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    Default What to do next with cute girl on bus???

    Ok, I will try to be short.

    I met one cute girl in a bus 2 weeks ago, we connected and spoke for hours during the whole trip. We exchanged numbers and started texting (sms and facebook) during following 2 weeks.

    She lives in another city which I visit almost every weekend, so its a long distance thing.

    Last Saturday I finally saw her, we went on a first date. Its was very good, I think she enjoyed my comnpany. We only had one hour to hang out but I think we connected even more, I let her know that I am interested in her, she didnt back off. In the end of date I asked her if she has a boyfriend, she said no and blushed, I also blushed and said something stupid out loud like "now I should try to act indiferent" . Thats the moment when she knew 100% that I am interested in her and she didnt backed up. While she was waiting for a bus to catch we were standing really close next to each other, we joked, I was planning out loud next seeing, she was smiling and acceptable etc. In the end I kissed her in a cheek very smoothly (didnt go for a real kiss cause it didnt feel natural, she seems like a shy girl plus it was a middle of day, crowded with people etc), she said something like see you again.

    Next morning I sent her a message, classic post-date message (it was great yesterday, blah blah, I am looking forward seeing you again).

    She replied after good 7-8 hours (I already thought she bailed >, I was nervous whole day).
    She said: Hi . Its nice, I am glad you enjoyed . Bye

    Then I wanted to cool thing down a little. She never ever sends message first, she always replies, we exchanged a bunch of messages but its always me who reaches first. So I dont want to be needy.
    I waited to days and then sent stupid message via facebook.

    ME: Hi , last time I forgot to tell you something very important.
    I think you are by far the prettiest clumsy person I know
    (she was the one who first called herself "clumsy" so I decided to make that a cute nick name, something unique; I also wanted with this message to step up and start more flirting)

    SHE: Thank you. But clumsy stay clumsy

    ME (unnessesery reply): I know a lot of clumsy person. So this was still a compliment

    She didnt replied, but this wasnt message worth replying. Anyway I sense I am becoming to available, needy etc. I think she might lose interest. I cant see her next weekend cause I will stay in my town, but I am planning to go there in weekend after this one.

    So what to do? Should I just keep her off the hook for next week? Its really hard for me to play it cool, but I think I must wait at least until the middle of next week and then try to call her on a second date. Knowing her, she is kind of shy, I dont think she will contact me in the meantime. But I dont care. I just need good inviting call for next date, it must be fun and original like first one was.

    Whats your opinion?

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    Default Re: What to do next with cute girl on bus???

    :/ you should have kissed her when she said she didn't have a boyfriend. you had her emotionally vulnerable and blushing--she was yours...

    nice intro on getting her to respond on FB--a little shaky but she responded nicely. in my opinon your reply to hers should not have been to continue to just joke--but to joke and introduce an idea of meeting up. i'm sure someone can think of something better but you should have responded with something like "its ok, i like a cute monkey throwing poo at a zoo. lol. speaking of which--i was going to monkey around at the mall. wanna go? i'll split a banana with you "

    obviously you can probably work something else shorter--but you need to make sure if she does respond that you're not focused on her flaws. acknowledge that she has by saying its ok even if you just said she had a false flaw. you need to tell her that you dont judge instead of beating the dead horse of a joke. once you've done that you need to some how transition to seeing her again. something that does not sound like a date even though she knows you're interested. dates have a lot of pressure and expectations. if you're just doing something you thought was fun and she understood and could really see your personality shes more than likely down to hang out and let you see how far you can get. and that my friends is how girls play the game... they all want to see how far you can get. let them worry about putting on the breaks. you just have to be actively present in what they're saying and doing.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: What to do next with cute girl on bus???

    So I shouldnt take the break? I wont contact her today cause I texted her yesterday, but should I wait one week to contact her (few days before date can happen) or should I continue to play the game, and how?
    I repeat I wont be able to see her before first weekend of June.

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    Default Re: What to do next with cute girl on bus???

    text her when its convenient--i wouldn't go crazy though. don't make it sound like you need her to talk to you. make it sound like you thought about her--something in your day reminded you of her. be sincere about it. the worst thing she can do is say buzz off. but more than likely she'll be nice and acknowledge you. thats when you can just say "hey, i was gonna goto XXXXX and do XXXX at XXXXX, wanna keep me company?" ...obviously you can word it so it fits your personality but just be a little more direct if you want. you have to decide what you're looking for and how you want to do it.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: What to do next with cute girl on bus???

    Yes I understand what are you saying but the thing is I cant propose new meeting 7 days ahead. I wont be in her city before June 6. Thats why I am not sure what to do. I have two options:
    1. To wait until day or two before visit, then contact her and try to set up a date
    2. Contact her in the meantime, to keep interaction going, to be involved in her life but in a fun and flirty way without falling in "nice, needy, available guy" trap.

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    Default Re: What to do next with cute girl on bus???

    umm.. what? you can plan ahead. you can build rapport before you both meet up via text... there is a 3rd option.. setup a meeting... you can continue to talk after the fact too. its really what you make of it.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.


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