screwing up somewhere and having to recover or make up some bold excuse. Either way sound like she was being pretty honest. She's just not feeling it and you somehow turned her away. It's not just you, it's them too. I have girls do wack stuff all the time. This is pretty light on the wacky side but yeah she's in her head which means you're gone.
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    Default Re: Flipped Like a Switch

    i think if anything--if it's possible befriend her if you're that interested in her. then work the angle through friendship--and eventually get back into the game the hard way through the friendzone. you have nothing to lose but time. if she's worth it, i'd say its worth a challenge.

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    Default Re: Flipped Like a Switch

    How do I approach that Artandale? Wait a day or two then continue on as usual?

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    Default Re: Flipped Like a Switch

    Nice response though. When I was reading I thought you were going to go all AFC on her but you played it cool and everywhere's right what she said might not even be personal so just leave it at that... her lost.
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