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  1. #11
    callmeamackinprogress Guest

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    honestly, i hate online dating.
    never works for me..
    guess i suck at emailing women online.

    but i will admit! when you message a girl and she messages you back you have all the time (within reason) to respond.. so basically what i'm tryin to say is online dating does have a good side to it!

    you simply get practice at what to say to women in the real world.

    so yea, keep doin' what you're doin man!

  2. #12
    rezn8 Guest

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    I've tried several different things; being funny, compliments, super direct, absurd, you name it. There is no magic pill answer. The girls will look at your profile and thats what will make or break you. BTW, your pictures are more important than what you write. Even if you have only 2 or 3 really awesome pictures, thats way better than having 10 ordinary ones. So be super picky about your photos and try to be doing something noteworthy in them. I was telling a friend of mine, Online game is really, really superficial. For instance, I've heard guys that do exciting jobs, like firefighter, musician, jet pilot or lifeguard have good luck with these sites. Yeah, I know, go figure right? Both their pictures and their profiles demonstrate that they are 'a cut above' average joes.

    So the point is, you gotta stand out pretty big in order to make a splash.

    - Thats what I'm finding out anyways.

    Also, just a tip (for you and anyone else) throw your picture up on hotornot.com and see what rating you get. It should come as no surprise that the best rated pictures are the most superficial ones.


    http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/20...online-dating/
    Last edited by rezn8; 03-09-2010 at 11:42 AM.

  3. #13
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    Default Re: First message

    I agree. I did put my picture up on hotornot and have been hovering between 9.5-9.7 one thing i have noticed for sure is that the people rating those pictures have a terrible opinion of attractive. If a girl shows any skin everyone is smashing the 10 button even if she isnt pretty. Regardless, even with the same picture on the dating site as i have on hotornot i dont get too many responses. My messages are always different than the norm. I assume its part because I dont find many people im interested in and when i do they are 8-10s and must be flooded with mail.

    Overall my opinion of online dating is that it is pretty bad. Its a good way to test the waters without aa though.

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    It seems I have spent enough time sending every type of message possible that i have developed a pretty damn good first message. Its only a day in the making and i have been busy so i havent extensively tried it but im 2 for 2 out of the girls i messaged and they both got very excited about it. Cant decide if I should share this or not. :P

  5. #15
    rezn8 Guest

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    Quote Originally Posted by InTheMaking View Post
    Cant decide if I should share this or not. :P
    Please do. I've literally sent out over 70 + messages on match.com and I've only gotten back about 5 total replies. If I found a message that got good results, I'd share it. But personally I don't think there is any magic message that you can send them. I've tried suggestions from guys on other forums that tell me they have a high success rate, and still I got nothing.

    Let me even qualify and tell you that I have pretty decent pictures and a good profile to boot. Even if you do share it with me / us, I know I'm probably going to only try it about 5 or so times. I'll probably even modify it to fit me (if I need to). So don't worry, if you do share it, its not going to hit a critical mass and its not going to change the foundation of the PUA community.

    On another note, I got some info to share. I recently had a profile with text that was kind of funny and 'off the wall". Before that I did something that was a little more generic (just trying to 'fit in'). Neither of those worked very well. So recently I changed it up to where its now a bit more 'sultry', bold and mysterious. You can read it here on my plentyoffish profile if you want. Anyways, I'm getting more results with it. Not huge, extra ordinary results, but lots better than before. My conclusion is that whats key is good pictures and bold profile text.

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    Default Re: First message

    dont worry i probably will post it. I just am very busy this week because its finals week. If its still successful when i have a bigger sample size it will be up. As a side note though im not sure if it would work for everyone. Im talking to 18-22 yr olds. Seeing as you are more than 10 years older than me it may be different.

    oh and i like your "girls only look at photos anyway" line
    Last edited by InTheMaking; 03-16-2010 at 02:32 AM.

  7. #17
    pcassaw Guest

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    What's up guys, I'm new on here but have some experience with online dating. First off, I think the key to doing well online is to have a kick ass description of yourself. I basically took some time and read a bunch of girls profiles about what they are looking for and catered to that. I found that a lot of HB's love to travel, so I put up a bunch of photo's of me in various locations (I actually do travel a lot, so that def. helped.)

    Anyways onto my first message to the women, like some of the guys said before, I actually read the girls profiles and find little details that the majority of guys overlooked when they were just looking at the pictures. When you find these little details take some time and actually come up with good material to write about them. When I first email a girl, the email is long (not to the point where it's in excess, but just say "you have such a well written profile I feel like it really captures your personality." I never talk about myself I just talk about her little details and I never comment on looks etc. I typically neg. After they read my email they always check out my profile and always email me back. I had a girl recently thank me for writing an actual email, not just hey you're hot let's fuck. It seems to work for me, I've actually had extremely hot girls email me first just after reading my profile.

    Hope this helps.

  8. #18
    J-Rex Guest

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    Most decent to hot looking women get literally hundreds of mails every week on online dating sites. So yeah, being good looking or at least interesting looking helps.

    You have to grab their attention RIGHT AWAY with your message though. It's kinda a one shot deal. What is it that Mystery says about being the the exception to every other guy? Girls with cleavage shots, don't talk about their boobs etc. Closing is a bit tricky too. Too fast, and you're a creep who only wants sex, too slow and she loses interest. It's tough without Kino or any body language.

  9. #19
    Fakhry Guest

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    hey guys....i cant remember where i read this...but i read a good line to use when some hot chick adds you as a friend on facebook...something like ''hey..do i know you from somewhere? or are you just a porn star tryna do.......'' thats it...i cant remember the full line...been searching for hours


    any ideas guys? her request is still pending!! lol :P

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    you read it on here before. Thats one of crobs lines i think.


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