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    Default Met a girl, need your opinion

    OK, last week a met one cute girl. Here is the whole story, I need somebody objective opinion about this situation.

    Last week I was traveling to another city, to see my brother at college and to have a good time during weekend. This girl sat next to me cause she had nowhere to go, I offered her to sit beside me to be more precise. I must say I had probably the best and most confident chat with "unknown" girl so far in my life. It was just perfect edition of me. It turned out that she is finishing college, she is studying the similar major like I did so we have many things in common. I could see that she was impressed with me, after all I am older 3 years, I am working etc. We spoke during whole trip (3 hours long) on various topics, as the time passed by I liked her more and more, she has a beautiful face and pleasent personality. I flirted a little bit in the end, she was smiling, I asked her number "to stay in touch", in fact I got a little confused (I felt pressure cause I could feel the whole bus is listening) and I gave her my number and she called me immediatelly so I could have her number. She remembered details of our conversation and she even mentioned seeing me again. I also could see that her girl friend (or cousin) who was sitting in front of us liked me. When we arrived I shook hands we both girls and I think I finished in great style.

    That was part one.
    Little background:
    I was at my brothers place for 2 days (one weekend), I often visit him cause I liked that city, I was also living there for 5 years and studying. My town is boring, so I take every chance to escape to the city during weekend and meet some girls. She is also from small town, 25 miles away from my town but she is studying in that city (like I said)

    Because I was short with time I texted her next day, I invited her out.
    Here is how conversation went (something like this):

    ME: Hi, how are you? I would like to see you, to grab I coffee with you while I am here

    SHE (responded a couple of hours later): Hi, I am sorry for not responding asap. I have plans with my cousin whole day, I cant see you on saturday. When are you going back home?

    ME: Tomorrow after noon I am going home. I think I could find time for you before noon, for coffee (I wrote something like this)

    SHE (responded with even more delay): I am sorry, once again I am not replying to your message immediatelly, I am really busy today. I cant see you tomorrow . Maybe next time when you are here, call me

    That is how ended our first texting.

    Next day I went home, and day after that I sent her friend request on facebook, she accepted during that day. We didnt communicate via face (avoid comunication via social networks), I looked at her photos, thats when I realised how beautiful she is. But one thing dissappointed me. She had a lot of pictures with one guy, I am 90% sure that he is her boyfriend. They are hugging etc (not kissing) and those photos range from 4 years period. She and him doesnt have relationship status written, so I am not sure. It looks like they knew each other for a long time, he is typical redneck, short, gym type, awful clothes, and he is from her small town. He has hundreds of photos, disgusting selfies, a lot of likes, comments from many girls so you can see that he is very selfcentred and popular person.
    It looks like highschool sweathearts type of romance.

    Despite that I sent her sms after 2 or 3 day, i a middle of week.

    ME: Hey whats up, how are you? Its raining here ( I know, stupid message)
    SHE: Here also, I was doing ...... (nothing important written)
    ME: Hey I will be once again in the city for weekend, we could see each other
    SHE:But I am going home for weekend, I have some wedding

    This is the moment when my alarm went off. O wanted to end the misery and to clear the situation. I felt I was played and rejected one more time. So I sent her a message.

    ME: Oh thats a shame, we really dont have luck. Listen I dont wanna be boring. If you are not available or interested in seeinf feel free to tell me , that want change my opinion about you
    SHE: I love people, to hang around, to talk... . But at the same time I am always on a move, now I have this wedding I have to attend but I guess there will be new opportunity in future, see ya

    ME: You rejected me twice, you dont know to make XY meal (inside joke)... but I guess I will give you one more chance . I am in the city during weekends, I hope I see you soon, bye
    SHE: Lol , ok. Bye

    Listen, I know I made some mistakes, dont be harsh, neediness and being nice guy are my main problems, I know that but its not easy to change...
    My plan is to not text her anymore (7 days). Next time when I am in the city I will just call her and ask her out.
    But I am not sure if she is single, interested, does she realise I want to date her etc... Bolded part of message is confusing me, I dont need farking friend...

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    Default Re: Met a girl, need your opinion

    Also dealing with the same scenario. After doing some research and trial and error schedules are probably the hardest thing to get around. The girl I'm gaming has flaked on me at least twice. Haven' seen her in about 3 weeks now. We're still social. But I'm probably going to back off for the time being because I can't seem to get her to invest in seeing me as a priority.

    in regards to her being single--just keep assuming she is single even if she says she's seeing some guy. it might not be serious with the other guy. dont over react on anything negative. treat all of the bad news for you trying to get with her as in one ear and out another. human beings mirror emotions quite often--so if you get awkward, shes going to get awkward. if you're calm, quite and focused she will be too. i would suggest that only bring up the boyfriend IF it's relevant or if you really need to know and want to move on if she does. when you do find out you can pre-load her to get her to answer things the way you want them...

