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    Default Opened some broad on FB and now....

    Progress made! Opened some chick with a random (confusing) opener and we had a 30 min convo last night of rapid fire messaging. I love that cuz I never pulled that off and usually get ignored.

    Either way I screwed up and jumped the gun too soon by asking her to hang out and got the dreaded "I have a BF" but I have been here before and I knew this chick was full of it. So I said the most random thing "2 minutes" and she said "Huh?" I said "Maybe we should just be friends?" She messaged me this morning we should be friends. I didn't send a friend request cuz I know that usually ruins things. She said she wasn't screwing with me and was 100% honest lol. Yeah she is 100% honest when supposedly has a BF and flirting with me but whatever. Either way I replied back but I have no idea how to proceed. Any suggestions?
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    Default Re: Opened some broad on FB and now....

    I would recommend against asking girls to meet up until you've built attraction.

    Reason being, you're less likely to encounter resistance.

    Just project a confident, fun vibe & keep flirting. Don't be in a rush to meet up.
    MOST guys try to push the "date" too soon, so when YOU hold back, she wonders why you haven't asked her out yet, and often times, SHE will begin suggesting the two of you get together.

    Patience is a powerful technique.


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    Default Re: Opened some broad on FB and now....

    at this point since you've already pulled the gun and now she's looking for a reply--i'd suggest you take a breather first.

    you have 2 things you can do and should continue to do... 1.. evaluate if she's worth sticking around for and 2.. if you can, don't get worked up over her friend zoning you or that she might have a BF. you can still be a way better guy around her which can challenge her state of mind. some social proof might really help your situation too.

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    Default Re: Opened some broad on FB and now....

    Hey T-Mal since Coach Corey Wayne said to "Ask a chick out" every time she shows responsiveness I figured it was good to go since we talked for half an hour. I just shouldn't have done that now that you helped point that out.

    And artandale she sent me a thumbs up and no response to my last message so I am just going to leave it be and not contact her again but if she contacts me we'll see since I am not going to play that game when they don't respond with more than one thing.

    So if that's what you are asking then she is an 8 but I guess she is not worth it to try anything further. I am just proud of myself for pulling that off. It's the craziest thing cuz I meet a girl somewhere in person and hit them up on FB and they block me or give the silent treatment for months. But how a complete random shows more responsiveness is quite weird. Anyway won't need to try anything with her but it was great while it lasted and at least I know where I need to improve. As Tyler would say "I guess I just didn't do well enough."
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    Default Re: Opened some broad on FB and now....

    don't over think it. you should be in the Mindset that everything is for your entertainment and you're really enjoying it. you could do with or with out these women because you're having a good time. sometimes for me it just feels good to be outside with the sun on my face. i dont need to talk to anyone--it just feels good. when i'm in a club i can easily just lose myself and just enjoy the music and have a good time even if everyone i'm with is talking to themselves and i'm kind of just zoned out. sure being social with everyone is great but it only really works in your favor if you're happy regardless of what the results are--you are not effected by the bad news if it comes your way--especially if the girl is dating some guy who for all you know might have a kid, he might be a terrible boyfriend, he might even be a scrub. you have to act like you are full of dhv but you're not there to outshine anyone.

    the more you act positively, the more she'll respond to it. you can still talk the girl. but if you're going to decide you're only looking for sex with new women in your life then be forward and tell her. if you can have 1 more female friend then do that. its all about choice. honestly in my opinion if there's one hot chick i can friendzone... that means i have access to her hot friends hahahahahaha!!!
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Opened some broad on FB and now....

    I don't understand why you backed off when she said she has a BF ?So 90% of the girls say that...

    Should have kept building more attraction/rapport,whatever was needed,she just basically told yo that she thinks it's too soon.

    Play around with her more and try again.

    If she brings up the boyfriend,play it off.

    Her : "My boyfriend wouldn't like that ... "

    You : "You're crazy."

    Her : "Oh he would love that ?"

    You : "He sounds like a nice guy..."

    Her : "Yes he is."

    You :"The kind of guy you would donate to charity"

    This is called testing the water,this is a joke,if she starts getting a bit touchy about this,she might really have a boyfriend,if not she will laugh at it.

    There are safer ways to do this too :

    Her : "I have a boyfriend"

    You : "How serious is it with this boyfriend of yours ?"
    You : "So serious that you wouldn't go for an ice cream with me ?"

    It's no different than any other excuse,treat it like one.

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    Default Re: Opened some broad on FB and now....

    HAHAH dude, that's gold... i love that lead in for 'charity' hahaha
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Opened some broad on FB and now....

    Oh it gets better. This broad is strait up on some D! And when I say D I mean you know THE D. Anyway this broad is crazy. I sent her a nice quaint message (White Knighting it up) and said "Hey you busy?" Well when you get the chance I want to ask you something." Yeah nothing malicious or anything and you guys SAID to not give up. Well I didn't and here is what she said and boy are you going to love this! "You must be on some tweak, go do something positive" WTF with a capital F. Took it serious and reamed her, then made a joke of it now she is just sitting there eating it up by not responding. She must get some kind of sick enjoyment out of my misery. Me the freaking GYM guy. I told you guys I worked out and here's why. I was secure in my body when she said this crap and I am on a cut and saw my shirtless pic of me cut as fark and I imagine she wants some monster man. Geez women you looking for the hulk or something? And they said I was a meathead dang I am still getting crap just cuz I have the wingspan of a flock of seagulls and it takes forever to fill up my wrists are going nowhere. That's bone structure not whether you work out or not.
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    Default Re: Opened some broad on FB and now....

    maybe it's just me but i think you screwed the pooch again. if you were going to message her you should have kept your cool and be friendly no matter how she responded.

    after she said "you must be on some tweak, go do something positive"... i think you should have replied with "that came out of left field, was just gonna get your opinion on something but i guess it's bad timing. maybe i'll ask when you're not upset. have a good day"

    you were right to be offended but you should have kept your cool. if she was Sh!tTesting you--you should have addressed it by being above it--not falling for it. my suggestion for a response is in the hopes that she corrects her frame. i bet there are other guys who would suggest lightening the mood but i don't like to address hostility when i'm trying to be nice. i like to put people under that weight of a moral compass--it makes them feel bad and crawl back to me.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.


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