Been having quite a bit of success on POF over the last few weeks - While we all know it's a numbers game, you should also be aware that some women just don't have the time to answer all our messages. Funny thing is, I've only started to understand that when I noticed a HB8 sent me a msg and I never saw it till much later, cause my inbox was filled with 4-6's opening me. So be patient and always send a follow up a few days later.
My profile has also been getting a lot of attention recently, with a few HB's mentioning they "absolutely adore" or "loooove" my profile. So I'll share it with you guys, maybe it might serve you well as a starting point for your own. *Please use as a guide and don't rip it off
Tagline: This is where I'd write something witty
About Me: Looking to meet fun, interesting and like minded women. I can go on and on about all the great qualities my mother swears I have, but I prefer to keep it short for now! If you need any references I'll be sure to pass them along
All joking aside, I'm a [job] who's just looking to hopefully meet someone who can have an engaging conversation (surprisingly hard to find...) and knows what she wants out of life. Women who go clubbing on Mondays need not apply. Otherwise, feel free to message me if you're interested and hopefully we'll get the chance to get to know one another!
First Date: McCafe. It's classy, yet affordable.
*Fun fact: I've noticed that once I changed my "looking for" to "relationship" and not "date but nothing serious", women have been a lot more receptive to my openers and even started opening me.
Pictures: Pretty simple really, a few pics of me wearing a suit at different weddings. Smiling. A well taken pic of me playing hockey and another of me having a drink at a family event. Not one of them am I shirtless, taking a selfie, or they are blurry, crappy quality. I believe that you attract what you emit. If you reveal yourself to be a hoodrat... Chances are, you're gonna only get hoodrats. I tend to prefer classy looking women, so I try and focus on that aspect of myself and profile.
Openers: I used to go with something that worked about 30% of the time. Which was:
"Hey! How's it going?
Just wanted to introduce myself and say hi
To be honest it's weak, but Tinder was working wonders for me; So I would log into POF and shoot a bunch of these and take whatever hit me back. But now I pay a little bit more attention to their profile and alter my opener based on their info. I wanted to come off engaging, different, challenging and funny. I basically check their "Personality" listed and use that in my opener. That or a statement they make about themselves in their "About Me". Example:
"So I'd like to know more about this "great sense of humor and sharp wit".. If it involves dry, sarcastic banter, we might just have a chance :P Extra points for sassiness."
"So tell me more about what qualifies you as an "Nomad"... If it involves couchsurfing, I just might have to buy a new couch :P"
And so on. Out of the 9 I've sent, these past two weeks, 6 have replied favorably. 2 have read and not replied. And 1 hasn't read it yet. Out of the 6, 3 have led to NC with 1 date done. The others are not too far behind... Minus 1 of them is a bit of a nutjob so I won't be pursuing.
The replies I get are usually them explaining themselves in detail, which subliminally has them seeking your approval. Here's an example of an exchange with a HB9 that ignored my first msg, and then replied after my follow up. Now I'm texting her and will be closing in for a date:
Me: 5/1/2014 12:19:04 PM
Hey! How's it going?
I have to say, there is nothing more attractive than a woman who knows how to speak her mind and knows what she wants. That and a woman who doesn't dance on tables :P
Anyway, thought I'd say hi and introduce myself!
Me: 5/8/2014 12:46:38 PM
So I'd like to know more about this "great sense of humor and sharp wit".. If it involves dry, sarcastic banter, we might just have a chance :P Extra points for sassiness.
Her: 5/8/2014 3:07:46 PM
Hey bosox! I absolutely adore your profile
Sarcastic sassiness is basically the most accurate description of my character, so if that works for you then we'll get along juuuust fine!
Me: 5/8/2014 4:38:42 PM
Now you got me intrigued! The sassier, the better. Next thing I know, you're gonna tell me you're a great cook and then I'll have no choice but to give you my number!
Her: 5/8/2014 6:32:40 PM
Hahahah hand it over! Cuz im a fantastic cook lol. Really good at baking too actually! I was craving one of those Starbucks cranberry lemon scones a little while ago and found the recipe online. I gotta tell you, they were phenomenal
So tell me a little about yourself - what brings you to this crazy world of pof?
Me: 5/9/2014 1:41:52 AM
Stop it! Now you're just trying to seduce me with your baking ways!! But you've convinced me... [phone number] - use it wisely sass pants and I'll tell you how much I hate online dating and the wonderful world of pof :P
Her: [Texted me at 10am today]
Good morning sunshine/man of my dreams/mr.access-heart-through-stomach! How are you today? - [name]
Good morning you culinary temptress Can't believe you already know the secret to my heart!
I'm good, just got out of a meeting. You?
Goooood! Just on lunch now So what do you do to pay the bills, handsome?
[My job] by day, moonlight as an exotic dancer by night. How about yourself? I remember seeing [her industry]?
[her job] by day, black market trader by night [then asks detailed question about my career]
Anyways, you get the point lol. So really the only advice I can give on these sites is to really have a profile that stands out (you'd be surprised by how many Douchefiles are out there). And always give off fun, confident energy when messaging. We have to remember that we have nothing to lose. If they don't reply or your witty joke didn't hit, she's just one of sooo many. All comedians test their material at open mics or in front of new crowds before a tour. A lot of their jokes fall flat and they work on them some more. So look at it that way. You're just perfecting your material.
Don't be shy to send a follow up if the HB ignores (after few days - never more than 1), and have her prove her worth to you and not the other way around. I'm sure this has been said in excess on here, but wanted to give a first hand account.
Good luck and don't copy and paste my profile. Originality goes a long way in this world of dating and I don't want a HB thinking I ripped someone off (or her knowing you did), if by fluke you and I are in the same city