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Thread: This one opens well but I still need help

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    Default This one opens well but I still need help

    Don't know where I heard this but it opens very well. Usually always get some kinda response but I need help transitioning. It usually ends with some kinda stupid cute joke. Need to find a way to transition to something else quickly. Any suggestions...

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    Default Re: This one opens well but I still need help

    Lets say we're in a relationship. I'm starving and you just get home from work or the gym, wherever… We decide to go out to eat. How long does it take you to get ready?

    A. 15-30 minutes, you look kinda cute and we're out the door.
    B. An hour, you look really cute and I'm not sure I want to go.
    C. Two hours, you look drop dead gorgeous and I can't take my eyes off you! We're not going… I starve to death but I guess that's okay because I'm way more interested in you anyway.

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    Default Re: This one opens well but I still need help

    try being direct, positive and being genuinely happy about giving someone a compliment with a great energy behind it all. from being direct you show interest in wanting to know her already. you could then transition to topics about what she finds interesting in her life or what kind of dreams or goals she's got. sometimes simpler is better.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: This one opens well but I still need help

    I would avoid using the word "relationship" right off the bat.
    However; the "future projection" technique does work pretty well.

    I had success by sending quick little messages making a small cold read of sorts, by making assumptions about her... saying something like she seems spunky/sassy & I detect a good mix of class & sophistication & nerdiness.

    That usually got a reply.

    Then I would keep the interaction light & playful. Using a bit of teasing/razzing & making another assumption of her being adventurous.

    After a few exchanges I would throw out the future projection.. and say something like, "OK, you & I are going to Fiji & live in a hit on the beach & sell t-shirts. You'll be the model, I'll be the salesman & together we'll make millions!"

    The more far-fetched / over the top you make it, the more likely she is to play along. Thus, getting her to start complying & agreeing with you. This is helpful because it gets her in the Mindset of saying "yes" to you, rather than resisting... so when you suggest a meet up, you'll have more success & fewer rejections.


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    Default Re: This one opens well but I still need help

    You heard that opener from Bravo's 21 convention talk, usually i go with "SUPER SERIOUS QUESTION: Are you the type of girl that spends ages on her hair and make-up? Or does it just look like that naturally?"
    Then follow with what you've got up top, if she's cool she'll understand the humour and you can transition before qualifying and getting her number

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    Default Re: This one opens well but I still need help

    Thanks T-Mal and Richghostt. Yeah I get you on the relationship thing. And Richghostt that opener sounds like gold. I won't rip it off but I might use it a time or two.

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    Default Re: This one opens well but I still need help

    The key to a successful online opener is to stand out from every other dude emailing her.

    I made a thread in the Online Dating section about what NOT to do.
    It's called "T-Mal says, don't do this"

    But here's an idea you're welcome to try:

    The next girl you message, send her something like "Your picture smells funny.... oh wait, it's just my computer. Nevermind. I'm sure it smells delightful. Hope your day is full of awesomeness. "

    It's totally random & off the wall... the kind of thing that nobody else is gonna be sending her & is very likely to get her to reply back.

    That's the kind of stuff I experimented with when I was testing & trying them out. (And I had insane success.)

    Then, I would continue the fun, random vibe with the interaction, rather than start having a "conversation".
    No girl wants t talk about school, or work, or anything that might seem like a job interview.
    That's where most guys go wrong.

    They think if they can get talking about that stuff, they can build rapport & she'll be hooked... but that's not the case.

    You have to build attraction first... through flirting.
    BUT... getting the reply is the first step.


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    Default Re: This one opens well but I still need help

    Awesome! Thanks T-Mal, I really appreciate the help.

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    Default Re: This one opens well but I still need help

    T-Mal, I may shamelessly steal that for Tinder. Shame. Less. Ly.

    Haha jk I'll change it up a bit and make it my own, but it's effing gold.


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