I'm trying to figure out if I should be calling out flakiness in girls I'm trying to hook up with and in friends who are girls.
Example: I text a girl if she wants to grab some food. Or I text a girl what bar she's at when we had plans to hang out. And she either just doesn't respond or takes forever (like multiple hours). This happens with both a girl I'm trying to sleep with or with a girl I'm just friends with.
Now on the one hand I don't want to get all pissy because it will lower my value like hanging out with her was the epitome of my evening and it was ruined without her because I didn't have anything better to do. (very low value)
Yet I also don't want to just ignore it if it's occurring repetitively because then I'm almost falling into her shit test, like you don't have to respect me enough as a friend and don't have to be there for me like I am for you kind of thing. So I guess I'm not sure how to handle that situation?
Also, (sorry long multiple question post if you still reading) it seems impossible to make girls want to hang out with me as friends. Like is there some unwritten rule that if a girl isn't sleeping with you she can't be the first one to text to do something. I have a fair amount of female friends now, and I go out to eat with them, I invite them to parties I hold and bars and w/e, and on the rare occasion they hold parties then invite me. But only girls I'm currently sleeping with make any effort to hang out with me. Girls I used to sleep with or are just friends I have to ask to do stuff with and even then they can be flaky as addressed above. To me it just seems very counter-intuitive from a friend stand point. My guy friends text me to do stuff as I do to them. And that's something I just want in friends, I like reliable real friends regardless of their gender or how hot they are. So am I doing something wrong, am I not being interesting enough to women as simply a friend or is this just how it works? I want to get to that standard where my female friends are hooking me up with there friends and where if I have a party at my place I can guarantee 20 hot girls are going to come and give me amazing social proof, so what am I missing?
Thanks in advance