    Example..

    You: ...You know what I like about you, you're really friendly
    --This jolts her subconscious that she's already acting a certain way while complimenting her..
    You: (continue)... And you seem like an honest person
    --Now this continues what you just did while adding a 2nd subconscious trigger and more than likely she will be unable to lie or be unfriendly to whatever you have to say or ask in your next statement of intent
    You: how long have you been seeing him?
    --This will have her answer the question in two different ways both are honest and friendly because you've pre-loaded into her subconscious that she's already friendly and honest. Unlikely will she be mean and lying to you. If it's not serious she'll tell you with both body language and with her words--same if it was serious. this is a good safe way to ask about how serious things are if she's with some guy she might have just started seeing but isn't really attached to yet or she's about to break up with a guy... you never know--but with this you'll find out by pre-loading her subconscious.

    I'm really close to your situation dealing with a girl and through her flaking I've been able to find out a good amount of information while keeping our relationship playful by giving her a nickname which makes me stand out compared to other guys she might have in her life. I posted this in a separate thread but I have a feeling you'll need this to maybe spark her interest and keep you in mind while not sounding needy.

    So I stumbled onto something that I think would be great to share... I've been dealing with a flaky girl I'm gaming.. So here's the following conversation...

    Me: Hey Trouble, What's the weather report saying? The sun coming out this week being good to hang out or cloudy with the strong possibility of rain check? (then added sentence about details of why we were getting together)
    Her: Lol! I love love love how you put this... You probably hate hate hate me for the rain check :/ I sincerely apologize, we got back from our day trip (and then more excuses here..)
    --Next morning
    Me: Wow, talk about Trouble. Time to start tallying up all this bad girl behavior. Tempted to play the bored GF in the relationship leaving her boring BF. BUT I'll give you a chance to redeem yourself. Truth or dare?
    Her: Lol!!!! Truth
    Me: ...Truth: I'm assuming you've played this game before... Fack, Marry, Kill... So name 3 guys of the last 10 guys you've texted and tell me why.
    Her: Lol!!!
    Her: So it'd be-- (Insert names, sadly none of them were me.. which I'm sure I'll be able to shock and awe her next time I see her)

    (FYI--my dare was going to be.. Text me a picture that you would never share on FB or Instagram)

    ... So what I wanted to share here is that I turned a flaky situation into a game in which she was really responsive to. It might have been posted on this thread earlier BUT!!! I realized texting games can be really exciting for the girl to play. What I found interesting is that I ended up texting less and she texted more.. So for the hour or so that we were texting--SHE was more invested in the conversation that I was. Hopefully this will help you guys where I've been stuck all week.

    On a side note she's still flaky. Hahaha. I know that I failed in suggesting a day but I knew already this week was out of the question--I was really looking for a way to get her to think about me while sticking to a nickname I'm trying to build into her head--which I'm sure will help me k & f close.

    hopefully this will help you guys getting that girl to respond more and investing in your text game.
    Hopefully you wont make my mistake and close the game too early. I realized I should have kept it going so at any random time I'm thinking of her I could just text "Truth or Dare" in which she can pick one if she's bored. Girls love challenging games in which you can learn a lot about them.

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    Default Re: Met a girl, need your opinion

    Thanks for reply.
    You gave me some good advice. I am not that good at texting and I think its not good to text on a long run. I use text just to set up a date and then things start rolling and situation is much clearer.

    I texted this girl cause we are currently in different states, and its much cheaper for me to send her a text than to call , plus I wanted to be casual.
    I think I am really good 1 on 1, I can seduce a girl and I have no problem with confidence (I mean other dont notice my insecurities and doubts). Long texting somehow reveals them all, I just dont have nerves to wait hours for her response, then to postpone my reply, to analyze every single word and smiley.

    I think she is interested in me at some level, probably she is taken but I will go for it. I think she will accept going out when I call her, she will probably try to be friendly and its up to me to seduce her... I just need one shot, I need to act calmly on negative things (like you said) and gave my best effort, I must avoid nice guy trap but also to control my aggression and forced alpha behaviour

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    Default Re: Met a girl, need your opinion

    it sounds like you just need to establish a connection and with the distance keep that connection playful--a game will be best. something you guys can always pick up whenever you want where there are no time constraints. if done correctly you can build up a lot of emotion and sexual Tension. this way you guys never have to talk about the weather... i say this but i realized this WAYYYYYYY tooo late... so hopefully you can keep that game going.


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