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Thread: HB didnt reply back after asking for her number on FB

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    Default HB didnt reply back after asking for her number on FB

    So opened up this HB8 on Facebook, she went to the same high school as me but I never knew her but have a lot of mutual friends with her but here is how the conversation went:

    me: Hi I wanted to ask you ?

    her:Ask me what?

    me: Do you go to UCF because I swear you look exactly like this girl that's in my class lol...

    her: lol no I don't. I'm actually transferring there in August though

    me: Really ? I'm graduating in August lol What are you gonna study ?

    me: Wait wait you look so familiar , did you go to celebration HS ?



    her: I did. Class if 08.
    *of
    me: That's why u seem familiar , I graduated in 07.

    me: (showed her a pic of her in the yearbook I had ) Hold on is that you ? Lol

    her :Sadly, it is haha

    me: Haha why sadly ?

    her: Lol it's a terrible picture. You went to celebrstion

    me: Lol well kinda it's not that terrible
    But if I have the yearbook , don't u think I went to celebration lol

    her: Lol good point

    me: Lol u went there all 4 years ?

    her: Yeah, I did! Did you

    me: Yea I was there the first year it opened , u go to Valencia (community college) now ?

    her: Oh nice! Yes, I go to valencia. What are you majoring in at UCF?

    me: Lol I yea I went there too how do u like it ? I'm majoring in marketing , u ?

    me: Valencia got too many cuhhhz though lmao well west campus

    her: I hate it. Can't wait to be done next semester haha I go to west campus usually... It's the worst. Lol I'm majoring in business I think.

    me: Haha why do you hate it ? Black people prob be like hey ma waz good haha they crack me up though

    her: Lol for that exact reason. Not my kind of environment haha

    me: Haha so I'm guessing from what your saying u don't like African American guys , I don't wana call them black I don't wana seem racist lol

    her: Lol no that's not it at all. Im far from racist. Some of the people are just strange haha

    me: haha I once was walking and some black girl yelled and was like oh dzamm literally with the z sound and said yo u fine just like drake lmao I started laughing and I just kept walking I was like omg lol

    me: Btw what are you, Canadian ?

    her: Haha that's so funny. Definitely a weird place. I'm English!

    me: Haha tell me about It and wow I'm so off not even close , so I'm guessing you have an English accent ?
    Hey listen why don't we exchange numbers , you text?

    Seen Fri 5:24pm

    so I think it started off okay but probably asked for the number too early on probably because I didn't build enough rapport with her? , where do you guys think I went wrong and should I message her again saying something else?

    I would like to hear your guys feedbacks and suggestions as I would like to improve on what I lack and how should I go on about this.

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    Default Re: HB didnt reply back after asking for her number on FB

    It's not rapport, you didn't build any attraction. There really wasn't anything in the bulk of the contents that sparked her emotions. In real life, a conversation like this won't even get you a Number Close, unless the girl find you attractive in other ways.

    What happened here was you fell into "interview mode." Look again and you will see almost every line was a question. That is not going to attract a girl. You weren't being a challenge to her.

    Let's take a few examples:

    EXAMPLE 1

    me: (showed her a pic of her in the yearbook I had ) Hold on is that you ? Lol
    her :Sadly, it is haha
    me: Haha why sadly ?

    Okay that was a boring response that you followed up with another boring question.

    HER: Sadly, it is haha
    ME: Damn! I knew I saw that in a police mugshot! I'm thinking of robbing a bank next week. Wanna be my partner in crime? (future fantasy projection)

    EXAMPLE 2

    me: Lol well kinda it's not that terrible
    But if I have the yearbook , don't u think I went to celebration lol

    That's you being nice and safe and trying to talk logic with a girl when you should be speaking the language of emotion, which is silly and nonsensical to touch her emotions. The term is called "bringing her back to the playground."

    EXAMPLE 3

    her: Lol for that exact reason. Not my kind of environment haha
    me: Haha so I'm guessing from what your saying u don't like African American guys , I don't wana call them black I don't wana seem racist lol

    This is just lame. You think discussing race is attractive? If you are trying to establish comfort/rapport, you just basically agreed on something superficial - you both are not racist. You just took her the scenic route without a cool scene.

    I saw an opening here to disqualify her.

    HER: Lol for that exact reason. Not my kind of environment haha
    YOU: Aw, well that's too bad. I'm Jamaican...from the waist down. I even have dredds. Too bad you and I won't get along. (Disqualifying her)

    EXAMPLE 4

    Me: Hey listen why don't we exchange numbers , you text?

    This is weak and passive. And you ended with a dumb question. You might as well ask her if she has a phone.

    ME: Anyways, you sound like a cool person. I like your style. One of these days let's hang out. We can talk about running away to Vegas, robbing the casinos, growing old and miserable together arguing over our third child's name.

    See her response if there are any IOIs (not maybes), then close. If she reacts positively...

    ME: Cool! I have one last burning question...
    HER: What?
    ME: What's your number!?

    There are a lot more but those were just some.

    Your cliffhanger opening was good to elicit a response and your follow up line was good too. But everything else was...AFC.

    If you haven't done so I advise you to check out T-Mal's texting guide here on the forums on how to flirt and be playful via text game.

    So why didn't she respond with her number? Probably because she did not want to be interviewed and be inconvenienced by a texting exchange like this. Besides in the PUA world, texting shouldn't be used for conversations, it's to set for logistics to bring communication to the 1st tier - in person where real social skills takes place.

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    Default Re: HB didnt reply back after asking for her number on FB

    Racist motherfucker. You and she should be Donald and Shelly Sterling in your role plays. No wonder you couldn't Number Close so busy hating on other people for no obvious reason it's ridiculous. And the dhv story you tried to tell about getting hitting on was almost awkward and left a bad taste in her reason why she didn't even addressed it.

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    Default Re: HB didnt reply back after asking for her number on FB

    you' re the type of people to talk so much about other people at barbershops that you forget to get a haircut.
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    Default Re: HB didnt reply back after asking for her number on FB

    Ayo_ Yea you do sound like a racist. Probably has to do with why you are not succeeding. Rethink your strategy. Racism is not the way.

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    Default Re: HB didnt reply back after asking for her number on FB

    I have to agree with the fact that you DID come off sounding a bit racist.
    There was really no reason to bring up the whole subject to begin with, let alone make the comment.

    However, black people are black, and "black" isn't a derogatory comment.
    One of my good friends is black & we were joking around one day & he told me "I'm not African American... I'm BLACK. I wasn't born in Africa, I was born in Nashville, TN. How come whenever I fill out certain forms there's no box for "black?" YOU get one that says "white'... I'm jealous!"

    But, the point is you caused an unnecessary, uncomfortable situation by making those comments.

    I would definitely refrain from bringing up the subject of ethnicity in the future.

    Also- your text exchange as a whole, was lacking fun.
    Forcing rapport too soon by talking about school is gonna make it harder to build attraction.
    Yeah, you might connect & have a "great conversation", but you're setting yourself to be labeled "friend material"... and the friend zone isn't where you want to be.

    Save conversations about work, school, movies, etc. for later on AFTER you've established a good foundation of attraction.


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