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    Default First date went good but now i'm lost

    We went out for drinks and a meal then we went to watch a movie.I know a movie isn't an ideal first date that's why we went for drinks and a meal. At the end of the night I hugged her and didn't go in for the kiss. This is where i'm lost. I talked to her the next day just told her I had a good time and how I appreciated her coming on the date with me because she ended up leaving work early for the date. 2-3 days after that I texted her just smalltalk. ever it's been another 2-3 days I haven't talked or texted her and it's been a week from our initial date. My questions are should i call her tonight and ask for a second date and if not tonight when? On the second date should I go in for the kiss and if so should I do it at the end. Also i'm considering asking her out to a restaurant to eat for our second date any thoughts on that would be appreciated also.

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    Default Re: First date went good but now i'm lost

    Everything you mentioned was TYPICAL, which lumps you in the same category as "every other schmuck".

    Never say you APPRECIATE her going out with you.
    DO say you had a great time! (And that you two TOTALLY need to get together again ASAP!)

    AVOID "small talk" whenever possible, within the first couple weeks of communication. That begins to establish "negative / neutral rapport"... which will be associated with you from that point forward; and usually ends up in the friend zone".

    Make your "date" more memorable.
    Meaning: ANYTHING BUT the typical/predictable stuff.

    Girls HONESTLY don't give a crap about WHAT you do... as long as it elicits an emotional response & separates you from the rest of the "ass-clowns" who are also trying to get her attention.


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    rcraig617 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: First date went good but now i'm lost

    Quote Originally Posted by T-Mal View Post
    Everything you mentioned was TYPICAL, which lumps you in the same category as "every other schmuck".

    Never say you APPRECIATE her going out with you.
    DO say you had a great time! (And that you two TOTALLY need to get together again ASAP!)

    AVOID "small talk" whenever possible, within the first couple weeks of communication. That begins to establish "negative / neutral rapport"... which will be associated with you from that point forward; and usually ends up in the friend zone".

    Make your "date" more memorable.
    Meaning: ANYTHING BUT the typical/predictable stuff.

    Girls HONESTLY don't give a crap about WHAT you do... as long as it elicits an emotional response & separates you from the rest of the "ass-clowns" who are also trying to get her attention.
    Thanks for replying but what about the kissing. I didn't really display any Kino and we just hugged at the end of the date should i try and kiss her at the end of the second date?

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    Default Re: First date went good but now i'm lost

    I've had first dates where all I did was hug her at first meeting, then no touching, and I've always gone for a k-close afterwards. Never had a girl deny me a kiss at the end of a first date, and they always love that I do it. So next time, kiss her after the first date... Unless it goes like really bad

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    Default Re: First date went good but now i'm lost

    After reading this thread I realized I need to make a rule--IF I'm gaming a girl, hugs are only acceptable for saying hello. Kisses for showcasing my affection and good-byes. Just my 2 cents...


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